Kevin,
Next week I celebrate 33 years with TM. I haven't been to my brothers home in at least 12 years & he hasn't been to mine much more often. I have to be carried up the steps to my fathers home. He lives in a 100 year old two story farm home with about a million steps up to the porch. My sisters home is the only one I can get into but the bathrooms aren't accessible. And she lives 130 miles away. Some times I feel it's like they think I am going to get better. I compensate my not being able get in to my fathers home by seeing him weekly at Kiwanis. I really do understand though. We all have our own lives to live. It's hard to stop to take care of someone else. I struggle to go to see my 96 year old grandmother and she only live ten blocks away. I have a cousin with schizophrenia and sometimes I feel like he is "making it up" when I know he's not. People without chronic pervasive illness's don't really understand. When they get sick, they get better. I remember growing up my mother used to tell me when I was feeling sick that I would either eventually get better or die. (mom passed her humor to me) But as we all know, that saying is not always true. Some of us get sick and stay sick or sickly for the rest of our lives. Life is strange my friend. Love the ones your with.
Larry in Oklahoma where it doesn't feel like the first day of Fall.
Larry Throne, MSW, LCSW
From: Kevin Wolfthal <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
To: [email protected]
Subject: [TMIC] re: Oprah
Date: Sun, 23 Sep 2007 18:57:21 -0400
Natalie,
Most of my relatives have disapeared also. One aunt recently said she thought it was
'funny' that I had trouble getting diagnosed, and she used to be a nurse!
I told her it's not that funny.
Take care,
Kevin
natalie mizenko wrote:
>Kevin,
>I agree so much w/ you on "friends" who disappear from you when you
>get sick, even my familly members did me back in the late 80's.
>Drs. had problems diagnosing my condition back then, so my family
>(alot of them) treated me like it was all in my head. I have a
>brother who works 1 mile from me and has for 10 years and has never
>come over during lunch to say "Hi" or check on me. And I have a
>sister who is so caught up in chruch work and her own family only
>that she won't even visit me at the hospital. I finally wrote her
>off...I figure I don't need the extra stress. It's easier not to be
>upset all the time for hurt feelings than to be upset all the time.
>I had a sister that died 5 years ago and she said the same thing.
>Take care. Natalie M.
>
>
>
> */Kevin Wolfthal <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>/* wrote:
>
> Gary,
>
> I agree strongly with all 3 points. In particular, a lack
>of
> sensitivity in many of those who are
> healthy. As we know, all health is temporary except for a
>rare
> few
> perhaps. Unfortunately,
> those who aren't sensitive to those of us with health
> problems, probably
> won't change
> their attitudes no matter what. I have found this out the
>hard
> way as
> former "friends"
> disappeared when I got sick.
>
> Kevin
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
> [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote:
> > I wrote to Oprah about Cody Unser being on her show.
> >
> > I guess the benefit of exposing people to TM is 1)
>perhaps
> it would
> > result in more funding being made available for research
>2)
> more
> > doctors will be familiar with TM and recognize symptoms
>more
> quickly
> > and 3) others might be aware not to take for granted
>their
> health and
> > be more understanding of those with disorders.
> >
> > One example of this 3rd point is
> > when I came back to work after being off with my initial
>TM
> > experience. I found out that a co-worker, a big Indy 500
> fan, knew
> > about Cody Unser and thus was a little aware of TM when
> others at work
> > had not a clue. So, it is nice when others are introduced
>to
> TM,
> > not to give sympathy but to better understand that we may
> not always
> > be able to be at our "best" but rather are just trying to
> make it
> > through the day.
> >
> > Gary in Michigan
>
>
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