There's a young man in the film, "P.S.", played by Topher Grace, who behaves in a very informal manner with a woman professor at Columbia, played by Laura Linney. From the get-go, he calls her by her first name, Louise, and consistently exhibits an offensively familiar demeanor. It's an intriguing film for various reasons but this aspect of the student's behavior comes across as grossly inappropriate. There are underlying potential reasons why 'Louise' tolerates this behavior but it's a classic example of this line of discussion on TIPS. This film is on the premium cable stations and I would recommend simply for providing a superb example of how students should not behave when interacting with professors/administrators at their university.
Joan Joan Warmbold > Sue- Tis a pity. I have two (out of 45) who started that way- overly > familiar, no sense of responsibility, etc. I think you handled it wisely. > Not only did they by pass the whole introduction norms, but they were > surely setting themselves up for a very rude exchange somewhere down the > road where they pulled this strategy with a boss. My two situations are > different- one's entitled and the other is mildly autistic (by their own > description). (One walked into my office one day when the door was not > open and sat down and said something like, "Hey, dude! You are my > advisor." > > Your gentle instruction was the way to go, I think. Some folks don't want > to grow up though! If anyone is looking for help with these type of > situations, I'd recommend the books, "Crucial Conversations", and its > sibling "Crucial Confrontations" by Patterson et al, (there is an > associated web-site too). They helped me tremendously. They are based on > the idea of dialog. (And those of you who know me probably know I don't > normally recommend self-help crap). BTW- It is typical in that you could > probably get most of what you need from the web-site (which is still free, > I think). :) > Tim > > _______________________________ > Timothy O. Shearon, PhD > Professor and Chair Department of Psychology > Albertson College of Idaho > Caldwell, ID 83605 > email: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > teaching: intro to neuropsychology; psychopharmacology; general; history > and systems > > > > > -----Original Message----- > From: FRANTZ, SUE [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] > Sent: Fri 6/15/2007 6:53 PM > To: Teaching in the Psychological Sciences (TIPS) > Subject: [tips] Customer service > > I received this email from a student a couple weeks ago. Now, those of > you who know me know that I'm not "formal" in any sense of the term, > but... this one took me aback: > > Hey Franz, > > My name is <name deleted> and I just changed my major from biology to > biopsychology. I'm not sure what classes to take! The couselor assigned > you as my advisor...and I am in desperate need of advising! Could we set > up a meeting time to discuss my academic plan? > > Look forward to meeting you, > <name deleted> > > "Hey Franz"?! It didn't help that the student forgot the "t". > > In my response, I gently explained that this really isn't the best way to > start an email to someone you don't know, and, yes, I'd be happy to meet > the student to discuss biopsych. I haven't heard from the student since. > > > > -- > Sue Frantz Highline Community College > Psychology Des Moines, WA > 206.878.3710 x3404 [EMAIL PROTECTED] > http://flightline.highline.edu/sfrantz/ > -- > Office of Teaching Resources in Psychology > Assistant Director > Project Syllabus > http://teachpsych.org/otrp/syllabi/syllabi.php > <http://www.apadiv2.org/otrp/index.php> > > > --- > To make changes to your subscription go to: > http://acsun.frostburg.edu/cgi-bin/lyris.pl?enter=tips&text_mode=0&lang=english > > > --- > To make changes to your subscription go to: > http://acsun.frostburg.edu/cgi-bin/lyris.pl?enter=tips&text_mode=0&lang=english > > --- To make changes to your subscription go to: http://acsun.frostburg.edu/cgi-bin/lyris.pl?enter=tips&text_mode=0&lang=english
