INFLUENCING IS ONE WAY OR MUTUAL
Control over our lives is something we all want. But in a universe in which
everything is mutually interdependent, none of us has absolute control over
anything except ourselves (and even over ourselves our control is indirect
and partial only). Instead, what we all have in abundance is influence, the
power of which seems to function linearly: the closer personally and
physically others are to us, the greater our influence over them, and vice
versa. Even more interestingly, unlike our attempts to control, our
attempts to influence don't require our conscious intent. Which is why our
ability to influence others is so much more important that our ability to
control them: we're always exerting influence simply by being who we are,
saying what we say, and doing what we do. The only real choice we have in
the matter is whether or not the influence we exert is good or bad.
This is what we all really want to do, both for ourselves and others.
The better influences with which we surround ourselves, the happier we'll
be; the more people we "convert" into good influences (by our own good
influence), the more value we will have created, which will also add to our
happiness. Yet converting someone from a bad influence into a good one is
among the hardest of tasks: changing someone's basic approach to life from
negative to positive isn't likely something any one person has the power to
do. At least, not consistently. The only way, it seems to me, to turn a bad
influence into a good one is by consistently being a powerful good
influence yourself. Which, of course, requires you to challenge your own
negativity and constantly win over it, and that is the hardest of tasks.
And also, the most worthwhile. I can think of no better epitaph than
"He helped others to better themselves." If that's what they end up saying
about me, I will have been able to consider my life a success. It's
certainly what I'm going to say about my dad.
Ok all went well; all we/are/ will be good; positive frame of mind;
achieved so many but were there not failures too? Why? Can there be a
better teacher or a guide than Lord Krishna, advising, guiding, avoiding,
sparing SISUPALA? Even there were 107 chances at the end also. Why
Sisupala like do not change at all. Why they are not at all in good
company?
Effective communication is a connection between people that allows
for the exchange of thoughts, feelings, and ideas, and leads to mutual
understanding. This exchange is evidenced when a speaker sends a message to
which a listener responds. It seems simple, but it isn’t. People tend to
take the communication process for granted. We generally figure that the
communication between two or more people is no big deal. It just works.
However, the reality is very different—the process of communication is
actually impressively complex.
1. The message sent is not necessarily the message received.
We often assume that just because we said something (or thought or intended
something) that when another person doesn’t understand what we mean, it’s
their fault. After all, the person who sends the message knows exactly what
he or she meant. However, what the person on the receiving end of the
message hears and understands may be quite different. In contrast to being
anyone’s “fault,” this is simply one of the ways the communication process
can go off track.
2. It is impossible to not communicate.
All actions—both intentional and unintentional—communicate certain
messages. For example, deliberately ignoring someone is not “not
communicating.” Quite the contrary (as you know if you’ve been on the
receiving end), this action sends a strong message. Moreover, verbal
communication (the words used) is only one part of the larger communication
process that includes body language, facial expression, tone of voice, and
voice volume.
3. Every message has both content and feeling.
Every message consists of content and feeling. The content is what the
message is about based on the words used. The feeling connected to the
content is expressed through nonverbal cues—body language, gestures, facial
expression, tone of voice, inflection, and voice volume.
4. Nonverbal cues are more believable than verbal cues.
Whenever there is a discrepancy between the content (verbal) and feeling
(nonverbal) of a message, the person on the receiving end will almost
always give more weight to the feeling. In other words, if the words a
speaker uses don’t match up with his or her tone of voice, facial
expression, body language, and other nonverbal cues, the listener will pay
more attention to and believe the nonverbal behaviour.
5 Azhukaru, ava, veguli, inna - Envy, greed, anger and insulting
others whosoever they may be attitude are all such will only pull down the
good communications.
6 And finally the Karma and DNA cannot alter even an iota of change in such
stubborn characters. K Rajaram IRS 5724 6724
On Fri, 5 Jul 2024 at 18:03, Jambunathan Iyer <[email protected]> wrote:
> Positive people influence your thinking in a good way and promote healthy
> habits. Surrounding yourself with positive people and staying in a positive
> environment can enhance your happiness and reduce your stress and anxiety.
>
> N Jambunathan Rengarajapuram-Kodambakkam-Chennai-Mob:9176159004
>
> *" What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you
> become by achieving your goals. If you want to live a happy life, tie it to
> a goal, not to people or things "*
>
>
--
You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups
"Thatha_Patty" group.
To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an email
to [email protected].
To view this discussion on the web visit
https://groups.google.com/d/msgid/thatha_patty/CAL5XZordW__xR9Tad%2BP8TmDP7Ub5PGuYGc6i9ZM7PqDi7hPmRA%40mail.gmail.com.
