Hey Mel; As they say:No mud, no lotus. ^_^ . Thank you for the humility and human warm energy that comes from your post. Here you go and, your suffering become already compassion at the time of empathising with Mayka difficulties!. Don't undervalue your heart power. Mayka
--- On Thu, 12/5/11, Mel <[email protected]> wrote: From: Mel <[email protected]> Subject: Re: [Zen] Zen with no concepts To: [email protected] Date: Thursday, 12 May, 2011, 12:41 --- On Thu, 12/5/11, Maria Lopez <[email protected]> wrote: But finding particularly difficult flowing with impermanence in a relationship. One gets very quickly attach to some moments during a relationship in a way that if that change, one tries at all cost to have the same moment or alike back!. It's so true that statement that we don't suffer due to impermance but due to the believe that things are permanent. --------------------------------------------- MEL: Thank you for the reminder Mayka. Wow, I can so much relate to this dualistic way of suffering due to attachment to permanence...for all things. It takes heart to really learn the lesson from above through practise, but I hope one day to cross this threshold ------------------------------------------------------- I'd like to ask to all how do you get on with impermanence?. -------------------------------------------------------------- MEL: Not easy..not easy at all.. ------------------------------------- What are your experiences here?. ---------------------------------- MEL: I've always thought of myself as indestructible, and so full of Cassanova-like charm for years. The arrival of arthritis, gout, and other ailments on my ageing body, and public humiliation suffered for running twice after young girls (with issues) almost half my age who were already in committed relationships changed much of my old thinking. It was a very, hard change in life. Suddenly thinking like an elder (practically overnight) was a very sharp turn, and which I've been doing for a few years now A part of me misses so much those youthful years of the 70s-80s period..but it doesn't take me long to realize this to be just plain nuts ------------------------------------------------------- Do you struggle with it? ----------------------------------- MEL: Yes, I struggle with it but things are getting better. Much of the pain of change lessens as the years go by. (Shunryu)Suzuki-sensei spoke of beautiful things as being out of balance. Imbalanced, and yet at one with the balanced surroundings. All things beautiful are such because they're imbalanced. My added thinking to this however, is that nothing stays imbalanced/balanced forever. One can see this quite clearly with our own planet, and what it has been going through in the last number of years so far (Shunryu)Suzuki-sensei also spoke of the need for 'weeds' in our life. We all need such 'weeds', for they nourish our proper spiritual growth. And so the beauty and 'weeds' as such that have been in my life as described above are the great Buddha's teachings and compassion It will not be easy. A 'horse' like myself could be led by the great Buddha to the waters of compassion....but it is up to me (if I have heart) to 'drink and quench my thirst' Buddha be praised Mel
