���I've just recalled that some TIPSters block postings containing a 
certain person's name, so (with apologies) I'm posting my last 
contribution again.

On 11 October 2009 Robin Abrahams wrote:
>Ah, another day, another series of men explaining women's
>experiences to them.

Robin: And I thought we were simply exchanging views in a discussion 
which started as one about the use of the word "chicks" on TIPS and has 
been generalised in a lengthy (and thoughtful) contribution from 
Stephen. As one of those men who made a contribution (see below) to the 
"Stephen" thread, Robin, please point out to me where I was "explaining 
women's experiences to them".

>I can't help it if Robin is the 20only woman who bothered to
>comment on whether or not 'chick' is offensive!"

The reason I effectively set going the original thread to which Stephen 
was responding (see further below) was because, as others have noted, 
at least three women had objected to it over a period of time. And my 
contribution then was to support the suggestion made by others that 
those of us who found one TIPSter's use of the term offensive, which I 
thought likely was most people, should cease to respond to his posts.

I was previously tempted to respond to the last sentence in Robin's 
previous posting but let it go. Given the nature of her response this 
time I shall now do so:
>If anyone writes=2
 0in objection to my points, and I do not
>respond, do not assume that you have either offended
>me or won the argument.

I thought we were having an exchange of views on a topic that Stephen 
had broadened out to a more generalised discussion. I didn't realise we 
were engaged in an argument that could be won or lost.

Nancy Melucci wrote:
>I try to resist the language police thing. I think these judgments
>(about the offensiveness of words) can rarely be made outside
>the context in which the word is being used.

I strongly agree that in this particular instance the *context* is 
relevant, which is why I made the central point of my previous 
contribution the distinction between=2
 0using "chicks" as a synonym for 
women in postings to TIPS, and the use of the word in entirely 
different contexts. I can certainly understand why many women object to 
the use of "chicks" more generally, but Robin chose to discuss its use 
in the expression "chick lit", which, as I supported by links to a wide 
variety of sources, seems to be an unobjectionable term for a 
particular genre of writings.

Allen Esterson
Former lecturer, Science Department
Southwark College, London
http://www.esterson.org
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Re: [tips] On "chick"
Allen Esterson
Sun, 11 Oct 2009

I agree with almost everything that Stephen wrote on the use of the 
word "chick" ��=9
 3 except that I think he omitted the most significant 
point about it's use as far as TIPS is concerned, namely is the use of 
the slang expression "chicks" as a synonym for "woman" is just plain 
inappropriate in the contexts in which it has been used? In this sense 
Stephens proposed survey on the offensiveness of "chicks" requires 
modification. I find its use on TIPS inappropriate rather than 
offensive (though I'd vote for the latter if given no other choice), 
but have no objection whatever to "chick-lit".

Which takes me to Robin's posting:
>I have no objection to movies marketed to women being
>referred to as "chick flicks," as long as movies marketed
>to men are similarly referred 
 to as "dick flicks."

Why should it be the case that, because there happens to be a term for 
a particular kind of book that is widely recognised and is not 
generally regarded as offensive (see below), that there has to be an 
equivalent term for a supposedly equivalent "male interest" film. Why 
should an "equivalent" male term be sought here to supposedly even 
things up? In this instance I see nothing to even up.

>Part of the problem with "chick lit" and "chick flicks" is the notion
>that what men are interested in is universal, whereas what women
>are interested in is a lesser subsection of the human experience.

Sorry, I don't accept that. In my experience men are frequently  0D
associated with limited horizons – empty-minded action films, technical 
books of a variety of kinds with no connection with "real" life 
experience, and so on.

>Everyone is expected to find meaning in "Hamlet," but a man who finds
>meaning in "Jane Eyre" is praised for his sensitivity.

As a generality, I don't accept that either. I have often seen/read men 
expressing high praise for Jane Austen's novels (as I do myself) which 
deal almost solely with the relationships between the characters, but I 
can't ever recall them being praised for their sensitivity.

Now to the question of how widely "chick-lit" is found to be offensive. 
I have to say this is the first time I have h
 eard/read of anyone taking 
offence at the term. I've just done a quick Google search and the 
following webpages have come up:

>From The Guardian, 8 May 2009:
"A tale of romance by the king of chick lit – Napoleon Bonaparte
Maev Kennedy and Catherine Neilan

"Napoleon turned to literature, or at least an early precursor of 
chick-lit, at a wretched time when he seemed to have stalled his 
glorious career and lost his woman."
http://www.guardian.co.uk/books/2009/may/08/napoleon-novella-manuscript-translation

If female reviewers on The Guardian (whose journalists are prone to 
find sexism at the drop of a hat) have no problem with "chick-lit", I 
suspect it means that those who do in the U
 K are in a very, very tiny 
minority.

Oh, yes, and in the Independent:
"End of a chapter: chick lit takes on the credit crunch"
"In hard times, sex-and-shopping sagas are being reinvented. Welcome to 
the world of recessionista lit"
By Susie Mesure
http://tinyurl.com/nzgatb

The UK Jewish Chronicle also seems untroubled by the term:
"Why chick lit is actually chicken-soup lit"
By Brigit Grant,
http://www.thejc.com/arts/books/why-chick-lit-actually-chicken-soup-lit

Then we have a celebration of chick-lit:
"Chicklit is the online women's magazine that celebrates 21st century 
woman's contemporary fiction and lifestyle. Come on in..."
http://www.chicklit.co.uk/articles/#

Allen Esterson
Former lecturer, Science 
 Department
Southwark College, London
http://www.esterson.org

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[tips] for Marc Carter
Allen Esterson
Fri, 02 Oct 2009

On 1 October 2009 in a posting headed "for Marc Carter" XXXX wrote:
>I saw where you posed a question to me in the Tips
>archives but I did not receive the post in my regular
>mail. I am preparing to take action against Frostburg
>State through the ACLU if my First amendment rights
>are been violated FSU could lose some federal funds.

The only question posed by Marc recently (as far as I can see) is the 
following:
> I lived in the Dominican Republic; baseball is bigger
>there than it is here, so n
 aturally there are going to be
>a lot of good players coming out of there.  In what way
>is that a bad thing?

Why Michael follows his remark about a question from Marc with his 
reference to First Amendment rights is unclear. It would make more 
sense in relation to Jim Matiya's criticisms of Michael's language and 
tone in a couple of his recent postings (see below) followed by Bill 
Southerly's response, "This matter is being addressed".

My immediate reaction to Bill's comment was a concern that some action 
was being considered in relation to Michael's comments that some people 
(most I suggest) find offensive. My own feeling about such comments is 
that if they are continued after 20objections have been made (as in the 
case of his use of "chicks" for women), then subsequent postings from 
Michael should be ignored.

Of course we don't know what Bill meant by the matter being addressed, 
but I think that (within limits – something of course difficult to 
define) there should not be heavy-handed action against someone who 
uses language most of us find offensive, or as in the following 
instance, unworthy of a response:

> Ken,Jim:
>Your posts are ridiculous. Are bystanders' apathy only
>reserved for white people?...
>Obviously you all know nothing about a black community.
>Gimme a break. Keep your eurocentric cognitive imperialistic
>analysis in the classrom. dude.
 

Allen Esterson
Former lecturer, Science Department
Southwark College, London
http://www.esterson.org




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