g_b The GB Central suburbs meet - Sunday 18th May
Day, Date Time: Sunday 18 May, 201 Between 5:30 to 6:00 pm at Gathering Point and then at someone’s place Venue: Gathering Point: Cafe Coffee Day Near Main Entrance, Korum Mall, Next to Cadburys Factory, Eastern Express Highway, Thane (West) Gay Bombay meets this Sunday at Thane! Join us as we catch up on the month that was or just chit chat in general and talks about summer plans! We will assemble outside the Cafe Coffee Day at Korum Mall (the one outside the Mall) between 5:30 and 6:00 pm and then move to the place of our GB member. So make sure that you reach Cafe Coffee Day before 6:00 pm. Lookout for the guy in Black Cap ( or a group of cuties J) Directions: If you are coming by train, at Thane Station (West) hail an auto-rikshaw to Korum Mall If you are coming by road, Korum Mall is next to Cadburys factory on Eastern Express Highway Cover: Free entry to the meet Note : 1. Do get your friends along to help them gain access to a group especially if they are not netizens. 2. You do not have to be out to the world to attend. This is a discreet event being held as a clean, safe social get-together of a non-sexual nature. Hardly any of those attending are out as such. 3. You need to be at least 18 years of age to attend. 4. There may be many who will prefer being discreet or may be still be coming to terms with themselves hence a request that all be sensitive to this and act and dress accordingly. 5. To identify the group look out for someone wearing a black cap
Re: g_b gb sunday meet
Hi Actually it is the other way round for many others as they have plans for saturday and find a sunday evening more suitable to unwind the weekend and chit chat in a friendly atmosphere. A sunday (or 2) out of 5 -- surely you can make that :) Cheers Manoj From: Rohan Rajput rohan_rajpu...@yahoo.co.in To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Sent: Friday, 25 April 2014, 17:10 Subject: g_b gb sunday meet Guys, can we have this get togahther on saturday. Its quite difficult to come out of home on sunday when everyone is at home and expect us to be with them. its a request. Thanks Rohan
g_b The Gay Bombay Thane meet
Day, Date Time: Sunday 27 April, 2014 Between 5:30 to 6:00 pm at Gathering Point and then at someone’s place Venue: Gathering Point: Cafe Coffee Day Near Main Entrance, Korum Mall, Next to Cadburys Factory, Eastern Express Highway, Thane (West) Gay Bombay meets this Sunday at Thane! Join us as we catch up on the month that was or just chit chat in general and talks about summer plans! We will assemble outside the Cafe Coffee Day at Korum Mall (the one outside the Mall) between 5:30 and 6:00 pm and then move to the place of our GB member. So make sure that you reach Cafe Coffee Day before 6:00 pm. Lookout for the guy in Black Cap ( or a group of cuties J) Directions: If you are coming by train, at Thane Station (West) hail an auto-rikshaw to Korum Mall If you are coming by road, Korum Mall is next to Cadburys factory on Eastern Express Highway Cover: Free entry to the meet Note : 1. Do get your friends along to help them gain access to a group especially if they are not netizens. 2. You do not have to be out to the world to attend. This is a discreet event being held as a clean, safe social get-together of a non-sexual nature. Hardly any of those attending are out as such. 3. You need to be at least 18 years of age to attend. 4. There may be many who will prefer being discreet or may be still be coming to terms with themselves hence a request that all be sensitive to this and act and dress accordingly. 5. To identify the group look out for someone wearing a black cap
Re: g_b Wednesday's Woe
:D Regards, M.Shroff From: asfan asfa...@yahoo.com To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Sent: Sunday, 2 February 2014 11:30 PM Subject: Re: g_b Wednesday's Woe The guy didn't realise that the other guys had rejected him by saying, Nein which means no in German. He had misinterpreted it as Nine on a scale of ten. On Sunday, 2 February 2014 10:58 AM, Manoj Shroff noorkajhur...@yahoo.co.in wrote: Didnt understand this one ... Pls explain. ... On Jan 14, 2014, at 10:40 PM, asfan asfa...@yahoo.com wrote: I met a friend in a bar and noticed two hunks looking at me. Nine I heard one of them whisper when I passed. Feeling chuffed, I swaggered up to my friend and told him that the boys had just rated me a nine out of ten. I don't want to ruin it for you, he replied, but when I walked past them, they were speaking German.
Re: g_b Wednesday's Woe
Didnt understand this one ... Pls explain. ... On Jan 14, 2014, at 10:40 PM, asfan asfa...@yahoo.com wrote: I met a friend in a bar and noticed two hunks looking at me. Nine I heard one of them whisper when I passed. Feeling chuffed, I swaggered up to my friend and told him that the boys had just rated me a nine out of ten. I don't want to ruin it for you, he replied, but when I walked past them, they were speaking German.
