Good morning, JMJM,
You said: "she has learned to give, to give, to give, to serve, to serve and serve. She just fulfilled each moment as always and more each day." Was Viki ever-so-slightly resentful of this situation, or did Viki rejoice in the opportunity afforded her by cultural mores and her family to engage in the unconditional love of the 'meditation of service', with a view to eradicating her ego? Did Viki ask for help to be liberated from her predicament, or did the congregation in their wisdom and compassion proceed to be a light unto Viki and tell her what was good for her? --ED --- In Zen_Forum@yahoogroups.com, Jue Miao Jing Ming wrote: > Good morning All, Viki has been meditating with us for over 10 years now. Through out her journey, she has learned to give, to give, to give, to serve, to serve and serve, while her husband, Dr. Tracy Lee with an upbringing of a Chinese husband, does no house chores whatsoever. Similar to my father and my grandpa. Viki did not complain. She just fulfilling each moment as always and more each day. Last week, Viki shared with us with joy, that after twenty years of marriage. Tracy finally took the initiative to cook dinner every day, after he realized that he is home much earlier than Viki, because she has more work to do at the office. Because of it, I share the lesson that I have learned. From time to time you may have heard that I spoil my wife bad. I do things most of the husbands are not willing to do, because they consider it beyond their duty. The secret of doing more than asking for, actually results in my own liberation. A lot of times, I have to get up in midst of an exciting Laker's game to wash dishes. I have to swallow my ego to say or to do things my father would look down upon for not being a man, meaning against my own upbringing. The truth that I have learned is that, fulfilling every moment, or do more as needed, actually liberate myself from all mental construct of who I am and who I should do, or be, or think. I am capable to do anything at any time now. Yes, I am free finally. "Isn't that so?" I asked Tracy. He smiled and nodded. "You practice and witness." my Teacher would say. "Life is in your own hand. I am just a tour guide." JMJM Head Teacher Order of Chan -- Be Enlightened In This Life - We ALL Can http://chanjmjm.blogspot.com <http://chanjmjm.blogspot.com> http://www.heartchan.org <http://www.heartchan.org>
