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Watch Out for Pumpkins

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By reading this story, you can take inspiration from the actions
of a five-year-old boy and his experience growing his first
pumpkin.


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Watch Out for Pumpkins
Copyright (c) 2009 Leonard Porcano
Novisi
http://novisi.com/



When I was about 5 years old, I grew a pumpkin. My mother was
planting a garden, and I wanted to grow something too. I wanted
to grow a pumpkin. Being both lazy and stubborn as a five year
old, I decided that the best place to grow my pumpkin was in the
loose gravel at the side of our driveway, I scooped out some
gravel and poured the contents of my packet of pumpkin seeds into
the hole, and then covered it with the gravel. I watered the
gravel covered seeds with our garden hose, and went back to
playing with my matchbox cars.

Each day, I dutifully checked on my pumpkin seeds to see how they
were progressing. After a few weeks, some vines and leaves
started to grow from the gravel. It was at this point that I
started to realize I had a real knack for gardening. All the
advice I had received with regards to where to plant and the kind
of soil which was needed were clearly wrong.

One morning a few weeks later when I went to check on my plants,
I spotted some orange between the leaves. As I pushed the leaves
aside, I discovered a large pumpkin. It was a marvelous pumpkin,
big and orange and perfect. I don't know how I had missed it up
until this point. I dragged the pumpkin up to the house, where my
mother was incredibly impressed. I did not rub it in too badly
that I was right about where to plant my seeds, and that she was
not.

Despite this incredible early success with gardening, I did not
follow up with it at all over the next 16 years. I was now in my
early twenties and married. I was a newlywed and my wife, Marie,
was working on planting a garden. She was complaining that she
was having trouble getting the plants to grow. Me being a
gracious husband, and remembering my early gardening successes, I
offered my help with the garden. When questioned about what
qualified me to offer advice, I quickly offered up my story about
the pumpkin. It was a story I had told a number of times, and one
I was quite proud of. Well, Marie's response was not quite what
I expected. Rather than jump at the chance to have a real green
thumb help, she started to laugh. What's more, the more I
assured her that I had indeed grown my pumpkin, the harder she
laughed. I was not going to let this go, so I insisted that we
would verify my story with my family that weekend. After all,
they had all seen my pumpkin and even helped carve it into a jack
o lantern.

The weekend came, and I could not wait to prove to my new bride
that I had in fact grown this pumpkin. I ran the scenario through
my head a number of times. I would of course be gracious when she
would be forced to apologize for questioning me, my story, and my
gardening skills. We had scarcely entered my mother's house when
I brought up the story for her to confirm in front of Marie. My
mother looked at my sister, and my sister back at my mother. Then
my sister started laughing. I sensed that something was not
right, when my mother dropped the bombshell on me.

You see, the vines and leaves which I dutifully watered and
nurtured were simply weeds, which my mother did not have the
heart to pull. As the weeds grew up, and I kept watering my
mother began to feel bad that I would never get a pumpkin out of
them. So one evening, she stopped at the market and picked up a
pumpkin. While I was safely tucked into bed, she carefully placed
the pumpkin between the weeds I had been watering. It was the
next day, I discovered my accomplishment.

Now I do believe that every story and every experience has a
silver lining. You can take something positive from everything if
you look hard enough. In this case though, it would be another 10
years before I found the silver. I was having a hard time with
someone I worked with. This person had some really backwards
views about people different than him. It did not matter what
kind of evidence or logic I provided, this guy was not letting go
of these backwards views he had. It was obvious that he was
wrong, but nothing I could say or do would break through to him.
It was during one conversation with this guy, that it hit me.
These backwards views he had been carrying since childhood, these
views were his pumpkin. He was not holding a different opinion
than me, he was holding a different reality. There was no way I
would ever convince him that he had a faulty reality, so I
stopped trying. And in accepting that his reality and mine were
different, I was able to find a place where we were able to get
along.

In fact our minds are incapable of experiencing a truly objective
reality. Each of us has a concept of reality shaped by our
experiences.

The first lesson I took from this is that we are responsible for
our own pumpkins. Each of us has to take responsibility for
reconciling our reality or our world view with those around us.
You can not take it upon yourself to clear up somebody else's
pumpkin, you can only take care of your own.

The second lesson is that everyone has pumpkins. We all have
places within our reality that don't match up with those around
us. Places where, good or bad, we experience the world
differently. It is important to realize this and to be aware of
these differences.

And finally, everyone includes you. So the next time you find
yourself in a disagreement with someone realize that the thing
that is coming between you may be a pumpkin, and what is more it
may even be a pumpkin that you have been carrying and not them. 




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Leonard Porcano currently manages http://novisi.com/ 
a web development company. You can find Leonard's blog at 
http://inspirinet.com/ 
He loves to sail, and has raced sailboats and even 
spent a summer teaching sailing to the blind.


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