Re: g_b Join your groups
I second this. ... On Jan 25, 2014, at 10:56 AM, Richard A Ammon mic...@yahoo.com wrote: I suggest GayBombay and Gay_Bombay join together as one group instead of readers having to sort through two news listings. Are we not all one family?!
Re: g_b Karma and Liquid Lounge Presents GB's New Year Eve Party on 31st Dec 2013 !!!!
Alex The judgement passed is on the ACT of anal sex and not on being gay or partying with gay people. GB parties were happening even in pre 2009 era for a long long time-- and all of them have promised a sex free safe environment so that for a few, the entire community does not lose their fun. On technical grounds also, police cannot harass you for partying with a gay group -- rather we know of some straight friends who will be at the GB party too as it is great fun and an awesome deal at that venue. Also the girgaum police has been one of the most tolerant and understanding police stations (they are with us on each pride after all! ). So worry about what you are gonna wear tonight, who you will be taking to party (and after it), wear your best shoes and shake some booty! Cheers Manoj From: alex james joyalex2...@yahoo.co.in To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Sent: Saturday, 28 December 2013, 11:13 Subject: Re: g_b Karma and Liquid Lounge Presents GB's New Year Eve Party on 31st Dec 2013 Dear Team, Congratulations 'GB'for organizing both the lounges this timeseems its really gonna memorable night. But just a small doubtWould it be safe this time as just the judgement has been passed by the Supreme court before a few days n hope that GB partying would not be an offence even though the rights are reserved? Pls reply... Regards, Alex. On Thursday, 26 December 2013 3:15 AM, Dee luvde...@yahoo.com wrote: Karma and Liquid Lounge Presents GB's New Year Eve Party on 31st Dec 2013 Party till the wee hours of the morning 2 DJ Stations! 3 large dance floors! 2 Bar Counters! Unlimited Veg and Non Veg Starters Lip-smacking Veg and Non Veg Dinner Fabulicious Desserts The biggest GB's New Year Party ever! This year, GB's is throwing its biggest New Year’s Party ever! For the first time, we’ve booked both Karma and Liquid Lounge, two of Bombay’s sexiest discotheques. That makes for a huge space, with 2 DJ Stations, 3 Dance floors and 2 Bar counters. As the thousands of people who have been a part of the event over the years will tell you, there's nothing to beat the GB Party on New Year’s Eve. The biggest party on GB's crowded annual calendar is also one of India's biggest gay events, drawing party animals from every part of the world. GB is a veteran party organiser, with nearly two decades of experience, so you can be sure our event will be well planned and safe. Karma and Liquid Lounge, located in Mumbai’s Opera House area, make for ideal party venues on New Year’s, when people are out in large numbers. They are located in the same building, in the heart of Mumbai, close to Girgaum beach and walking-distance from Charni Road station (an important factor on New Year’s Eve, when the roads are crowded and traffic is jammed). Food and drink are unlimited. The dinner menu (given below) is the best in town and we’re also serving up novelty hors d’oeuvres like vodka pani-puris. And the music goes on till the wee hours of the morning, so you can dance till you drop. Come bring in 2014 with the GB crowd. We promise you, it will be a night to remember. Date: 31st December 2013 Time: 9 pm to 4 am Venue: Karma and Liquid Lounge Sukh Sagar, 534 S.V.P. Road , Mumbai 47. (Near Girgaum Chowpatty and Opera House; opposite Standard Chartered Bank. Charni Road is the closest station). Cover Charge: Rs 2500/- till 28 December, passes available at venue Rs 2,700/- after 28 December and on night of the party (To defray the expenses of the party) The Cover Charge includes: Unlimited Regular Soft Drinks, Mocktails, Unlimited Alcohol (Whiskey, Gin, Vodka, White Rum, Dark Rum Beer). Unlimited Starters, Dinner and Dessert. 31st Dec 2013 - GB Party Dinner Menu Veg Starters Potato and Cheese Croquettes Cajun Cottage Cheese Cigars Non Veg Starters Chicken Nagpuri Khada Masala Tikka Malayasian Chicken Satay Salads Thai Noodle Salad Aloo Corn Chaat Mediterranean Roast Vegetables with Feta Cheese. Veg Main Course Vegetable Lasagne Thai Mussaman Vegetable Curry. Non Veg Main Course Kung Pao Chicken Barbeque Chicken in Red Wine Pepper Sauce Accompaniments Bread Rolls Moon Foon Rice Dal Makhani Papads Pickles Desserts Assorted Cheese Cakes Hot Hot Gooey Chocolate Pie Vanilla Ice Cream Live Counter Vodka Pani Puri Counter Some don'ts: Use of any illegal substance is strictly prohibited. No dark rooms and no sex on the premises; if found indulging in any hanky panky you shall be asked to leave the party. Don’t overdrink and puke all over the place A few dos: Have a smashing time. Know your limits and Drink sensibly Carry your Alcoholic Drinks Permit Right of admission reserved. Incase you have a difficulty in going to the venue before 28th then you can also transfer the amount to Karma/Liquid Lounge. Their details are ACCOUNT NAME : BOMBAY CYCLE MOTOR AGENCY LIMITED BANK NAME: STATE BANK OF INDIA BRANCH : GIRGAON BANK
