ED: Apologies, I gave you the response before in a different post. Posting below link from the wiki. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anthony_de_Mello Mayka
--- On Mon, 28/2/11, ED <[email protected]> wrote: From: ED <[email protected]> Subject: [Zen] Re: Don't Change - By Anthony De Mello To: [email protected] Date: Monday, 28 February, 2011, 14:56 Dear Anthony de Mello, Here are a few thoughts on the depresion-challenge you face/faced in your life. > Dedicated to all those who accept us just as we are: The way human nature has evolved, never-ending unconditional love and compassion are not apects of intrinsic human nature, especially when the depressed patient makes never-ending demands on one's time and energy. > There is this story by Anthony de Mello I like it very much for its > simplicity. > I was a neurotic for years. Anxious, depressed, selfish. And everyone kept > telling me to change. All beings want to be happy. All beings desire to be free from suffering.They kept telling you to change not only for your sake, but mainly for their own sakes, hoping that you would cease to be such a depressing pain in the ass. > And I resented them, and agreed with them, and wanted the change, but simple > couldn't. No matter how I tried. You resented them because you possess a 'wrong' understanding of human nature, how relationships work, and a deluded sense of entitlement. > What hurt the most was that, like the others, My closest friend kept urging > me to change. So, I fell powerless trapped. And you felt that *they* were responsible for your feeling trapped? > One day he said: "Don't change, I love you as you are" > These words were music to my ears: "Don't change. Don't change. Don't > change.... > I love you as you are" > I relaxed, I come alive. And suddenly, I changed! Whatever was ailing you pychologically must have been minor, if that's all it took to cure your problem. Usually it's an ongoing game of dependency and energy-sucking with little concern for others' needs. > Now I know that I couldn't really change till I found someone to love me > whether I changed or not. I would suggest that other seekers for unconditional love not hold their breaths! > Is this how you love me, God? That's a great belief, if it succeeds in shifting the burden of your neuroticism off the shoulders of friends and relatives. Anthony de Mello, thank you for sharing. Kind regards, ED --- In [email protected], Maria Lopez <flordeloto@...> wrote: > > Dedicated to all those who accept us just as we are: > > There is this story by Anthony de Mello I like it very much for its > simplicity. > > I was a neurotic for years. Anxious, depressed, > selfish. And everyone kept telling me to chance. > > And I resented them, and agreed with them, and > wanted the change, but simple couldn't. No matter how I tried. > > What hurt the most was that, like the others, > My closest friend kept urging me to change. > So, I fell powerless trapped. > > One day he said: "Don't change, I love you as you are" > These words were music to my ears: "Don't change. Don't change. Don't > change.... > I love you as you are" > I relaxed, I come alive. And suddenly, I changed! > > Now I know that I couldn't really change till I found > someone to love me whether I changed or not. > > I this how you love me, God?
