Sit back and do not require everything etc; It’s a LPT quote; and told
by a Hollywood actor. So many quotes we see in the web sites are irrelevant
to life, but said, under certain circumstances, which gives a mirage of
befitting meaning. People who are watching films do so. So who one can SIT
BACK? AS CEO, AS RETIRED, AS KNOWING NOTHING, AS PERPLEXED. And what can or
need to say about anything? This could fit and advised not to react,
thinking turkeys are also peas-cocks. These are views of so many people
about the quote which would reveal how erroneous it is. A person
explained, why every one shall quiz why the cups are brown; face is red; so
on and so forth revealing the lack of interest , thinking it as knowhow; so
they shall sit back and watch.
I tend to try and think before I talk. This has seemed to have
the effect of making people think I am upset or think they are lowballing
or lying to me. Then before I even talk, they move their position to
something more favourable to me. People give away so much info if I just
take 2 seconds longer to respond than they think I should. "If there were a
little more silence, if we all kept quiet…maybe we could understand
something." Maybe not a verbal answer, but I definitely give a lot of
gestures or physical answers like a thumbs up, or a hug. And you don’t need
a strong — or any — opinion on everything. Like, consider how little you
can know what colour your coffee mug is. Now imagine someone who has an
issue and MUST drink from a red cup or something. Seems silly, right?
{!!!???].(Q&A). That’s a tough one! I would start by identifying things —
like the colour of your morning coffee cup or something — that you honestly
do not give two shits about. Notice when that happens and what it feels
like when you don’t get, like, the colour mug you thought you would.
Generally, this feeling is like, “yeah, so what?” And you effortlessly move
on to the rest of your life. Then find something about which you care the
tiniest amount but could easily not care. Maybe, whether you use a little
spoon or big spoon for cereal. They both are fine but one is the tiniest
bit more comfortable. Use this as practice to cultivate the same “so what?”
(or whatever) mindset you had for the first thing above. Then slowly build
up. The trick is to catch yourself having an opinion somewhere and then
actively releasing it to get back to not minding. As for the impulse to
“fix” things for others, I’ve found that so often, the person wants
emotional validation (for example, validating their feelings about whatever
went wrong), and once they have that validation, they will be ready to
apply a fix of whatever nature. For so many years of their lives, most
girls/women have been told their feelings don’t matter or are probably
wrong, so having feelings validated by someone is a tremendous thing and
makes it SO much easier to actually address a problem, and determine how
much future emotion to devote to it, etc. Just jumping to the fix, is
bypassing this important thing, in such cases.
So, one may sit back at leisure, only when he has everything so big;
or knows nothing; or in the modality of chit-chat gossip, where all shall
speak; so close your mouth and open your ears. “When something is important
enough, you do it even if the odds are not in your favour. Life is too
short for long-term grudges. I'd rather be optimistic and wrong than
pessimistic and right.” {ELON MUSK CEO).
SO WHAT IT DOES MEAN? When we’re in reaction-mode to life’s
challenges, we aren’t in control. We react in ways that are not in tune
with how we want to be. Learning to navigate our triggers not only enables
us to take back control and enjoy life more, it has an amazing trickle-down
effect to those around us too. It better connects us in our relationships
and models for others or our children what it looks like to be gracefully
resilient so those in our circles can mimic the same. So, what does it look
like to react in anger? Someone at work criticizes you and you instantly
get defensive. Your partner asks you to do something when you clearly have
your hands full, so you immediately get pissed. Plans change unexpectedly,
and you panic or get irritated. Someone in your life is controlling or
manipulative, so you either get scared and shut down, or feel livid and
lash out. Someone does something that goes against your core values like
being mean or inconsiderate or lying, and you explode. It can also mean
reacting to your own thoughts or actions and getting angry with yourself
for “doing it again,” being lazy, or failing. And all that leads to feeling
guilty for saying things you don’t really mean or making a mountain out of
a molehill, or maybe even rehashing past events. It can lead you to beat
yourself up again for how you handled things in the past. And it can leave
you feeling misunderstood because you recognize that your reaction stems
from something deeper than this one incident; a culmination of events, or
some underlying fear created this trigger for you. So in humiliations,
better not to react and you do not react, how to show it, that one is not
going to react? sit back and relax. Anger is to be avoided.
