The western style is so hilarious . Family is not division. There will be disputes and displeasures in any family either as a joint or only where daughter or daughter in law lives. Giving in marriage or getting one into marriage is only to lead a life of peace and happiness. For your style of life, instead of giving in marriage or getting one married, we can ask the couples to live as live-in-together. At Least your son and son in law will be happier and will visit their parents regularly. After the parent's demise, even at 50 they can marry and get legal status for children. This can continue forever. Parent is not a visitor or burden. Daughter in law if she refrains from seeing her parents (200% is not at all feasible) well your son and son in law can live separately. And you are talking about 20% rich parents of any nation who can lead an independent life and what about the 80%? Even among the 20% 90% would like to see their grandchildren and their blood for a share in time; should those write off the desire?; and will it be nice that Birla's parents place all the properties to charity and the son will not go to court? Daughter in law and her parents will be the first to advise her? So life is not living as an island. Life is not - NOT GIVING GENUINE SPACE. Life is an adjustment which the little girl must learn ,not by living together with her lovers, but staying put in all environments as she would with her background. There are extreme ends and exceptions in marriages; there as parents we must decide not to offend their son and so refrain and live even in duress as that is their Karma. So in Family life LET THEM EACH FAMILY DECIDE; AFTER ALL WHAT DID YOU DO WHEN YOUR BOSS WAS SCREAMING AT U? Selfishness will derange the minds; selflessness will focus over the space; if you would take your daughter shouting lightly, why not that of the incoming daughter, as you are elder to her? Selflessness is like gold and learnt only after going through the fire. KR IRS 28824
On Wed, 28 Aug 2024 at 00:12, APS Mani <[email protected]> wrote: > Hilarious, true!! > > On Wed, Aug 28, 2024 at 8:37 AM 'venkat giri' via iyer123 < > [email protected]> wrote: > >> *Respected Sir/s,* >> >> *SUBJECT:** “**FAMILY LIFE**”* >> >> * in this DIGITAL AGE* >> >> *You, your son, daughter-in-law* >> >> *- **Where is the joy?* >> >> *1. Do not let your son and his wife live in the same house with you.* >> >> * It will better to rent a house and keep a >> separate house. Getting a separate house is their problem. The more >> distance between you and your children's families, the better your >> relationship will be.* >> >> *2. Treat your son's wife as his wife and not as your own daughter.* >> >> *May be to treat her as a friend. Your son will >> always be your son, but if he ever scolds his wife for thinking she is in >> the same mood, she will remember it for the rest of her life. **In real >> life, only her own mother would consider her worthy of reprimand or >> correction, not you.* >> >> *3. Your daughter-in-law's habits or traits are not your problem.* >> >> * Your daughter-in-law's qualities are your son's problem. >> This is not your problem as he needs to fix them for maturity. Don't try to >> fix it. It will cause a rift between you and your son.* >> >> *4. **Even when living together, keep your boundaries clear.* >> >> * You don't wash their clothes, you don't cook for them, and >> you don't give love to their children. **Don't try to maintain them.** >> Most importantly, don't worry too much about your son's family problems. >> Let them solve their problems themselves.* >> >> *5. **It is very important that your son and his wife pretend to be >> blind and deaf when they fight.* >> >> *It's true that young couples don't like parents poking their noses in >> between a bickering and bickering spouse.* >> >> *6. **Your daughter-in-law does not need to respect and serve you.* >> >> * This is your son's duty. In order for your >> relationship with your daughter-in-law to be better, you should have taught >> your son. Your daughter-in-law should respect you by looking at the >> relationship between you and your son.* >> >> *7. Plan your retirement properly.* >> >> *Don't rely **on your children to take care of you in your >> retirement. You have already given most of your life journey to your >> children. Your savings, travel, and fitness are important for retirement.* >> >> *8. Enjoy your retirement years.* >> >> *Enjoy using all your savings before you die. Your money and >> experience should benefit you.* >> >> * This is the REALITY OF LIFE in the present >> age!!!!* >> >> * In most homes, parents put their children's welfare at the forefront of >> their lives. The family splits up due to the daughter-in-law's opposition >> to the love-giving/marriage of the children. In this the condition of the >> sons status becomes pitiful. Parents' affection/love for wife... * >> >> *இதில் மகன்களின் நிலை பரிதாமமாகிறது.பெற்றோரின் பாசம்/**மனைவி மீது உள்ள >> அன்பு... **இவற்றை பேலன்ஸ் செய்ய தடுமாறக்கூடாது**.**சில அறிவுரைகளை >> பெற்றோர்கள் **& **பிள்ளைகள் கடைப்பிடித்தால் **“**சம்சாரம் அது மின்சாரம்* >> *”** என்ற படத்தின் உச்சக்கட்ட காட்சியில் லெட்சுமி வாசகத்தின் படி >> **எட்டியிருந்தால் >> * >> >> *நீங்கள் நலமா**?**நாங்கள் நலமே* >> >> *என் விசாரிப்புடன் மகிழ்ச்சி **!!!.* >> >> *Regards* >> >> *V.Sridharan* >> >> *Trichy* >> >> -- >> To go to your groups page on the web, login to your gmail account and >> then click on https://groups.google.com/ >> --- >> You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups >> "iyer123" group. >> To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an >> email to [email protected]. >> To view this discussion on the web visit >> https://groups.google.com/d/msgid/iyer123/2144922908.372717.1724814473641%40mail.yahoo.com >> <https://groups.google.com/d/msgid/iyer123/2144922908.372717.1724814473641%40mail.yahoo.com?utm_medium=email&utm_source=footer> >> . >> > -- > To go to your groups page on the web, login to your gmail account and then > click on https://groups.google.com/ > --- > You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups > "iyer123" group. > To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an > email to [email protected]. > To view this discussion on the web visit > https://groups.google.com/d/msgid/iyer123/CAOCR2sohReER_ORHt7xKsK92ToEGY_zCXSDs7LCkF%3D4dnZ9WAQ%40mail.gmail.com > <https://groups.google.com/d/msgid/iyer123/CAOCR2sohReER_ORHt7xKsK92ToEGY_zCXSDs7LCkF%3D4dnZ9WAQ%40mail.gmail.com?utm_medium=email&utm_source=footer> > . > -- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "Thatha_Patty" group. To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an email to [email protected]. To view this discussion on the web visit https://groups.google.com/d/msgid/thatha_patty/CAL5XZor4nGPdmk-ZscFUGCoO-sxKMyvZhbEFG1tYH2pjaYeUqw%40mail.gmail.com.