g_b GB Central Line meet - Sunday 24th Nov
Day, Date Time: Sunday 24 November, 2013, Between 5:00 to 5:30 pm at Gathering Point and then at someone’s place Venue: Gathering Point: Outside Cafe Coffee Day Wonder Mall,Ghodbunder Road,Thane (West) Gay Bombay meets this Sunday at Thane! Join us as we catch up on the month that was and just chit chat in general. We will assemble outside the Cafe Coffee Day at Wonder Mall (note the change in venue) between 5:00 and 5:30 pm and then move to the place of our GB member. So make sure that you reach Cafe Coffee Day before 5:30 pm. There is only one CCD over here and quite a bit of a gathering place on the stairs next to the Dominos. We would be outside the CCD, opposite Pizza Hut. Lookout for the guy in Black Cap ( or a group of cuties J) Directions: If you are coming by train, at Thane Station (West) hail an auto-rickshaw to go to Wonder Mall - Kapurbawdi If you are coming by road, Wonder Mall is at the start of Ghodbunder Road just ahead of the Majiwada Flyover on Eastern Express Highway.If you are coming by bus from Thane Station, take buses which go to Mira Road, Borivli, Waghbil, Patlipada, Gorai (there are quite a few which go to Ghodbunder Road) and get down at Vidyapeeth / Kapurbawdi stop. The Mall is to the left. If you are coming from Borivli, take the bus to Thane and get down at Kapurbawdi Stop. The Mall will be on the opposite side of the road. Cover: Free entry to the meet Note : 1. Do get your friends along to help them gain access to a group especially if they are not netizens. 2. You do not have to be out to the world to attend. This is a discreet event being held as a clean, safe social get-together of a non-sexual nature. Hardly any of those attending are out as such. 3. You need to be at least 18 years of age to attend. 4. There may be many who will prefer being discreet or may be still be coming to terms with themselves hence a request that all be sensitive to this and act and dress accordingly. 5. To identify the group look out for someone wearing a black cap
Re: g_b Why is it like this?
Now, if he is a man with more female properties, he could be gay So people like you, who are so normal that it would take the effort of having sex with you to know you are gay, are gay even if they have less of female properties? Or the female properties are so focused in one part that they out weigh the other male property during sex and hence make the person gay? And O M F G --- so if a person is completely gay and a top, he would be a campy top as he has more of female qualities. God save the Macho top. A worried, Manoj ps: cross posting From: Bloot Fontaine blutfonta...@yahoo.co.in To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Cc: gaybom...@yahoogroups.com gaybom...@yahoogroups.com Sent: Wednesday, 30 October 2013, 12:21 Subject: Re: g_b Why is it like this? Dear Rahul, Yes, you are right. There IS a difference between girlish boys and gays. In my school, in class also, we had plenty of girlish boys who all grew up, got married and have children AND ARE STILL GIRLISH! And then we also had boys like me who always were normal BUT WERE ATTRACTED TO MEN! I am gay but if you met me, you would never believe it! Only those I have had sex with know the real me. So this difference DOES exist and as you correctly said, you have to date both men and women and discover for yourself whether your are girlish but heterosexual or girlish and gay. I think it is like this because I had read a report by Hite on Male Sexuality that children are born of both men and women and are the combination of both - mother and father. Now, if he is a man with more female properties, he could be gay. Conversely, if she is a woman with more manly qualities and knows karate - don't fight with her! Hahahahahaha! All the best! Regards. On Wednesday, 30 October 2013 1:09 AM, Rahul Boob rahulb...@yahoo.in wrote: From my childhood days, I remember behaving girlish, dancing on girly numbers and decorating dolls etc. Obviously I dont do all this now. Also, from the beginning, I have felt very uncomfortable in the company of boys. Dont know about now, as I have kept myself secluded. Right now, My life has become very dull and I want to be with some guys and make friends and you know , enjoy, properly like other guys, but still this fact comes to my find, that like before, I would again feel uncomfortable , nervous and unhappy in boys' company. What is this that I am facing? How can I deal with it? I might be gay too, but I'll be confirmed about it only after I am confident about myself and have dated both boys girls! Thanks.
