Behaviour of women, in-laws or otherwise, around the world, are identical because we are brainwashed by patriarchal values. We are brainwashed to believe that "boys will always be boys" so we turn to attack each other all the time. Little do we know that we are brainwashed and "lied to" by culture and tradition and religion so that "boys can be boys". Nature has given a woman a very powerful defense mechanism that is currently extremely supressed by culture and tradition so that boys can be boys. Period! All men know it. Every African woman need to ask herself one question: How would men treat women if we all decide to defy culture and tradition and religion? Now think! We follow culture. How do men treat us? This is hypothetical but think about it ladies. How would men treat women if one morning all women around the world wake up and make these decisions: 1. We are women. We are not getting married because we don't need to get married in order to guarantee that the product of 9 months after concpetion is actually 50% our genetic make up. Our children can arrive in the back seat of our cars or under trees in the bushes and we still would not need a DNA test. 2. We are not getting married because we can cook our own food, wash our own clothes, clean our own houses and make our own beds every morning. On top of all that, we can go out and work to feed our own children. We do it everyday, around the world, as soon as our husbands, who are merciless and know that we are jobless, abandon us with ten children that we are brainwashed by culture to produce. 3. We are not getting married because men only beat, kill, torture and abandone their wives. Does anyone still disagree with me that culture is there to make it easier for men to use and abuse women? A man who does not use and abuse women is a personal decision. Otherwise, women to use and abuse are produced everyday by culture and tradition. Ladies, have you wondered why men do not confront each other when it comes to their mistreatment of women? Have you ever seen a man verbally, or physically, attack another man because he has beaten his wife or abused a woman? Is it not clear that their silence is because they understand each other? Is it not true that a man would condemn another man's ruthlessness towards women to a woman but not to another man, unless of course he is a blood relative? Ladies, this is something to think about and very seriously. Given my in-depth knowledge of the patriarchal social system, I don't support a continent where men have no family responsibilities because this would be a recipe for a catastrophic social disaster. My 90Minutes will not destroy the family culture; it will control men's lack of empathy because I believe that men mistreat women because there is no consequences for their actions. A man need to know that he will be severely punished by his wife if beats her. Ladies, you don't need muscles or resources in order to do this; you need knowledge because knowledge is power and I will teach you in 90Minutes, how to apply this knowledge. Its about time. Anyo
"Dr. Valentine Ojo" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: The Yoruba say: a woman who has not yet married two husbands will never appreciate the difference between men. Val Ojo -----Original Message----- From: African Oracle [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Wednesday, December 15, 2004 9:10 PM To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: Re: [abujaNig] Re: 90Minutes-Introduction "Really, it is too tempting a topic, I want to continue on my Engineering solutions and forget about these feminists whose contribution to Africa is negative because they make a lot of money out of defaming Africa." - Oghoerore Now I can go to bed. I am laughing my head off here. Greetings from the top of the mountain here where I intercept missile to damage Africa. Not this time around. Africa has been so much destroyed by people that do not know how we think or how we act and of late joined by brainwashed Africans to destroy their heritage and the beauty of their continent. No we must not allow them to turn this society into a monolithic society where we all think the same and act like zombies men and women without history. AFRICAN ORACLE ----- Original Message ----- From: oghoerore To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Thursday, December 16, 2004 2:53 AM Subject: Re: [abujaNig] Re: 90Minutes-Introduction In an Argentina holy city of Lujan, they have a saying "a las suegras hay que matarlas a los trece a�os" All mother in-laws must the killed at the age of thirteen after giving birth to her daughter at the age of twelve. An Argentine friend sent me a mail some months ago with a story that have circulated all over Argentina, it follows thus:- A man stood by the road side and saw a funeral procession with two blak coffins one in front ant the other follows, behind was second coffin was a very long cue of only men and only one line. By the first coffin was a man crying and with a big german dog with him. The on-looker spoke to the man say:- Onlooker :- Who is in the first coffin ? Man::- My wife. Onlooker: what happened? Man:- This dog killed her. Onlooker:- Who is in the following coffin? Man:- My mother in-law. Onlooker:- What happen to her? Man:- She tried to defend her doughter but the dog also killed her. Onlooker:- Please, can you lend me the dog for a day? Man:- Well but you have to take your turn on the cue, because all these men are waiting for their turn:" My people, I have never seen where in-laws especially mother in.laws are hated like in Souht America. There is no where on earth where in-laws are warshiped and respected like in Africa. Those women who are thinking that women are malthreated in Africa more than anywhere else are joking. Africa is a free society, just go marry to non-Africans and you will be free. Lunch a campaign for African women to amryy foreigner and see how successful you will be. I have African women here marrying whites and only one can say she is happy because children have not yet arrived and the man married her in Nigeria. The solution to mariatl problems lies within the tradition of the people. There is no where where women are maltreteated thamn in the Western workd that is why feminists are very strong there. South America is very integrated, white and blacks live together here, we know white men very well, these women who are judging Africans are very confused. You need to see how the white woman works in her house almost like slave to see why feminism is strongest in the Western world. By bother in-law is married to an Italian woman, when he comes from work, he sits down and the wive goes near, kneels down to be more conrtable, removes the shoes and cleans the feet and gives him the silpers before going to bring him some drinks. In 1985, I have an Italian girl friend born on Sofia, when we arrived at home, as I sat down on the chair, she squatted down to remove my shoes, and cleaned my feet and kissed them sending an electric wave accross my body, I told her that she would excite me and she said that that was exactly what she wanted to do. African feminist have a long way to go. They do not know white women, the are just quoting lesbians and abortionists. Let them go closed to married white women and they will know that the African man is the easiest to please. Really, it is too tempting a topic, I want to continue on my Engineering solutions and forget about these feminists whose contribution to Africa is negative because they make a lot of money out of defaming Africa. I hope someone has read my article on Lagosforum as regards my offer to solve the water problem, if you have contact for me please let me know. Oghoerore. ----- Original Message ----- From: "African Oracle" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Wednesday, December 15, 2004 9:34 PM Subject: Re: [abujaNig] Re: 90Minutes-Introduction > > You just introduced another angle into this debate Vivian and that is > bringing family into it. It is becoming bigger. Can we finish one before > we tackle the other. If you are in the West and comparing Orange with > Apple then something is definitely going to happen, the erosion of > matrimonial harmony in Africa visa.vis Nigeria. Yes, I am quiet aware of > the role of most in-laws in many homes in Nigeria. Some of them are pain > in the a---h. Who should be blamed? Looking at it critically, I can see > the lack of inability to separate the love and the enormous control our > parents have over us. I mean both men and women. We must not also forget > the influence of friends, religionm in any relationship. We must not > forget tradition and old knowledge. We must appreciate that in some > society women are commodities to sell not in that wise of selling but when > it comes to how much is paid as bride price and all the requirements to be > met by the groom before the marriage. > > This is not to say things are as evil as it is original portrayed by Anyo. > We should look at the basic and ask questions why things are the way they > are, instead of jumping into conclusion. It is neither here nor there, > both women and men are guilty. > > Dele Olawole > ----- Original Message ----- > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > Sent: Wednesday, December 15, 2004 11:58 PM > Subject: Re: [abujaNig] Re: 90Minutes-Introduction > > > > As a preliminary matter, well done for putting your resources towards > this > very important social issue. Whether or not the men is this forum agree, > it > is an obvious fact that there is an inequality in the > perception/socialization > of the "African boy vs. African girl", as well as the "African man vs. > African woman". I have read the comparisons and or references to such > females as > our Nigerian Finance Minister. 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