Hello Friends, ==================================================== Usually my wife cooks the best. But since she is also human sometimes the food does not taste good. If I say "This time it is not tasty" -- My wife says "then why don't you cook better?"
I am a good eater and only know which is tasty and which is not..but I am not a cook to cook better. To say some thing is good or bad, I just need to know tastes but I don't need to be a cook. What I am trying to tell is people are free to say which is good, which is bad but they need not be responsible to show which is good. Here I am working in a Federal Govt Dept. We have a security chief. If we implement something and if the security chief thinks it is vulnerable to attacks, she simply "This is bad, I will not approve". Then we immediately ask "then tell us what is good?". She says "I am here to say your way is wrong or right but I am not here to show you which way you to go." =================================================== Lack of respect for the people who struggle. Sit there in some far away place and try to remote control. (This doesn't mean they are not bothered or unconcerned) ==================================================== The usage of the word, 'Remote Control' holds good to this extent only. The examples Prasad garu mentioned. When you all are with us in the decision making procedure and when you are with us in choosing the projects and on how we can execute them, how come the question of 'not liking the base part' and to plan for 'better'. Why not we try and discuss on the 'better' part in the very first discussion itself? There are two things in the decision making procedure for any project: 1. Should we take up the project or not? 2. If we want to take up the project, how we should execute it? 3. Let us brainstorm before to whatever extent possible. 4. Come to a conclusion 5. Once we begin to work in that direction, then evaluate whether what we assumed turns out to be true or are there any loopholes etc., My point is only when we do, we can know the problems of particular way. The most hurting thing was that 'roddu meeda velli, needy ekkadunnaaro choosi ivvadam correctenaa, asalu vaallu needy enaa' amte, what can we answer? It is a common decision, when we took up BDP that we shouldn't give it just like that in any homes, because they have shelter at least. Taking cue from the same guideline, we implemented FDP too. For the people understand me very well and also for the people who doesn't know me, I want to know what is the literal meaning of the sentence that you perceived? Is there anything in between the lines in my statements? My usage of the word Remote Control is towards the fact that 'okati baagaaledani cheppadam varake maa pani, elaa cheste baaguntundo cheppadam maa pani kaadu'. Here 'maa' can be anyone even the ones given in the examples. When you cannot suggest an alternative why point an effort as not upto the mark and stating that as a reason for not supporting the project? When we explained you the situations, the constraints and asked us for a suggestion in the given scenarios, why isn't there any answer? If at all I do not care people who spend lots of hours for the group, there is no meaning in discussions, arguments. Why we write so much in mails? Trying to explain people. Trying hard to let others know what we think. Coming to taking breaks, yes, I think everyone of us, need it. Coming to the group, so far I felt everyone owns it. Still I hope it to be the same. I request anyone of our active members who have time to spend on Internet to let me know, I wish to change my status to 'Moderator' of the group instead of 'owner'. I mean even in the technical terms of the yahoogroup. I think this is the only place where it is deemed and I wish to change there either. This is all I can explain. Please take the words in their true meaning but not try to read in between the lines which a person didn't intend anything. My humble request is if you do not understand something, try to clarify. This is what I do. If I get angry, I will explain the reasons for which I got irritated. When things are clarified, fine. Even if they are not clarified, then also fine, because anyway I expressed my feelings. They are let out. In fact, why we keep on asking you people to say, to suggest. If we feel you as the people who try to 'remote control', there is no question of asking in the first place. As I feel, the problem is only with me. Most of the members are unhappy with the way things are and about the way we are heading and my involvement in cases. I clarified my level best. In any setup, the one who is the most problem maker should be sidelined and I wish to be sidelined now for the same reason. Last but not the least, this decision is also not out of anger or anything. Divya, Santosh, Kasyap and Vani know about it. I told them few days back that I want to be aloof for few months. -- Thank you. with regards, PRASANTHI. ---- When you want something, the whole universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.