g_b The GayBombay Central Line meet - 27th Oct
Day, Date Time: Sunday 27 October, 2013, Between 5:00 to 5:30 pm at Gathering Point and then at someone’s place (note the change in timings) Venue: Gathering Point: Outside Cafe Coffee Day Wonder Mall, Ghodbunder Road, Thane (West) Gay Bombay meets this Sunday at Thane! Join us as we catch up on the month that was, our plans for Diwali or just chit chat in general. We will assemble outside the Cafe Coffee Day at Wonder Mall (note the change in venue) between 5:00 and 5:30 pm and then move to the place of our GB member. So make sure that you reach Cafe Coffee Day before 5:30 pm. There is only one CCD over here and quite a bit of a gathering place on the stairs next to the Dominos. We would be outside the CCD, opposite Pizza Hut. Lookout for the guy in Black Cap ( or a group of cuties J) Directions: If you are coming by train, at Thane Station (West) hail an auto-rickshaw to go to Wonder Mall - Kapurbawdi If you are coming by road, Wonder Mall is at the start of Ghodbunder Road just ahead of the Majiwada Flyover on Eastern Express Highway. If you are coming by bus from Thane Station, take buses which go to Mira Road, Borivli, Waghbil, Patlipada, Gorai (there are quite a few which go to Ghodbunder Road) and get down at Vidyapeeth / Kapurbawdi stop. The Mall is to the left. If you are coming from Borivli, take the bus to Thane and get down at Kapurbawdi Stop. The Mall will be on the opposite side of the road. Cover: Free entry to the meet Note : 1. Do get your friends along to help them gain access to a group especially if they are not netizens. 2. You do not have to be out to the world to attend. This is a discreet event being held as a clean, safe social get-together of a non-sexual nature. Hardly any of those attending are out as such. 3. You need to be at least 18 years of age to attend. 4. There may be many who will prefer being discreet or may be still be coming to terms with themselves hence a request that all be sensitive to this and act and dress accordingly. 5. To identify the group look out for someone wearing a black cap See you all on Sunday.
g_b The Gay Bombay Thane meet - 28th July '13
Day Date: Sunday, 28 July 2013 Time: 5:30 PM - 6:00 PM. At the mall Venue: Café Coffee Day (Basement outside the Mall - NOT the CCD inside) Korum Mall, Eastern Express Highway, Thane (West). Cover: Free entry to the meet Rains, chai, snacks, chats, gossips and more!! Join us for The Gay Bombay monsoon meet at Thane this weekend. The Café Coffee Day at Korrum Mall, Thane, remains the place we gather at before proceeding to someone's place not far off for another round of chatar patar over snacks, catching up on each other’s lives or just bitch about nothing :-) We would be at the Cafe Coffee day for approx 30 min from 5.30pm Directions: For those coming by trains: the place is just a 10 minute ride from the Station and you can ask for Korum Mall, on Eastern Express Highway near Cadbury, For those coming by road: On eastern Express Highway, Korum Mall is a major landmark near Cadbury that you cannot miss. Directions: For those coming by trains: the place is just a 10 minute auto rickshaw ride from the Station and you can ask for Korum Mall, on Eastern Express Highway near Cadbury, For those coming by road: On eastern Express Highway, Korum Mall is a major landmark near Cadbury that you cannot miss. Note : 1. Do get your friends along to help them gain access to a group especially if they are not netizens. 2. You do not have to be out to the world to attend. This is a discreet event being held as a clean, safe social get-together of a non-sexual nature. Hardly any of those attending are out as such. 3. You need to be at least 18 years of age to attend. 4. There may be many who will prefer being discreet or may be still be coming to terms with themselves hence a request that all be sensitive to this and act and dress accordingly. 5. To identify the group look out for someone wearing a black cap 6. You are requested to respect the neighbours in the premises and disperse after the meet is over and not hang around. See you all on Sunday!
Re: g_b A relationship is like a house
Loved this msg. ... On Jun 14, 2013, at 8:04 AM, dunno76 dunn...@yahoo.com wrote: LOVE QUOTE OF THE DAY A relationship is like a house. When a lightbulb burns out, you do not go and buy a new house, you fix the lightbulb. - Author Unknown (more great quotes) (Click above for the bigger image) _ OTHER QUOTES POSTS IN SYMPHONY OF LOVE Its your road, and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you. - Rumi (more great quotes from Rumi) (Click above for the bigger image) ___ Happiness is really the reflection of our thoughts. - SOL (more great quotes) (Click above for the bigger image) ___ I want you to listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge. - Viktor E. Frankl (more great quotes from Viktor E. Frankl) (Click above for the bigger image) ___ Recipe for happiness: Live with enthusiasm, smile for no reason, love without conditions, act with purpose, listen with your heart, and laugh often. - Adrian Corday (more great quotes) When we look at the 'recipes' for happiness as mentioned by Adrian Corday, we would realise that happiness really depends on us ... how are we living our lives? Do we smile for no good reason? There's no reason why we are smiling because the smile comes from within us ... just simply that we are happy? What do you think? What is your interpretation of 'Smile for no reason?' Do we love without conditions? I believe that most time when we love, we have certain expectations from the love we love and when the expectations are not met ... situations and relationships turn sour. One of the greatest examples of unconditional love is definitely the love which parents shower their children; simple pure love of wishing the loved ones to be better. Do we act with purpose or are we simply conforming to the expectations the society and the people around us have on us? Are we listening more often to our hearts? And of course laughing often! (Click above for the bigger image) ___ Don't save something for a special occasion. Every day of your life is a special occasion. - Thomas S. Monson (more great quotes from Thomas S. Monson) (Click above for the bigger image) ___ If you can't fly then run, if you can't run then walk, if you can't walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward. - Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. (more great quotes from Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.) No matter how slow the going or how the going is, keep moving forward. One day we will reach where we want to go ... as long as we don't give up. (Click above for the bigger image) ___ Checking out at the store, the young cashier suggested to the older woman, that she should bring her own grocery bags because plastic bags weren't good for the environment. The woman apologized and explained, We didn't have this green thing back in my earlier days. The young clerk responded, That's our problem today. Your generation did not care enough to save our environment for future generations. (Continue reading at: The Green Thing – An old lady on environment) ___ Stop Snoring Today!
