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Thanks. I am reminded of the following: Quote on Fear by Roosevelt: " All we have to fear is fear itself". Thiruvalluvar says It is foolishness not to fear what needs to be feared at and fear what should not be feared. " Anjuvathu Anjamai .......". One explanation I heard is that we should be fearful of the consequences of bad, evil actions so will not commit those actions, fearing the consequences. On the fear of Death a saying goes thus: "So long as we are alive, there is no need to fear death because we are alive But Once we die, we will not fear death as we are already dead" Or words to that effect. Fear acts as a moral check sometimes. N Sekar Sent from Yahoo Mail on Android <https://mail.onelink.me/107872968?pid=nativeplacement&c=Global_Acquisition_YMktg_315_Internal_EmailSignature&af_sub1=Acquisition&af_sub2=Global_YMktg&af_sub3=&af_sub4=100000604&af_sub5=EmailSignature__Static_> ----- Forwarded Message ----- *From:* "venkat giri" <[email protected]> *To:* "Rajaram Krishnamurthi" <[email protected]>, "ARR" < [email protected]>, "YM - markandeya101091" < [email protected]>, "Yeddanapudi Markandeyulu" < [email protected]>, "SRIRAMAJAYAM" <[email protected]>, "Sridhar Srinivasan(Sanadhana Gmail)" <[email protected]>, "gopala krishnan" <[email protected]>, "Chittanandam V R" <[email protected]>, "N. Sekar" <[email protected]>, "Jambunathan Iyer" <[email protected]> *Cc:* *Sent:* Wed, Dec 20, 2023 at 9:16 AM *Subject:* Re: Thought for the Day 20th Dec 2023 Respected Sir/s, “The *FEAR *in our mind is more dangerous than the Tiger in the Forest.” Fear of death may be the most primal human fear, *one we all experience differently.* * People who are older, in committed relationships, physically healthy, and either very religious or not religious at all; tend to be less afraid of death. **When the fear of death becomes extreme and life-disrupting, by far the most effective remedy is cognitive behavioural therapy.* *We live two lives: we live life in our thoughts and we live life as our experience of the present moment.* *We developed the ability to think abstractly only about 70,000 – 95,000 years ago*. Apparently the part of life we live **“in our head”* *today simply did not exist before that time**, and instead human life **was solely a series of **immediate experiences, like the lives of other creatures**.* * Abstract thinking has certainly improved the human condition but it has also created some serious problems. **Stress accounts for over 60% of doctor visits and much of that stress results from people continually thinking and worrying about the past and the future. **Often we literally “are not here” but instead are “in our head” thinking and worrying.* *It appears that **meditation** and other practices were originally developed as ways to help maintain a healthy balance of the life we live “in our head” and the life we live as immediate experiences.* * The biggest problem that arose from our development of abstract thinking was **worrying about death,** which can trigger intense and sometimes **debilitating FEAR.** To manage that fear we long ago developed replacement, more positive abstract thoughts such as **eternal life, salvation, liberation, and reincarnation; and we developed religions and spiritualties to manage those ideas.* *There is not a single person on earth who died and came back to life ; can ....tell..... us what happens after death - it is something we each find out at the time of death*. *If ONE fears death **all life,* *one **will fail to live fully and enjoy however much life one get on this earth.* FEAR of or anxiety over death and dying is natural and pretty common. Everybody has feared death to a certain extent. For some people, *the fear can even push them towards living healthier or becoming more hygienic*. Fear of death only becomes a problem when it begins to interfere with one’s life and wellbeing. *Thanatophobia* is an intense fear of death or the dying process. While it's natural to feel anxious about death from time to time, *thanatophobia is an anxiety disorder that can disrupt every aspect of one’s life.* *FEAR *of death is a *phobia*, and like other phobias it does have a special name: *Thanatophobia.* *FEAR* becomes so invasive and oppressive that it keeps ONE from enjoying the time *one has*? Fear of death may affect us at any time, *but it tends to receive the most attention for the population of people at retirement age, or around 65,* who are beginning to reflect on achievements, disappointments and their life trajectories. Terminally ill individuals of all ages may also experience a form of modified thanatophobia. *FEAR* of death is normal to an extent, but a fear of death is characteristically more debilitating in people who are overwhelmed by it, and suffer from a mental health disorder like panic disorder, anxiety, depressive disorders and hypochondriasis. Why We Fear Death? We don’t have a great picture of why some people experience debilitating death anxiety and why others don’t*, but there’s a fair amount of research showing that certain people are more likely to deal with dread of death in their lifetimes.