Nancy and fans,
I LOVED Mr. Rogers, and should have been more careful about implicating him 
here, even if only by association.  It's just that he created the "you're 
special" concept, which was much, much needed at the time, but was perverted by 
this narcissistic generation.  I know he was a wonderful person who offered a 
great deal to children who needed his gentle kindness.  (Including my own 
children, who loved him.)

I'm reading an interesting book that addresses this idea, called The Pursuit of 
Attention:  Power and Ego in Everyday Life, by Charles Derber.  It's a quick 
read and addresses the "Enough about me...what about you?  What do you think 
about me?" generation.

Apologies to Fred Rogers' memory.  Mea culpa.

Beth Benoit
Granite State College
Concord NH
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  I don't think for a moment that Fred Rogers would have countenanced the use 
of the idea that each person is special and deserves respect as an excuse to 
bend the rules and avoid responsibility. From everything I know about him - he 
was too hard working and ethical for that.

  This would appear to be more a by-produce of our general cultural bend toward 
narcissism. This is an American problem. We keep reading the Declaration of 
Independence as promising the "right to be happy" instead of the right to 
"pursue happiness.

  Nancy Melucci
  Long Beach City College
  Long Beach CA 
   
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  Here at Granite State College, we just held our annual Faculty Day, where we 
discussed, among other things, the idea that many of the students in this 
generation have the idea that they are "special."  Lovely idea, but some 
interesting - and sometimes unsettling - ramifications.

  It sometimes translates into the idea that regular rules don't apply to them, 
and that they're deserving of exceptions.  The "Mr. Rogers Philosophy" is 
lovely when it comes to convincing everyone that he/she is important, and 
helping improve flagging self esteem, but unfortunately it seems to stop short 
when it comes to the idea that they shouldn't have to conform to the rules that 
govern other people.  (Like coming to class on time, handing in assignments by 
the assigned date, etc.)

  Have we created a monster with this "I am Special" talk???

  Beth Benoit
  Granite State College
  Concord NH
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