🙏🙏🙏 On Thu, 7 Sept 2023 at 19:59, Chittanandam V R <[email protected]> wrote:
> *Dear Shri Rangarajan,* > > *What an agonising moment you would have had.* > > *Chittanandam* > > On Thu, Sep 7, 2023 at 7:55 PM Rangarajan T.N.C. <[email protected]> > wrote: > >> I once visited a friend of a friend in Mizoram. There was a mound in the >> side of the drawing room. Not knowing the significance I observed that the >> floor was not level and that gentleman solemnly said that his martyred son >> was sleeping there. >> >> On Thursday, 7 September, 2023 at 07:24:49 pm IST, Rajaram Krishnamurthy < >> [email protected]> wrote: >> >> >> >> *Lonely Life of Parents of a Martyred Son!* >> >> >> Last week, my hubby and I decided to visit an old friend of my dad living >> in Delhi. He is a retired officer from the Indian army. Very fine couple, >> well spoken, very well read and widely traveled! They had a son who they >> lost during the Kargil war, but they never show any trace of Pain on their >> face. >> >> On the face of it, everything appears lovely, but the deep set of >> wrinkles on aunty’s face tell a different tale altogether. Countless jokes >> from uncle, humor packed texture of his conversation, does a brilliant job >> camouflaging their Pain with grace, dignity and elegance. We had a >> wonderful time being with them. Since they are old associates of my dad, my >> hubby who is also serving the Indian Army, also had a gala time. Uncle and >> aunty told some very funny, real life incidents of their Army Life. >> >> Soon, their caretaker served us tea and with each simmering sip, came >> an even more interesting chain of events from my uncle's well preserved >> memory bank. I was wondering how they could talk endlessly, without a pause. >> >> After we were done with tea, I got up to collect all the cups and the >> other things to keep in a tray so that I could keep those back in the >> kitchen. But I was stopped by a very authoritative and stern voice ”Noo, >> Please do not move those cups from there.” >> >> I was astounded by his reaction, was taken aback and looked at aunty >> if I had ruffled his feathers by any action of mine. My heart was in my >> mouth, literally. But then, Aunty looked at uncle and said softly "Tussi >> bhi naa, Bacche nu dara hi ditta. Thora aram naal bhi keh sakde ho.” ("You >> scared the child. Could have said it more softly"). >> >> Uncle realised the sudden change in his voice and very sweetly he sat >> next to me, held my hand and what he spoke after that, made me cry from >> within. It was so painful, simple, yet so profound. >> >> Softly he spoke "Beta ji...in cups ko aise hee rehne do, subah tak >> nahi uthayenge. Kuchh toh ehsaas hoga ki zindagi yahan aayi thi. ("My >> loving daughter, please leave these cups like that only, will not remove >> them till morning. We also should have the feeling that LIFE had come here.). >> The house always remains spic n span, nothing is moved or disturbed and is >> kept as it is. Ham taras jaate hain ki koi toh ghar ko ganda karne wala ho >> ("We long for someone to come to our house and make it dirty). So let the >> cups stay that way. We will cherish the sight of it and promise me that you >> will visit us again with your sons.” >> >> All I could do was to hug him and assure him to be back with my sons. >> I like my house to be neatly organised and make sure my boys follow suit >> too, but my younger one still believes in living like a caveman. So, as >> usual, when I was lecturing him today after seeing the plight of his room, >> I got reminded of this episode and suddenly, I stopped lecturing him and >> gave him a suffocating hug leaving him confused to the core. >> >> I think, taking out an hour in a month to visit your Parents, Old >> relatives or Old friends, doesn’t cost us an arm and a leg. All it takes is >> a few stolen minutes from our lives. >> >> PAIN is known only by the One who has it. A little Kindness, Caring, >> Sympathetic Attitude & Empathy, shall only add to your own HAPPINESS, >> PEACE, SATISFACTION & sense of WELL BEING. KR IRS 7923 as recd >> >> -- >> You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups >> "Thatha_Patty" group. >> To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an >> email to [email protected]. >> To view this discussion on the web visit >> https://groups.google.com/d/msgid/thatha_patty/CAL5XZoqGyxRGtJGA%3DeB3i8yfHfHkhtQeiRDQi8cwgknoRQeBnw%40mail.gmail.com >> <https://groups.google.com/d/msgid/thatha_patty/CAL5XZoqGyxRGtJGA%3DeB3i8yfHfHkhtQeiRDQi8cwgknoRQeBnw%40mail.gmail.com?utm_medium=email&utm_source=footer> >> . >> > -- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "Thatha_Patty" group. To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an email to [email protected]. To view this discussion on the web visit https://groups.google.com/d/msgid/thatha_patty/CAL5XZopYtRPmNGOp_5gy0zyXiOV1Ak5s_7F9rF29f1Zzz3fJoA%40mail.gmail.com.
