Jeff,
I just saw your message. I really feel for you and if you really read and
think about what Lynn has said, you will be
much better off than settling for cold sex. A relationship is what you are
really wanting and you need to be
patient. You need to start filling your life with other thoughts and
actions. The more you can give of yourself
to others, the more content you will feel. Can you do voluntary work at your
church, library - they can always use
help, hospitals, etc.? Get yourself busy and into other things.
Janice
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected] ; [email protected]
Sent: Thursday, August 13, 2009 1:49 PM
Subject: [TMIC] Re: need some help
Jeff ~
I haven't seen any responses to your letter ....perhaps because it is such a
touchy subject....perhaps because people on the list don't know quite how
to respond to you.......I am willing to give it a shot.....from a Christian
perspective.
I think it is not so much sex that you are missing, but rather a loving
relationship with someone - so much so that you are willing to do anything to
find love. We all hunger for love and intimacy and often look for fulfillment
in all the wrong places. God is able to supply all need according to His
riches in glory by Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:19) - usually quoted in terms of
financial need, however it is not limited to money. In truth, Our Father is
able to fill the emptiness in your life to the extent that meaningless sex
would be exposed for what it really is; i.e., meaningless sex and a sin nature
running amuck. There is no real fulfillment there (sex for sex's sake), only
pain and complications to a life that has plenty of challenges already.
Seek, (truly, prayerfully seek), God's will in your life - for if we seek
first the Kingdom of God, and His righteousness, all these things shall be
added unto you (Matthew 6:33) and, again, Father knows best what kind of human
intimacy is required and will meet your needs and (this is the best part) the
needs of the female that will be in your life. You may find that a sexual
relationship is secondary to a truly loving friendship, or it may be that
Father has another marriage in your future and a better sexual relationship
than you can even imagine. With God all things are possible, IF we put Him
first and foremost in our lives.
I wish you only the best.
~ Lynn
In a message dated 8/09/2009 5:19:58 A.M. Pacific Daylight Time,
jeffsmokeeater writes:
im not writing this to sound discusting,but i have a serious problem and
want to know if any of you have ever went through this and how you handled it.
first of all let me tell you all i am very comfortable with my sexuality
and preferance,but recently some very confusing feelings have crossed my
mind,let me start by saying when i was 16 yo i had sexual contact with somone
of the same sex,i think it was more out of curiosity than anything else,but i
enjoyed it and after that i started going with people of the opisite sex,but i
never forgot that first experience,well i got married and have 4 children and
myself and my wife of 16 years split up last year.
here is the problem,ive had ms for 9 and a half years and like some on the
list i have problems with paraplegia and im in a wheelchair so i dont need to
give the details as most of you can pretty much figure it out,but i find myself
craving for sexual contact and have even thought of contacting my friend from
when i was 16 just for somthing,i am not gay,but this is like torture and its
all i think about and its driving me crazy,just the thought of the same sex
makes me wonder about myself and what the heck is going on inside my head,im 40
years old and never imagined this,but im desperate.any advice would help.
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