On Aug 16, 2012, at 7:18 PM, MZMcBride <[email protected]> wrote:
> Ryan Lane wrote:
>>> What is your plan to clean up the mess you made?
>>
>> I need to call you out on this MZ. This is an incredibly rude way to
>> phrase this.
>>
>> I get that our community tends to accept this kind of behavior, but I
>> think we should really put effort into coming up with some method of
>> discouraging people from acting this way.
>
> What would have been a politer way to phrase the question? I originally
> wrote "when are you going to clean up the mess you made?", but I rewrote it.
"the mess you made".
Right there, in that phrase, you have aggressively indicated the
following:
a) That you believe someone fucked up;
b) That you think they're incompetent;
c) That you think they're being lazy about it
None of that is helpful.
This communication style typically causes the exact opposite response
from what you apparently want to have happen. I can't speak for others, but
when someone talks to *me* this way, I start tuning them out.
Honey = flies.
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