Re: g_b extra-marital relationship and trust
:D ... On May 3, 2013, at 6:54 AM, Bharat bharat...@yahoo.com wrote: Came across a Planet Romeo profile, the headline of which is Married guy from mumbai,wants a long lasting relationship based on trust,admiration and openness.
Re: g_b the bhabhi factor
Oh but we love to bitch and moan Keep bringing it on DOc ;)
Re: g_b gay bar in mumbai?
Mumbai does not have any bar which can be labelled as a gay bar The closest which can pass off as one is voodoo at colaba But the weekends do see some or the other good and clean gay party at a good pub across the city. So if u need to head to a gay bar for your daily sip, u have some time to wait If u r looking for a weekend party - lookout on this and gaybombay, etc lists and get ur gear up Cheers Manoj
g_b The GayBombay Central line meet - Sunday Feb 24
Title: GB Sunday Meet- Eastern Suburb - Thane. Date: Sunday –February 24, 2013 Time: 5:30 pm - 6:00 pm Location:Korrum Mall - Thane West. TIME: 5:30 PM - 6:00 PM. At the mall (details below) 6:00 pm we move to at another venue close by. So do not come to the CCD after 6pm VENUE: Cafe Coffee Day, Korrum Mall, Eastern Express Highway, Thane (West). COVER: Free entry to the meet The Cafe Coffee Day at Korrum Mall, Thane, remains the place we gather at, before proceeding to someone's place not far off for another round of chatar patar over snacks, catching up on each other’s lives or just bitch about nothing :-) We would be at the Cafe Coffee day for approx 30 min from 5.30pm DIRECTIONS: For those coming by trains: the place is just a 10 minute auto rickshaw ride from the Station and you can ask for Korrum Mall, on Eastern Express Highway near Cadbury, For those coming by road: On eastern Express Highway, Korrum Mall is a major landmark near Cadbury that you cannot miss. NOTE : 1. Do get your friends along to help them gain access to a group especially if they are not netizens. 2. You do not have to be out to the world to attend. This is a discreet event being held as a clean, safe social get-together of a non-sexual nature. Hardly any of those attending are out as such. 3. You need to be at least 18 years of age to attend. 4. There may be many who will prefer being discreet or may be still be coming to terms with themselves hence a request that all be sensitive to this and act and dress accordingly. 5. To identify the group look out for someone wearing a black cap 6. You are requested to respect the neighbours in the premises and disperse after the meet is over and not hang around. See you all on Sunday www.gaybombay.org
g_b The Gay Bombay meet at Thane on Sunday the 23rd Dec!
Day Date: Sunday, 23 Dec 2012 Time: 5:30 PM - 6:00 PM. At the mall Venue: Café Coffee Day, Korrum Mall, Eastern Express Highway, Thane (West). Cover: Free entry to the meet 2013 beckons! Join us as we bid adieu to 2012 with the last meet for the year. Bitch about the year past, ring in the yuletide and ring in hopes for 2013. And while you are at it, see what the others are up to for the hottest night of the year! The Café Coffee Day at Korrum Mall, Thane, remains the place we gather at before proceeding to someone's place not far off for another round of chatar patar over snacks, catching up on each other’s lives or just bitch about nothing :-) We would be at the Cafe Coffee day for approx 30 min from 5.30pm Directions: For those coming by trains: the place is just a 10 minute ride from the Station and you can ask for Korrum Mall, on Eastern Express Highway near Cadbury, For those coming by road: On eastern Express Highway, Korrum Mall is a major landmark near Cadbury that you cannot miss. Directions: For those coming by trains: the place is just a 10 minute auto rickshaw ride from the Station and you can ask for Korrum Mall, on Eastern Express Highway near Cadbury, For those coming by road: On eastern Express Highway, Korrum Mall is a major landmark near Cadbury that you cannot miss. Note : 1. Do get your friends along to help them gain access to a group especially if they are not netizens. 2. You do not have to be out to the world to attend. This is a discreet event being held as a clean, safe social get-together of a non-sexual nature. Hardly any of those attending are out as such. 3. You need to be at least 18 years of age to attend. 4. There may be many who will prefer being discreet or may be still be coming to terms with themselves hence a request that all be sensitive to this and act and dress accordingly. 5. To identify the group look out for someone wearing a black cap 6. You are requested to respect the neighbours in the premises and disperse after the meet is over and not hang around. See you all on Sunday!