Tirukkural said” YAKAVARAAYINUM NA KAKKA; KAAVAAKKAAL, SOGAPPAR SOL
IZHUKKUP PATTU, meaning, in situations warranting anger, safe guard thy
tongue, since, that will bring you only disrepute; so, do not react; but
Rowdram is different. ROWDRAM IS LIKE IMPEDANCE MANAGEMENT; how the
impedance is overcome? One such technique is to insert a matched attenuator
in front of a mismatched load impedance. The mismatch observed at the input
of the attenuator is improved by an amount equal to twice the value of the
attenuator. ANJUVATHU ANJAMAI PETHAMAI means what shall be feared must be;
its corollary is reverse; ONE SHALL NOT BE AFRAID OF, WHERE HE HAS TO GO
FORWARD WITH THE ROUDRAM TO REDEEM. Hence TAGORE recited,” WHERE THE MIND
IS WITHOUT FEAR” Punch dialogues do not become a quote hence it is from
ANONYMOUS and appearing with a Hollywood actor. K RAJARAM IRS 291223
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From: 'venkat giri' via iyer123 <[email protected]>
Date: Thu, 28 Dec 2023 at 21:00
Subject: [iyer123] Re: [KeralaIyers] Fwd - Quote- Let us remember every
action has an equal and opposite reaction
To: Iyer <[email protected]>, Kerala Iyer <
[email protected]>, Rangarajan T.N.C. <[email protected]>,
Chittanandam V. R. <[email protected]>, Mathangi K. Kumar <
[email protected]>, APS Mani <[email protected]>, Gopala Krishnan <
[email protected]>, Yeddanapudi Markandeyulu <[email protected]>,
Jambunathan Iyer <[email protected]>
*Respected Sir/s,*
* LEARNING TO SITBACK and OBSERVE is a valuable skill that
can help one gain insight, make better decisions, and reduce stress. It
involves becoming more mindful and aware of your surroundings, thoughts,
and emotions.*
*One learns nothing from life on thinking that one is ALWAYS
RIGHT...all.... the ...TIME *– *Anonymous *
*Actually, there is a saying that we have two ears and one mouth. Thus, we
should speak less and listen more. Only by listening to others, we can
learn something new, something more informative then what we already know.
If one always thinks that he is correct and just speak out views to
everyone and every time, that results in only what one knows. Whereas if
we listen to others, we may may get struck upon something new. Our life is
the greatest teacher, and we should enthusiastically try to learn from it
every time. It should be kept in mind that life isn’t difficult, but it is
tricky. In order to be successful, it is not possible to experience
everything alone. We should also try to listen to others and not repeat the
mistakes that they had committed in their past. It should be kept in mind
that there cannot be any true understanding of the present without the
knowledge of the past. Our pasts actually define us. We must try to always
listen to our elders and keep their valuable advice in mind before pursuing
anything in our own lives. This will not only save us from pitfalls but
also give some much-needed boost to achieve our dreams and also achieve
them in the shortest time possible. Time plays an important factor in
determining how successful any individual is actually in his or her
lifetime. Success comes only when efforts and intelligence combine along
with strategic experience to yield a masterstroke. Life is to be lived, and
we should try to make the best possible use of our time as our stay on this
planet is short-lived, and we should continuously make efforts to build our
Empire. One should always view the process of learning as an enjoyable and
fascinating experience. Learning from life or in other words learning from
our own life can actually give us significant lessons for our lifetime and
prove to be most beneficial. Life doesn’t work the way it seems. It should
be noted that struggle is an important factor in order to be successful,
and one must be humble to acknowledge their mistakes and enjoy the process
of learning and evolution.*
*Less written is better*
*Regards*
*V.Sridharan*
*Trichy*
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