Hi Ed,

Valid question. No different from you and I, Viki did not begin to serve and serve and give and give without feeling a sense of "unfairness".

As she practices to learn about life, she gradually shed of her "unfair opinion" of conditions in life. It is usually triggered by witnesses from others, as well as her own awakening from inside. All these could not have happened unless she sits.

Then her unconditional giving woke up her husband to realize life is not about fairness, or duty, or role. Life is simply fulfilling every moment. There is no destiny, no objective, no accomplishment. Just be at ease and liberated at every moment. By the way, her husband also picked up this practice six years ago. And only two weeks ago, he began to participate in house chores. To surpass ourselves, our habits, our values, our identify and to be truly liberated at all moment, does take time.

My Teacher said, "This is a gradual practice to attain sudden awakening."

Meaning we either awake or not awake. :-)

Be Enlightened In This Life - We ALL Can

On 12/22/2010 8:13 AM, ED wrote:

Good morning, JMJM,

You said: "she has learned to give, to give, to give, to serve, to serve and serve. She just fulfilled each moment
as always and more each day."

Was Viki ever-so-slightly resentful of this situation, or did Viki rejoice in the opportunity afforded her by cultural mores and her family to engage in the unconditional love of the 'meditation of service', with a view to eradicating her ego?

Did Viki ask for help to be liberated from her predicament, or did the congregation in their wisdom and compassion proceed to be a light unto Viki and tell her what was good for her?


--- In Zen_Forum@yahoogroups.com, Jue Miao Jing Ming wrote:
Good morning All,

Viki has been meditating with us for over 10 years now. Through out her
journey,she has learned to give, to give, to give, to serve, to serve
and serve, while her husband, Dr. Tracy Lee with an upbringing of a
Chinese husband, does no house chores whatsoever. Similar to my father
and my grandpa. Viki did not complain. She just fulfilling each moment
as always and more each day.

Last week, Viki shared with us with joy, that after twenty years of
marriage. Tracy finally took the initiative to cook dinner every day,
after he realized that he is home much earlier than Viki, because she
has more work to do at the office.

Because of it, I share the lesson that I have learned. From time to
time you may have heard that I spoil my wife bad. I do things most of
the husbands are not willing to do, because they consider it beyond
their duty. The secret of doing more than asking for, actually results
in my own liberation.

A lot of times, I have to get up in midst of an exciting Laker's game to
wash dishes. I have to swallow my ego to say or to do things my father
would look down upon for not being a man, meaning against my own upbringing.

The truth that I have learned is that, fulfilling every moment, or do
more as needed, actually liberate myself from all mental construct of
who I am and who I should do, or be, or think. I am capable to do
anything at any time now. Yes, I am free finally.

"Isn't that so?" I asked Tracy. He smiled and nodded.

"You practice and witness." my Teacher would say. "Life is in your own
hand. I am just a tour guide."

Head Teacher
Order of Chan

Be Enlightened In This Life - We ALL Can

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