http://www.arabnews.com/?page=13§ion=0&article=86633&d=17&m=9&y=2006&pix=kingdom.jpg&category=Local%20Press
Saturday, 16, September, 2006 (23, Sha`ban, 1427)
Set Conditions to Regulate Polygamy
Mohammed Al-Hassany, Okaz
In spite of the fact that Islam allowed polygamy on condition
that all wives must be treated with equanimity and responsibility, some men
misuse the permission with the sole aim of hurting and agonizing their first
wives.
Others seek entertainment and sexual pleasure and brag to
their male peers about their powers and abilities to marry second, third, and
fourth wives. They believe that polygamy is all about bravery and manhood and
they exercise it without having the financial, physical and moral ability to do
so.
There are thousands of stories about polygamists who neglect
their responsibilities to their wives and abuse the objective of polygamy.
For instance, some take advantage of their wives and steal
their money by giving them false promises of constant profits. Then the man
uses the money to marry a second wife while the first one is blinded by her
ignorance and the trust in him. She suddenly realizes the truth that her
husband defrauded and abandoned her and their children while he is busy
indulging in pleasures being the groom of a new woman without worry or guilt.
I heard a story from a friend that a polygamist abandoned his
wife and children, who were forced to seek charity, and then went and married a
divorced woman who had children from a previous marriage. The man began looking
after the woman and her children while he abandoned his own. Is polygamy only
about boasting one's strengths and forgetting the sense of responsibility,
honor, manhood and morals that a man must have?
I believe it is the government's obligation toward the
citizens to set rules and regulations controlling polygamy. Men are getting
married to four wives just because they believe it is permitted. The government
must protect people from being unjust and unfair to each other. The government
must also assign qualified officials to study the abusive way people approach
polygamy in the Kingdom.
I think it's also incumbent upon families to make sure and
check the credentials of a man proposing to their daughter before marrying her
off as a second or third wife. They have to check on his financial status, his
morals and behavior, whether he has a criminal record or not, and that he's
physically fit and socially and financially secure to take another wife.
[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
=======================
Milis Wanita Muslimah
Membangun citra wanita muslimah dalam diri, keluarga, maupun masyarakat.
Situs Web: http://www.wanita-muslimah.com
ARSIP DISKUSI : http://groups.yahoo.com/group/wanita-muslimah/messages
Kirim Posting mailto:wanita-muslimah@yahoogroups.com
Berhenti mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
Milis Keluarga Sejahtera mailto:keluarga-sejahtera@yahoogroups.com
Milis Anak Muda Islam mailto:majelismuda@yahoogroups.com
This mailing list has a special spell casted to reject any attachment ....
Yahoo! Groups Links
<*> To visit your group on the web, go to:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/wanita-muslimah/
<*> Your email settings:
Individual Email | Traditional
<*> To change settings online go to:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/wanita-muslimah/join
(Yahoo! ID required)
<*> To change settings via email:
mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
<*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to:
[EMAIL PROTECTED]
<*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to:
http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
