Hi Stephen

You can’t really “Decide” who gets the calls coming in. Do you both get each 
others iMessages as well? Or just the calls?
But one “work around” you can use is the following - 
Go to Settings - FaceTime. Under “You can be reached by FaceTime at”, untick 
your wife phone number. - you can do the same on hers for your number too if 
her’s rings for yours.
You can also do this in iMessage as well if you get the same text messages.
Settings - Messages - “Send & Receive” will show a number of addresses. Tap 
that. Deselect the one you don’t want to show.

That’s a quick and nasty way to do it if sharing the same AppleID.
There’s a “better” way you can have seperate ones….but it’s quite involved to 
set it u (kinda).
But you can both have seperate ones and still have access to shared Contacts 
and Calendars.

When sharing the same AppleID you can’t iMessage or FaceTime each other - as 
you’re both on the same AppleID so it naturally assumes you can’t call yourself 
:)

Kind regards
Daniel

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> On 12 Nov 2019, at 9:23 am, Stephen Chape <[email protected]> wrote:
> 
> Thank you Peter.
> I will take a look at Family Sharing.
> 
>> On 12 Nov 2019, at 8:34 am, Peter Hinchliffe <[email protected]> 
>> wrote:
>> 
>> 
>> 
>>> On 12 Nov 2019, at 8:02 am, Stephen Chape <[email protected]> wrote:
>>> 
>>> Hi Peter.
>>> I assume iTunes = iCloud.
>>> 
>>> Yes we do … and I figured that could be the reason.
>>> But we do this so that we don’t keep (and update) two separate Contacts and 
>>> Calendars.
>>> 
>>> If this is the reason, is there no way around both iPhones receiving the 
>>> same FaceTime calls ?
>>> Seems crazy to me !
>> 
>> Well, not really, because the call is coming to the account, not the device. 
>> And sorry - I should have said Apple ID rather than iTunes or even iCloud. 
>> You want to share the Contacts and the Calendars, but Facetime calls come in 
>> the same bag. 
>> 
>> I’ve never used it, but you might want to look at the options available in 
>> Family Sharing. Others might have more useful advice in that regard.
>> 
>> 
>> Kind regards,
>> 
>> Peter Hinchliffe        Apwin Computer Services
>> FileMaker Pro Solutions Developer
>> Perth, Western Australia
>> Phone (618) 9332 6482    Mob 0403 046 948
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