g_b The GayBombay Sunday Meet at THANE on 23rd Dec 2012
Day Date: Sunday, 23 Dec 2012 Time: 5:30 PM - 6:00 PM. At the mall Venue: Café Coffee Day, Korrum Mall, Eastern Express Highway, Thane (West). Cover: Free entry to the meet 2013 beckons! Join us as we bid adieu to 2012 with the last meet for the year. Bitch about the year past, ring in the yuletide and ring in hopes for 2013. And while you are at it, see what the others are up to for the hottest night of the year! The Café Coffee Day at Korrum Mall, Thane, remains the place we gather at before proceeding to someone's place not far off for another round of chatar patar over snacks, catching up on each other’s lives or just bitch about nothing :-) We would be at the Cafe Coffee day for approx 30 min from 5.30pm Directions: For those coming by trains: the place is just a 10 minute ride from the Station and you can ask for Korrum Mall, on Eastern Express Highway near Cadbury, For those coming by road: On eastern Express Highway, Korrum Mall is a major landmark near Cadbury that you cannot miss. Directions: For those coming by trains: the place is just a 10 minute auto rickshaw ride from the Station and you can ask for Korrum Mall, on Eastern Express Highway near Cadbury, For those coming by road: On eastern Express Highway, Korrum Mall is a major landmark near Cadbury that you cannot miss. Note : 1. Do get your friends along to help them gain access to a group especially if they are not netizens. 2. You do not have to be out to the world to attend. This is a discreet event being held as a clean, safe social get-together of a non-sexual nature. Hardly any of those attending are out as such. 3. You need to be at least 18 years of age to attend. 4. There may be many who will prefer being discreet or may be still be coming to terms with themselves hence a request that all be sensitive to this and act and dress accordingly. 5. To identify the group look out for someone wearing a black cap 6. You are requested to respect the neighbours in the premises and disperse after the meet is over and not hang around. See you all on Sunday!
Re: g_b Pune Police - Awareness workshop on LGBT Issues
wow thats gr8 to know and hope this percolates down to grass roots with the police From: Bindumadhav Khire boyzworld2...@yahoo.com To: lgbt-in...@yahoogroups.com lgbt-in...@yahoogroups.com; gaybom...@yahoogroups.com gaybom...@yahoogroups.com; gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Sent: Saturday, 24 November 2012, 15:36 Subject: g_b Pune Police - Awareness workshop on LGBT Issues Hello All, Samapathik Trust in collaboration with Social Security Department (Police Commissioner Office, Pune) conducted a workshop on awareness and sensitization with Police InCharge of Police Stations in Pune and PCMC region. 33 police officers participated. It was a huge success. It was funded by INFOSEM. Thanks to Sr. Insp. B. Barge Sir (In charge of Social Security Department) and INFOSEM without whose assistance this workshop would not have been possible. Media: NDTV24x7, Indian Express, Times of India, IBN covered the event. For photos please see- Samapathik Trust, Pune Facebook page.
