hi sandy!!
im still with my wife,and 3 beautifull kids.if it was not for them,i would not be here today.with all i was going through at the time,i failed to recognise the presssure on my wife,having it all dropped on her shoulders.the thing that somtimes goes unnoticed is the caregiver.it took alot of understanding and adjusting,but we have made it and they are what i draw my strength from.as far as my condition its day by day and i try not to dwell on my past,its where it belongs in the past.i think like your husband,we must live with what we have,crying over it does nothing but make it worse.
jeff
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Jeff,If you don't mind, I was wondering if your marriage survived? My husband is the one with TM, (March 2000), and I would never consider leaving under any circumstances. Although it is sometimes difficult, he suffers much more than I do! He's lost a lot, just like you have. He has a difficult time letting go of the past, yet he seems to have accepted the TM better than other things. Perhaps that sounds contradictory, but that's how it is.Thanks,Sandyi know this was last weeks posting,but im 2 weeks behind in everything from a stay in the hosp with infection and pneumonia.the original post was right on,we seem to loose a part of ourselves,when it hits us,and it makes it hard in the recovery effort,i found myself allways looking back at what i had lost in my past instead of looking ahead and trying to adjust to the future.i had a good carear and had my life where i wanted it to be,inother words i was happy as a clam.and in a split second i lost it all.i fell through the floor of a burning building fighting a fire and landed directly on my heals and had a shock wave go up through my spine.the neuros claim i probably had the virus in me before this and that was the trigger that set it off, i can remember laying in the icu for days in complete tears,because i knew from being a paramedic and having a medical knowledge that my whole life had been drastically changed,i did not want to see anyone or talk to anybody,i bassically hated myself.with depression the first year and a half was the worst.my marriage was falling apart, on top of everything else ,being from ny we got hit on sept 11th. so i felt like the world was on my shoulders,but i beat depression with no meds and no shrink,but i do agree it takes a peice of what makes us who we are and turns us inside out,dont mean to give such a long story,but i wanted you all to know where i was coming from.its all about the future and not the past.jefftm with wheel chair since 2000
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