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Dear Vikram and all, I have been subject to one or two such tete-a-tetes earlier on. We all have (Though not to the tune of Rs 25,000!) I agree with Vikram fully that the 'sweet, innocent' guy should file a complaint. However, what do we do with the police? I have experienced this too. It feels like a rape victim. The bloody sarkari stray dogs relish it with saedistically heady about it... Kya kar raha tha tu uske saath? Aisa gaand marvane ka kaam roj karte hai tum log?Gharwaalon ko malum hai kya tu mooh me leta hai? Kya kya kiya hai pehle? Kiske kiske saath kiya hai? Mil gaya majaa? Saale lavde ke peechhe bhaagte rehte! I know it reads gros. But it feels more grotesque. The robbery apart, a new chapter in verbal sexual abuse begins. AND YET, I will still go by what Vikram says. I will thunder to the police that this is a robbery first and he bloody not shift the focus. There is no sexual activity or physical proximity even begun. So no shitty 377 or god alone knows which archaic decency-in-public-places thing of the Bombay Police Act would apply. The cops know for sure - Murder is a crime. Attempt to Murder is a crime. Intention to Murder IS NOT. And mind you, refusal to register an FIR is a crime by itself. I can fall in the legal purview of 'abettment to crime'. If you persist, they will do it. Gay, girl, glutton or grocer - you are a citizen first. And as if the police don't know what gay is all about! So lets use the law, not as gays - but as citizens. And a little word for our 'innocent' friend. Maybe innocence does not permit you to combat situations, but is surely seems to be allowing you to meet a 'ramp model' in a single chat for gay porn CD exchange and enthusiastically go rubber-shopping pronto! Please, I say, please... even in your single-time flings and one-night stands... not forget to double check. *Meet in public venues that are crowded and move on to something similar (eg. coffee shops as against deserted alleys) . People with mallified intetion would normally not do any wrong in public view out of consciousnes. NEVER entertain to copulate in the open. *Never possess/acquire anything that indicates intention for sexual activity. Definitely not in front of a first-timer. It may be used as so-called evidence for blackmail. A wise gay man always carries a single pillow pack in his wallet! (PS. Knowing people and buying condom is no longer related. Even the chemists have ceased being dramatic and explain features and pricing quite clinically.) *Never let out precise information about your financial, social well-being in the first meet. This used as data to ascertain the ransom. Underselling yourself works best in the gay world and even otherwise! Also work with a psuedonym in initial stages. *Gather more data in a chat to read between the lines. Now this is based quite a lot on individual intelligence. A guy who is looking for genuine togetherness will be ready to talk at ease, talk about the weather and stuff and answer more than question. A chat as predicatbe as asl-stats-role-likes-place-wanna meet = 'beep' 'beep' beep'. AT THE LOCATION OF FIRST MEET / CRUISE * Do not carry valuables, money (real or plastic), ornaments), possesions (... I mean worldly), any proof of identity. Dress up, accesorise cheap, carry the rubber, the fare to and fro (use hired/public transport) and some loose minimum cash. Leave the watch, chain, wallet. I know friend who actually has a cheap 3310 Nokia and who changes his chip when he is out queening! *If people come and catch hold of you and say "What?" reply back with a bloody confident, vile, nasty, fiery "What the bloody hell?". This straight cut shot of confidence is a sharp puncture for their confidence. *Refuse to budge. Stand at the same place. No taxi, no 'chal saath', no 'dikhaata hai tujhko'. Be glued and shameless. Bystanders, onlookers if any will doubt the hyper them and not you. Disown the your new found love 'then and there'. Let people ask what's on. Act victimised and say that you alone were just taking a walk! *Let them take all they want (Remember, you have nothing). Answer no question straight. Be unperturbed and cold. "Kidhar rehta hai?" - Tereko Kya. "Police Ke Paas Chal" - Tere Ko Jaana Hai Toh Jaa, Nahi To Laa Police Ki Gaadi Idhar Laa. "Paise De Abhi" - Mere Paas Kuch Nahi Hai. "Kya Kaam Karta Hai" - Kuch Nahi Karta, Bekaar Hai. Just go on... *If they still wanna hit you or grab you or abduct you by force - SCREAM. Scream like no queen has screamed before. 90 per cent chance is that they will run away for the fear of persecution. 10 per cent chances are that you will get help. Say you are being robbed, mugged, offerred sex, gang-raped... basically being offended dangerously. Nothing in Mumbai works like crowd power. Too many people ar far too frustrated, that they are ready to bash anybody for free! COMBAT NOT WITH FEAR BUT WITH FORCE..... Love, NP =================================== Hi all, there are two cases that I have handled that I can speak of. The first was with our late friend Pushkin Chandra. He was being blackmailed by a beat cop from Nehru Park in Delhi, and the cop had over two occasions taken some money from him and was demanding more. That was when he contacted me at Lawyers Collective where I was working then. I had advised him to report the matter to the police but he was not willing to do that. At that I asked him to just tell the cop to fuck off, which he gathered courage and did. The cop did lay off him from then on and never bothered him after that. The second was also when I was in the Lawyers Collective. The case was one of classic entrapment. Met over the net, called to a house where just after the person opened his pants, 3 more men came in snapped pictures and demanded 50000 rupees claiming that they were police. To complicate matters the person was from a 'respectable' family and 'married with kids'. He did pay some money at the first instance and then contacted the Lawyers Collective. As is the usual procedure he was advised to file a police complaint, which he did not because of the afore mentioned 2 complications. But then it was discovered that his brother in law was a pretty high up in the Delhi Police. So a confession was made by this gent to the bro-in-law, who arranged for a meeting of the gent with the blackmailers to pay up, with plainclothes police in tow. The blackmailers were picked up and 3 of the 4 were found to be actually police men, beat constables working in cahoots with the 4th person who trawled the chat rooms for victims. The four were taken to a local police chowki and given a through thrashing. The bro-in-law also made them pay the gent back all the money they had taken and imposed an additional fine of 10000 rupees each. The blackmailers paid up because they would otherwise have lost their jobs with the Delhi police, and they were also 'married with kids'. So the blackmailed went back home with a net profit of 40000 rupees. The respectability of the family was protected, no case ever came to court, and we the poor gay men of the world who do not have the right brother-in-law in the right place were left in the lurch to be blackmailed by the next entrepreneur who thought up a similar scheme. Best regards to all, Aditya Bondyopadhyay ---------------------------------------------------- -- www.gaybombay.info ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> Give the gift of life to a sick child. 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