Clay wrote:
> Avital, I didn't mean to imply that you weren't doing your > job as moderator... Just as you said, the people involved I didn't take it that way. I was just pointing out why I tend not to get involved unless things start to get really ugly or someone specifically requests that I step in. I start from the assumption that we are all adults, more or less, and can usually work things out without outside intervention. (BTW, I changed the subject heading so that people would understand why a "chat" kind of message is on Lace.) > were stung by the comments, and two people with whom I have > a cordial relationship have expressed their feelings to me. > I want to make the point that they are contributing members > of Arachne, and if they do, in fact, leave the list, we will > all be poorer as a consequence. Posting on a public list means that sometimes one receives brick bats instead of accolades. It's a fact of life, except in moderated lists that are strictly on-topic (the magnetic nuclear resonance technicians' list comes to mind) and if one posts regularly, one will occasionally bear the brunt of an attack. Choosing to stay or leave is a personal decision. If someone's psyche is so fragile that they can't bear negative comments, yet they *must* post, then a fully moderated list would be a more appropriate environment than a "semi-moderated" (i.e., posts appear without my approving them first) list like Arachne. > > Some time back, (it's been years now...) a friend of mine > took offense on a fairly regular basis to things one > particular member wrote. Her solution was to block email > from this member, and now she doesn't have to see it Hey, I'm a big fan of "twit files" (sounds so much nicer than a "kill file")! <g> Obviously, I don't have filters on any of the lists I moderate, but I do use them for other lists. I highly recommend setting up filters to stream certain subscribers to the trash. It's easy and makes life much more pleasant. (If anyone needs help setting one up, e-mail me privately and I'll try to talk you through the process.) Avital - To unsubscribe send email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] containing the line: unsubscribe lace [EMAIL PROTECTED] For help, write to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
