yeah, that's an interesting observation - i'm fat and when i get insulted, it usually starts with "you fat such and such..." - for some reason people think it's ok to make fun of fat people to their face without even knowing the person... i was in a crowded bar once and had to scoot around this guy standing in a group of other guys and he said loudly (loud enough for me to hear) "ugh, i just can't deal with fat girls tonite" - as if my being fat means that i don't have feelings or should be ashamed of what i look like (btw - i'm fat b/c i have a thyroid problem) - i've even had people i don't know come up to me in the street and say "you know, you'd be so cute if you just lost weight!"...
--- In [email protected], "lovett1979" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > Ralph, his children, his church, and everyone he knows, are > homophobic (they disagree with homosexuality [how can you disagree > with a noun?], think it's morally wrong, and say so publicly). The > DJ may or may not be, and probably shouldn't have been fired. > [disclosure - i know nothing about this incident or these people > other than the two letters transcribed below] "Lesbian," in and of > itself, is not a hate word or an insult. The intent of the speaker > and the impact on the target are what's important. > > I was just today reading something about this - "it's never a matter > of how you're being insulted as much why you think you are. Mention, > say, "sexless anoraks," chances are people either recognize it > doesn't apply to them and ignore it, or...they get insulted. You > know? The [insult] is only insulting if it's agreed upon by both > [parties] that it's insulting." > > Is she fat? Is she a lesbian? Mentioning true facts is not hate- > speech. [BTW - Rosie O'Donnell has said that she noticed that "fat" > is always the first in whatever long line of insults someone is > using on her, I find that interesting] > > Sorry for the longs post, just some thoughts I had to share.
