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Il 13/03/16 13:00, [email protected] ha scritto:
Hi Alessandro
What you are proposing with "to out create" being to force another to
experience what the other is creating is a games condition. Is that what you want to do?
To me Dennis's idea of creating a complementary postulate to the suppressive
persons game and not playing any games with them is the better solution.
Just because another gives offense does not mean you have to take offense.
Sincerely
Pete McLaughlin
Hi Pete,
first of all I had this intuition or you you could call it a
realization.Then I thought about it , and see if it could be used in life.
Or how to apply it and if it is worth using it.And think about this : a
complementary postulate to somebody that is shouting at you saying "you
stupid man!" wouldn't be shouting back to him "you stupid man , I am
not going playing you stupid game,shut up!".
To bring into existence an opposition postulate to and aggression (be
it verbal or phisical) would be to receive the offence, stay quiet and
go away.Isn't it ? I know it sounds odd, but think about the fact that
people like us , that like to live an ethic life , and trying to never
arm someone else,and that refuse violence , have also put to 0 a class
of postulates, that suppressive people have put to 1 and use it
daily.Lie Dennis says, when he was making an example about how to
program a mind,that what you do with this technic is up to you and you
are the only one responsible for any outcome.I think we should learn and
accept to use "violence" , by being wery much aware about the outcomes.
Obviously and don't go aroung shouting to any people that offends me.
There is a gradient scale.You have to use with some common sense to the
situation you are facing.You can go from standing firmly on you word,not
accepting any provocation remaining calm , to shout like hell,if needed.
If we assign to win the value 1 and to lose the value 0 , then all the
possible classes of outcomes you can experience,are"
Myself the other guy
class 1) 1 and 0 = I win the other
lose , means I use violence to him , but this not the case so I put
this postulates class to 0 in my daily life
class 2) 0 and 1 = I lose the other wins
, means I receive the aggression , keep silent , and accept to be a
victim.you put this class of postulates
to 1 if
you don't react .
class 3) 0 and 0 = we both lose , means
we both kill each other ?
class 4) 1 and 1 = we both win , means
we both demostrate to the other our strength , and we both decide to not
go on , and we respect each
other.(this class of postulates I experienced . For example once in my
life . when I was doing the military service,I was sent to
a new
barrack.There I was a new person to all the other person there.The
second day I was there , while I was dressing myself,
two other
guys came to me and says "let's see how strong you are" , and they
assaulted me.I didn't try to escape or to avoid
the fight,
instead I react and attacked them.The results ? they stopped fighting
and from that moment I gained their respect.
What do you think ?
happy RI-ing
alessandro.
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