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'When Innocent Questions Turn Into Hours Of Unpaid Time'

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Someone calls you up and is interested in your offer. So, they
start asking questions. And more questions. And more questions. 
Suddenly, you've been on the phone for over an hour. And, when
you hang up, they still didn't sign up for your offer.


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'When Innocent Questions Turn Into Hours Of Unpaid Time'
Copyright (c) 2007 Mark Silver
Heart Of Business
http://www.heartofbusiness.com/



Someone calls you up and is interested in your offer. So, they
start asking questions. And more questions. And more questions.

Suddenly, you've been on the phone for over an hour. And, when
you hang up, they still didn't sign up for your offer.

You spent enough time on the phone, and answered enough questions
that if they were a client, you would've sent an invoice.

When is it okay to say "I charge for that" and turn the meter
on?

Why so many questions? And why do you spend so much time on the
phone with them?

Questions aren't always what they appear to be. In many
instances, the answer to the question asked isn't what they are
-really- looking for.

"Are you my mommy?"

In a children's book "Are you my mommy?" a small bird becomes
separated from her mother, and goes searching from animal to
animal. She asks a dog, a pig, a horse, "Are you my mommy?"

The little bird was feeling lost and needing help. As a little
chick, she asked directly: "Are you my mommy? Is this home?"

As adults, we've learned that the world is sometimes a scary
place, and it doesn't feel safe to be vulnerable. So we don't
ask, "Is it safe here?" Instead, the questions tend to come
out, "What are all the components to this class? What are all
the ingredients in this product?"

Until that person gets their real question answered, they are
going to keep asking. And asking. And asking.

Wouldn't you?

The real question they are asking is...

They are asking if you are going to care for, support, and guide
them. Can they rely on you? Is what you're offering really going
to work? An hour's worth of questions basically trying to find
out if there is enough safety, connection and trust here for them
to say, "Yes."

So, how do you answer their questions that will help them become
a client, without spending an hour, being rude, or treating them
like a child (which they aren't)?

Keys to Turning on the Meter

 * What questions do people ask you repeatedly?

If you've had a number of these conversations, you've probably
heard certain questions over and over again. Brainstorm those
questions, write up the answers, and put them on a web page, pdf,
or some other document you can email them.

Because the people who are calling you aren't children, they do
need some information. Write it up and give it to them.

 * Close the book and take charge.

I'm guessing you may approach a conversation with a prospect
using an 'open book' approach. You become an open book, and you
invite them to ask any questions they may have.

Except that you are the expert. If you were to ask a brain
surgeon about brain surgery, and you needed an operation, what
kind of questions would you ask? "Uh... does it hurt?" That's
right, you don't know what the most important questions are, so
you'll just keep throwing darts in the dark, hoping that your
need for connection, safety and trust will be met.

I don't know about you, but I'd be nervous if a brain surgeon
invited me to just ask her questions, before she had assessed me
or asked me any questions of her own. Questions designed to help
the surgeon know what's really going on and how best to procede.
And also questions designed to set me at ease, as the patient.

Your work may not be brain surgery, but the questions you ask
communicate: "I'm confident. I know what's going on. I'm
going to take care of you. We will get you help."

 * What do you recommend?

After 15 or 20 minutes of questioning a prospect, I'm guessing
you'll know as much as you need to know in order to make a
recommendation: "I can help you, and I believe that ten sessions
will probably get you the results you want, or at least help you
make a LOT of progress in that direction."

Of course, it is polite to let them ask you questions. But, after
questioning them, and having a clear picture of how to work with
them, it will be much easier to say: "The question you are
asking is an excellent one. Here is a piece of the answer: X-Y-Z.
And, I'm wondering what you think of my recommendation."

 * Advanced tip: Web forms.

You can take a handful of your preliminary questions that you
would ask almost anyone, and put them into a form on a webpage
that they can fill out. The same page that has the answers to
frequently asked questions.

If someone is willing to fill out your form, it's more probable
that they are serious in their inquiry. And, you will have a
place to start having an informed conversation with them.

The best to you and your business,

Mark Silver 




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Mark Silver is the author of Unveiling the Heart of Your 
Business: How Money, Marketing and Sales can Deepen Your 
Heart, Heal the World, and Still Add to Your Bottom Line. 
He has helped hundreds of small business owners around 
the globe succeed in business without losing their 
hearts. Get three free chapters of the book online: 
http://www.heartofbusiness.com



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