g_b Re: [gb] Insurance nominee addition - any turnaround
This was one if the themed gb meets we had a couple of years back The legal view by the lawyer we had at the gb was as follows: 1- the law gives precedence to the relatives of the deceased, even if there is a will to the contrary 2- the relatives can always claim and fight legal battles ( though the birla case subsequent to the meet tilts the balance in favor of a non blood relative) 3- the only sure way of ensuring that your partner gets your property is to will it and publicly disown your family with the adverts in newspapers --- not something one really likes to do :( The above is from the gb discussion which i remember, though i would also love an easier and better solution Regards Manoj
Re: g_b The bad sex award goes to gay Indian men
I do not really agree to this generalization Given the fact that many of indians will be having sex just to get off and after finding a release suddenly have a tidal wave of guilt/ shame/ wrong doing wash over this is not something way different than any other individuals in similar setups. Over the last 2 years in US (and living in boystown at that), i have heard as may cases and complaints of (white )guys who will not kiss, make out or do anything other than the mere act of fucking and then disappear the moment they are done. What you see in films and movies about the great western sexual prowess is most often than not just as true as the fact that our bollywood hero. The act of experimenting and wanting to pleasure the other guy is something that is learned over a period of time when a person gets comfortable with himself/herself . So we are looking at 2 impacts of the closeted and guilt ridden lives of many indian gay men and arriving at a spurious correlation is my strong belief. Over my not -few-years of being around I have known men from different races (I hope my bf does not read/hold this against me :( ) and i had a different view Did i end up just lucky or you unlucky? In either case, it would hardly be a commentary on gay indian men Cheers Manoj From: Bloot Fontaine blutfonta...@yahoo.co.in To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Sent: Tuesday, 30 October 2012, 11:07 Subject: Re: g_b The bad sex award goes to gay Indian men Agree whole heartedly with the author. Found a lover EXACTLY like this from this group, tried very hard and tolerated him for THREE years. Glad to be rid of him when I finally came to my senses and realised how much I was being exploited in the name of love, including financial exploitation. Hope Ashley Tellis' letter at least gets readers to think. All the Best and thank you, Ashley! From: gaybombay modera...@gaybombay.in To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Sent: Tuesday, 30 October 2012 2:36 PM Subject: g_b The bad sex award goes to gay Indian men The bad sex award goes to gay Indian menBy Ashley Tellis | Agency: DNAOne of the best kept secrets about gay life in India is that almost all gay sex here is lousy. I have to report that I have never had decent sex here, and I don't think I ever will. Apart from the fact that Indians in general are lousy at sex and have all sorts of weird hang-ups about it, gay sex here has a particular set of sicknesses associated with it. So, Indian men who want to and do have gay sex also have no qualms about being disgusted by it and doing it badly. Culture legitimises that.Frequently, one comes across men online who will tell you that they don't kiss. They want to be sucked, they only want to f--- you and, increasingly, want to be rimmed too. They say this with no irony and no self-reflexivity whatsoever and actually get offended when you tell them to go find a dog or f--- a wall instead. Or when you tell them that something is wrong when they want you to lick their a--- but they won't lick your face. Or speak of how important kissing is to sex.`Tops' (by which is meant the most pathetic imitation of missionary heterosexual positions) don't suck, of course. They only want to be sucked. This is a given. Men on websites call themselves `pure tops'. They are really anxious that you come nowhere near their a--- and, of course, are not interested at all in examining that anxiety. They expect bottoms not only to be submissive and meek but have no penises, no orgasms, no needs, no sexual desires other than to fulfil the desires of the tops.Anal sex is a brutal affair and many of my gay friends have ruptured anuses, fissures, and damaged sphincters, and seem to take it as par for the course. High on alcohol, poppers, hash and other stuff, `bottoms' seem not to care about their own bodies, or indeed about sex as something pleasurable, gentle and meaningful. It is only about being stuffed and pounded and hence the need for all the external intoxicants.Tops, once they come, rush to the bathroom to wash and then rush out of the house without so much as a by-your-leave, let alone a goodbye kiss. All of a sudden they are disgusted by what they have done and want the hell out. It is just a matter of release, like they have pissed and now need to leave the pissoir.I have recently begun seeing a man who calls himself gay, claims to be interested in an emotional relationship with a man, and is looking for a monogamous partner. This is the e-mail I had to send him after our first attempt at sex:Dear middle-class Indian man,Before we take our relationship further (if you want to), I want to state that you have to change as a lover and become more responsive and more attentive to the person you are in bed with and might be in a relationship with. Here's an indication of how selfish you were in bed:You
Re: g_b Luking 4 Hubby!!!
