Well, the downside of staying invisible all of the time is that some folks, like me, keep their friends list set to ONLY show those friends who are online so if someone is invisible, I might not think about sending, what might be an offline hello that they might never get. If both parties chose to stay invisible all of the time, then neither would ever know each other were on and the old adage, "out of sight, out of mind" might come into play, unless one of the people decides to take a chance and send an IM to the other even though they appear to be offline.
Now, all that said, I do keep YM set to sign in as invisible so that I can sign in while I'm still doing email, etc., and not have to worry about getting a bunch of IM's while I'm in the middle of other things. Now... if you suspect a certain person (or many) might be stalking you when you're online, you can *act* like you are going to send them an IM by typing in their Yahoo ID (if you still remember it) and open a new IM window but instead of typing them an IM, choose the Actions Menu on that window, then the fly out menu for Contact Options, then the Stealth Settings fly out menu and choose "Appear permanently offline...". Last but not least, if someone is definitely harassing you, then under the Help Menu, choose "Report Abuse" and report them. Lenny Vasbinder http://lennyvasbinder.blogspot.com (Rants, Raves & Information) FREE and automatic online remote backup of your documents, photos and files... https://mozy.com/?ref=SY4ZSI Check out how simple and secure it can be to use the Mozy remote backup system. Mozy will back up your most important files and folders every day/night while you aren't using your computer. -----Original Message----- From: Steve S [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: Tuesday, March 09, 2010 11:40 PM To: [email protected] Cc: Lenny Vasbinder Subject: RE: [Y!M] Question Thanks for that. It's something I never thought about. Wish I had belonged to this group years ago b/c there's probably a lot of people out there now that I've deleted who still see me online and have passed me on to others to create a spam menagerie. I guess the safest way to be online is to always sign in as invisible and stay there. I have x friends who I've deleted who I haven't realized may be causing me problems. --- On Tue, 3/9/10, LNVTM1 - Lenny Vasbinder <[email protected]> wrote: From: LNVTM1 - Lenny Vasbinder <[email protected]> Subject: RE: [Y!M] Question To: [email protected] Date: Tuesday, March 9, 2010, 9:15 AM No it does not delete you from their list... but there are steps you can take to minimize IM's from them. Here is how I do it to minimize IM's. Prior to deleting them (but this can also be done after you've deleted them with different instructions below), right click on their name and choose Stealth Settings and change them so that you are Invisible to them permanently. .. although sometimes this setting will change back to Visible for some reason. It's a YM glitch on Yahoo servers, not on your computer so there's not much you can do about it except re-mark yourself as Invisible again. Once you are changed to Invisible, then you can delete them and also delete them from your YM address book as well, if you like. The next time they IM you, they will show up as someone NOT on your friends list and then you can click the link to mark them as spam and then you should no longer get IM's from them any longer. Each time you do get an IM from them, you can look at the Actions Menu, Stealth Settings to make sure you are still showing up as Invisible to them but if it has changed, then change it back to Invisible again and then mark them as spam again. However, if you go to chat rooms on a regular basis and mark lots of bots as spam, your Ignore List will fill up and then you have to empty it on a regular basis so that you Ignore new spam-bots or others again. To do this, click on the Main Messenger Menu, choose Preferences, then Ignore List. Highlight all of the names you wish to remove from the Ignore List (I just highlight them all) and Remove them, then choose Apply and close the Ignore List and Preference windows until next time it's needed. After a while, the person will quit IM'ing you as long as you DO NOT reply to them. Now.. your next thing that you might want to do is change a setting that lets Yahoo show you up as online in all of your group's or other Yahoo "services". To do this, go back to the Main Messenger Menu, choose Preferences again and then the Privacy section and UN-CHECK the "Allow Yahoo web sites to show when I am online" and this *should* change you to offline in all of your groups so that someone in one of your groups that you might not want IM's from, will not be able to see you as online in the group messages or members list section. Now, all this said, if they are persistent, they can still send you IM's even if you are not showing up as online anywhere and then it's just a matter of marking yourself as Invisible again, reporting them as spam again, blocking them again and hopefully they'll give up after a while. Lenny Vasbinder http://lennyvasbind er.blogspot. com <http://lennyvasbinder.blogspot.com/> (Rants, Raves & Information) FREE and automatic online remote backup of your documents, photos and files... https://mozy. com/?ref= SY4ZSI <https://mozy.com/?ref=SY4ZSI> Check out how simple and secure it can be to use the Mozy remote backup system. Mozy will back up your most important files and folders every day/night while you aren't using your computer. -----Original Message----- From: Yahoo_Messenger@ yahoogroups. com <http://us.mc511.mail.yahoo.com/mc/compose?to=Yahoo_Messenger%40yahoogroups. com> [mailto:Yahoo_Messenger@ yahoogroups. com <http://us.mc511.mail.yahoo.com/mc/compose?to=Yahoo_Messenger%40yahoogroups. com> ] On Behalf Of Steve S Sent: Monday, March 08, 2010 9:13 PM To: Yahoo_Messenger@ yahoogroups. com <http://us.mc511.mail.yahoo.com/mc/compose?to=Yahoo_Messenger%40yahoogroups. com> Subject: [Y!M] Question Can anyone tell me...if I delete someone from my contact/friends list does that automatically delete me from their list or can they still see if I'm online or not? Thanks for adding me to the group...