* People who are retired, elderly or terminally ill are common groups affected by the fear of death. It’s fair to assume that this is because for these groups, the fear of death may represent a more acute, immediate and quantifiable “end” than for those who don’t have an expectation that death is just around the corner. But death anxiety also tends to affect some people more severely, based on a variety of mental health factors. Fear of death may more intensely affect people who are experiencing mental disorders or who may be dealing with the following: · Poor health · Low self-esteem · Lack of fighting spirit · Lack of religious beliefs · Lack of intimacy in relationships · Lack of fulfilment FEAR of death can more adversely affect people who are anxious or depressed, or who are dealing with unresolved distress, psychologically or physically. Interestingly, people adjacent to those who are elderly or terminally ill also can develop a fear of death more frequently. A 2010 report showed that death anxiety could not only impact patients suffering from terminal diseases like AIDS and advanced cancer, but it could also affect family caregivers. In fact, the caregivers showed symptoms of death anxiety similar to those dying from illness. That said, the symptoms of death anxiety felt by the terminally ill were measurably greater. Online counselling IS the best way…. to try counselling *When Fear of Death Gets Out of Control* Like almost any other type of anxiety, fear-of-death anxiety gets out of control when it begins to negatively impact our daily function. A person who experiences fear of death at an out-of-control level may experience intensely negative feelings of panic, worry, unease and uncertainty with regards to their thoughts about death. These feelings may lead to one or more tell-tale symptoms of anxiety such as: insomnia, stomach issues, mood swings, irritability, fatigue, difficulty concentrating and even some miscellaneous aches. If one is becoming negatively impacted by fear of death, one might be dealing with anxiety about death — and getting mental health treatment may be a beneficial decision to make. Overcoming Fear of Death: How to Treat Death Anxiety Dealing with death anxiety is a complicated process, whether one is terminally ill or not. Mortality is a hard topic to grapple with, whether one is healthy or not. If the fear of death overwhelms, seeking out standard treatments for anxiety, professional help, or learning healthy coping mechanisms can be the ticket to relief and control over these emotions. That said, here are nine ways to help manage your fear of death: 1. Exercise Studies show exercise can help in the management of anxiety. It may also help our body stay healthier for longer, which can increase life expectancy. 2. Meditation The inevitability of death has been a cornerstone topic for many religious and spiritual philosophies, and it’s no *WONDER *that a search for peace has led in many cases to meditation practices. Meditation is a great way to employ breathing techniques and other tools to quiet those intrusive thoughts about death over time. 3. Talk Therapy and Support If inevitable death is THE source of anxiety, talk to someone about it. A therapist or close friends and family are great resources when one is having these feelings, and someone trustworthy can be a great person to air these thoughts to in a safe and healthy, supportive environment. 4. Change Habits Exploring what triggers our thoughts about death and how one ends up having those thoughts *can be a great way to notice patterns and avoid future anxious thoughts*. It may not make sense to avoid these triggers altogether, but knowing they exist will give one more agency when they occur in the future. 5. Learn to Spot While Getting Anxious Even if one can’t prevent triggers from resulting into an anxious spiral, being able to recognize the signs of anxiety in our own daily life can help to spot attacks *earlier* *and learn to temper those feelings with coping strategies.* 6. Exposure Therapy Take this for example: Spending time with spiders is a great way to address one’s fear of spiders. So when it comes to death, learning to be comfortable in the discomfort is the same thing. Exposure to death doesn’t have to look like a near-death experience. Whether it’s conversations about death or the afterlife, visualizing the aftermath of a funeral, or just talking about a terminal diagnosis, exposure might be the solution to quell anxious thoughts. 7. Seek Professional Support Getting help for anxiety may take one of many forms, but it all starts with a conversation with a healthcare professional about the symptoms. Talk to healthcare provider or ask them for a referral. 8. Get Therapy Seeking professional support may be directed to the path of psychotherapy. Therapy for anxiety is common these days, and one popular form is cognitive behavioural therapy or CBT. CBT is a system that teaches one how to identify and ultimately begin regulating anxious patterns of thought, and it can work for death anxiety just like with any other kind of anxiety. 9. Consider Medication Generalized anxiety disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder, panic disorder and other forms of anxiety are effectively treated with the category of medications *commonly referred to as antidepressants. * As with depressive disorders, these medications help our brain better regulate our mood by affecting certain *neurotransmitters*, and they’re really effective at it, to the point that they’ve become a go-to solution for anxiety. One might be prescribed selective *serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs)* as they’re considered the safest and effective medications for anxiety on the market today. ------ Regards V.Sridharan Trichy On Wednesday, 20 December, 2023 at 04:39:25 am IST, Jambunathan Iyer < [email protected]> wrote: Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. 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