On Sat, May 15, 2010 at 2:16 PM, Melissa P <[email protected]>wrote:

>  Interesting that we get different things out of the show.  BTW I haven’t
> watched the last two episodes yet.  I watch Idol live and record ABC between
> 9 and 10 on Wednesdays.
>
> What I get out of Cougar Town:
>
> Courteney Cox is divorced from her childhood sweetheart but they are still
> best of friends.  She’s the winner in the relationship and doesn’t complain
> about having to pay him alimony.  He means well, but he’s dumb.  She’s not.
> The son is embarrassed by both parents, for different reasons.
>
> Christa Miller is still working on being married to a not-great-looking
> man.  He’s still grateful that she married him, which is why he “worships
> and obeys” her.  They have an incredible bond that defies what their
> marriage should be like.  Their baby is named “Stan.”  Now who names a baby
> Stan?
>
> Busy Philipps doesn’t know what she wants.  She ends up hurting herself
> more than she hurts others.
>
> Drinking too much is typical for the lives they lead.
>
> The actor who plays Grayson is incredibly good looking, and the show is
> worth tuning in to just to look at him.
>

Interesting yes, but I am not sure what you have written here is
inconsistent with the summary that I posted, though perhaps with a little
different emphasis. Cox's ex-husband is the loser, as you describe it, and I
think it is clear that he is unhappy with the choices he has made. It is
also clear that, as well meaning as he might be, he has treated Cox
inexcusably, and can never really be forgiven for it (both for cheating on
her, but also for not fully appreciating and reciprocating her earth-mother
decade and a half of giving). Miller's husband, though less handsome and
charming than Cox's ex, is happier and more successful (I think he is a
lawyer, obviously affluent). He worships and obeys his wife because he loves
her, and is grateful that she loves him. I think the clear point here is
that marriage, and life, work best when men submit to and fully appreciate
the women in their lives (and, as I said before, I agree with this sentiment
in every way, as someone who, excepting the rich lawyer part, has more in
common with Miller husband than Cox's).

Where I most disagree with you is in your observation that Miller's
relationship with her husband defies what their marriage should be like. A
hot woman marries a lovable, wealthy shlub (also, apparently, well hung) and
they genuinely love each other, though he knows he must spend every minute
making her feel like a queen. That is about exactly what their marriage
should be like. That he still feels like he is getting the better end of the
deal is, I think, both true and part of the thesis of this show.

I don't think there is any question that they Phillips character gets hurt
more than she hurts - her function is to illustrate yet another consequence
of men valuing and exploiting women as nothing but sexual property. I bow to
your expertise on how good looking the Grayson actor is - he has seemed like
the weakest link in the whole show to me, but if he is eye candy for the
ladies I guess that pretty much explains his role.

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