Many, many things can be *said* about Bill's alleged statement: "when one has a problem with someone, it is never theirs, it's always yours."
For starters: (1) It's a koan (2) Truth, once it is spoken is no longer the truth. (3) Truth cannot be asserted or denied. (4) Every statement is 50% right. (4) If one does not adopt some sort of attitude like this, no intelligent and non-violent solution can be arrived at. (5) I first heard such a statement made at a "Pursuit of Excellence" seminar some 26 years ago in the form: "If your wife is angry, how have you caused her anger?" (From memory) (6) Or, if your wife is angry, and you want her not to be angry, then you have a need, and *you* must change your ways so as not to rouse her anger. (7) etc. Plenty of room for controversy, no? ;-) --ED --- In Zen_Forum@yahoogroups.com, "things_rose" <things_r...@...> wrote: > > Bill, in a previous post to DP you said something about when one has a problem with someone, it is never theirs it's always yours.