Well maybe NO sex talk is better than that. My parents didn't tell me not to have sex, they didn't tell me to be careful, they didn't tell me not to get pregnant, they didn't tell me to tell them if I did, how to prevent it, NOTHING. It was as though the concept didn't exist. Made me wonder whether it in fact did for them, then I remembered that my brother and I somehow managed to make it on to the scene, so they must have been aware of the concept.
So how DO you make certain? Give them a miserable childhood? Or will that make them more likely as they look for an escape from the misery? --- In [email protected], "Hannah Robinson" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > I believe that sex-ed in my family can be summed up as such: > > "If you ever get pregnant, I'll kill you. Then I'll raise the baby while > you go to college." > > I had a pretty miserable adolescence (early and somewhat extreme > development, parental divorce) at an all-girls school, and then proceeded to > go that bastion of Social Normativity, the University of Chicago, so I know > exactly how to make certain my kids will never have teenage sex. > > > On 8/18/06, Ellen <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > > FWIW, my parents NEVER talked to me about sex. To this day. I'm 39. > > Therefore, I didn't talk to them about it either. There was no one I > > was interested in in high school, so it wasn't really an issue until > > college when I was no longer living in my parents' house, but still. > > I guess they figured we got whatever needed in sex ed class, the last > > of which I think was maybe 8th grade? Maybe if I did have a > > boyfriend it would have come up, but my brother had a girlfriend, I > > think, and I still don't think it came up, at least not in my > > presence and not that he told me about. I decided independently that > > I didn't want to do it just to say I had done it if I wasn't in a > > relationship, and I really didn't like my high school classmates > > much, so it wasn't an issue. Maybe my parents were more concerned > > with my lack of friends than the possibility of having too-close > > friends. Who knows? > > > > --- In [email protected]<weingartenchatters% 40yahoogroups.com>, > > "Daria Akers" > > > > <daria.akers@> wrote: > > > > > > I think that a huge part of having a daughter who respects herself > > and > > > doesn't sleep around is having a father who is in her life and > > loves her. My > > > father's love was not unconditional and when I couldn't get it I > > wanted that > > > love and acceptance from any guy. The one thing I had that they > > wanted was, > > > well, we all know right. In the big picture I got lucky... I didn't > > get HIV, > > > I didn't get pregnant, I didn't get hepititus or general herpies... > > I did > > > however get an STD and am HPV +. I have had cryosurgery to remove > > > precancerous cells from my cervix (Some places are not meant to be > > frozen!!) > > > all because of bad decisions as a teenager. So I will talk with my > > daughter > > > openly about this... I am NOT again premarital sex... I am against > > > unprotected sex. I'm also huge into getting yourself off but that's > > another > > > story. > > > Also my church has an amzing sex ed program that my daughter will > > go to... > > > http://www.uua.org/owl/ > > > Just my 2 cents. > > > Daria > > > > > > > > > > > > > Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/weingartenchatters/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
