thank you Akua, I'm not in this predicament,at least right now,, and this encouraged me!
--- On Tue, 9/28/10, Akua <[email protected]> wrote: From: Akua <[email protected]> Subject: Re: [TMIC] Tired To: [email protected] Date: Tuesday, September 28, 2010, 6:11 PM What you should do is 1. research. can you move? if so will where you're going be better? worse. or the same. ask around. most of the folks in the nursing home were not newbies to the system 2. you seem to know a bit of the system. ask your good folks for help or protection from the bad folks I had ptsd from my experience in the nursing home. I helped myself by helping others, visiting others, finding out that there was a long term resident who organized and fought. I was in what was allegedly a good nursing home, but one of the bad aides made it to the news in Rochester--- she had run over a woman on the way to work. For revenge. You got to make allies and weigh complaining. Have a strategy. It is a small hellish world where others have nearly complete power over you. Try to find the humans among the monsters that these places attract. I had two allies -- people to whom I could speak and find out, without punishment, what recourse I had. They were a social worker, whom I still remember and write on occasion, and the head of physical therapy as it turned out.... she was the one to get me showered and up and i later found out i lucked out in getting her...... I starved in the nursing home. I lost 50 pounds, because I refused to eat garbage and they seldom gave me real food. They sent management to have meetings in my room after I wrote lettters to the head of the board, the director and cc d the Attorney General. things improved for about a week and then they went back to hell , but that week reprieve meant that I had lettuce, tomatoes, bananas for a few days and also that i didn't die from their so-called care. I saw aides ignore people's calls for 45 minutes. My friends would check on me and I on them. I was alone but one of my friends had a big family, so they would get me whenever they came to see her and included me under the umbrella of attention --- that mediated some of the bad behavior. If you aremore fortuante than me and have family or friends who visit, use them to give positive reinforcement to any good aides or getthem to represent your needs, too. It's not easy and as you seem to understand, you have to be strategic and careful. Hopefully you are on top of your meds. I was given the wrong meds or wrong dosages nearly daily. I kept my own logs and lists and notes on what the doctor prescribed and so I caught these many errors. I wish you the best and hope you can get out of there. Strength and perseverance, Akua Hi group. I am feeling down today. I would normally not vent. But I am tired. I am an incomplete quad in a nursing home. Which I hate. the 6am-2pm shift is excellent; but 2pm-10pm is horrible. For the most part. They are not helpful at all. They seem to be bothered to even have anything to do with me. They are nice usually to other residents. I don't report it because even though they get written up. They get meaner and ruder. I really just want to give up. I'm not but it's just tempting. Can anyone help? What should I do, move? dennis tx --