1- The source of your % should be interesting 2- Majority of ppl i know of are the pure gay variety. There will be several of these who may have dated/slept with a girl in their college days and then with time got more confident about their orientation. But maybe i dont know much of the other 72% 3- Acceptance of the likes and dislikes starts with a belief in yourself (after due questioning yourself ofcourse ) that you are right and you want to live your life. If you choose not to, one always has thwe recourse to live the life the society around dictates and die a sad ol frustrated person. But thats an individual choice -- and applies in each aspect of life-- sexuality or otherwise. 4- Do we need to use the Rainbow flag as your window drapes and office wear? I say no. Being confident and living your own life is different from being out-in-your-face-and-queer. The 2nd option does surely surely require a lot of courage and sacrifice at times. But where is it mandated that you just choose not to discuss your personal life with ppl whom you do not want to be open to?! --- On Wed, 14/3/12, Smartkid guy.l...@yahoo.com wrote: From: Smartkid guy.l...@yahoo.com Subject: Re: g_b Luking 4 Hubby!!! To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, gaybom...@yahoogroups.com Date: Wednesday, 14 March, 2012, 3:45 PM Thats very strange that how come group is so silent on this mail either, --- On Wed, 3/7/12, Smartkid guy.l...@yahoo.com wrote: From: Smartkid guy.l...@yahoo.com Subject: g_b Luking 4 Hubby!!! To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, gaybom...@yahoogroups.com Date: Wednesday, March 7, 2012, 10:34 PM Dear Friends, We all know our oreintation since we started understand world and society. We can find many guys here those who are out to there family even to society and also not borther of any restrictions. But only few guys can have guts to open and face the world as it is. Dear Friends, But I am not saying that every guy should take this step but even thou we can stay hidden from society with our orientation and enjoy the best movements in life. We all know that we will get married to women one day or else will remain single till our thinking become broad and wide enough to accept gay cluture. More than 72% of guys are bi-sexual but only 11% of guys are pure gay and will not accept women to enter there life. These 11% will have to wait for longer period for there freedom of likes Acceptance. Guys, I am here for having such hubby which agrees to all statements above and accept me as there normal friend in life and physical partner in personal life if we got clicked to each other further. I m 24, 5.5ht/ 59kg/ 28wst/ slim/ brown skin colour/ not having handsome looks/ 8inch dick/ educated/ simple/ decent/ gud family background etc. Feel free to share your views and interest to keep the conversation active and moving, U may also add ur opinion so...we all will come to know how many other ways of thinking exsist. So awaiting for favorable reply from each one of you so we can create good atmostphere in our inbox and life more interesting.. Regards, Kartik - Kolhapur (Maharashtra - India) revert me at: dashing4...@yahoo.com
Re: g_b QA Active - Transgender Sensitization Program
This is a great initiative you guys are taking! Its really saddens the heart when a significant population of gays still shy away from any one transgendered, and then demand equal rights for themselves from a hetero society. I remember going to one of such events over here and it was surprising how people even in the liberal west had similar doubts and inhibitions. I hope you have a great session and can break the stereotypes and barriers for a few! Cheers Manoj --- On Tue, 21/2/12, Q Adda queer.a...@yahoo.com wrote: From: Q Adda queer.a...@yahoo.com Subject: g_b QA Active - Transgender Sensitization Program To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Tuesday, 21 February, 2012, 11:01 PM QA Active hosts a discussion and a movie about Transgender Sensitization Objective: To help us understand the transgender as a person For many of us a transgender (hijra / eunuch / cross-dresser / trans-sexual) is a person to be kept away from. Perhaps even a person to be ridiculed. We seem to be as phobic towards TGs as homophobes are towards gays and lesbians. Seldom do we attempt to talk to TGs. What is it that they have to face in their lives? What are their pains and dreams? Urmi, a transgender, and her colleague who work for a transgender support group, Kinnar Kasturi, will answer all those questions that you have and some that you didn't know whom to ask. Followed by the discussion we'll screen a documentary movie, Diaries of Transformation. It was screened at Kashish Mumbai International Queer Film Festival 2011 and is a part of 'Kashish Shorts' 2011 package that is currently traveling across several festivals around the world. The film captures the stories of seven individuals with trans identities in and around Kolkata as they narrate their tales of love, violence and social acceptance in times of change. Raju, Bini, Rai, Bhaskar, Tista, Suman and Sabir come from very different socio-economic backgrounds. Yet, there are certain interconnecting issues of social acceptance and finding a space in the largely hetero-normative social order in each of these diaries which reflect the larger image of how politics of power operate. Do come. You owe it to yourself. You have nothing to lose but your phobia. On Sunday, February 26, 2012 From 5:00pm to 8:00pm The Humsafar Trust (DIC) Manthan Plaza, 3rd Floor, Nehru Road, Near Chakra Bar Restaurant, Vakola, Santacruz East, Mumbai - 400055. Closest Railway Stations: Santacruz and Kurla Bus Stop: Vakola Masjid / Vakola Church Recommended BEST bus route no. 313 between Santacruz and Kurla. Other BEST bus routes: 37, 181, 213, 306, 311, 312, 322, 330, 374, 384, 413, 433, 449, 507, 517 and 619
Re: g_b 2ND OCTOBER GB PICNIC TO DURSHET MY REPORT
And i was wondering where the heck is this Milin's report which is tastier than the chutneys he brings along :-) Thanks for the detailed write buddy and you all keep having fun Cheers, Manoj --- On Mon, 10/10/11, milin shah milinso...@hotmail.com wrote: From: milin shah milinso...@hotmail.com Subject: g_b 2ND OCTOBER GB PICNIC TO DURSHET MY REPORT To: gaybom...@yahoogroups.com, gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Monday, 10 October, 2011, 12:21 AM 2ND OCTOBER GB PICNIC TO DURSHET MY REPORT The usual pickingup of people starting about an hour later than usual picnic (instead of 6am it started at 7am) from Borivli to Vashi with lots of hugs and pleasantries exchanged between the known guys, watched keenly by newbies (most of them new buds) around 10 of them. From as far as Delhi to Gujarat about 40 of us and 5 of them came directly from Pune to the resort. As soon as a person entered the bus they were given a sticker to write their name and stick it on their left side of the chest for a game to be played later on by Our own “MCP” ooops “MCF” oops “MCL” .The usual round of breakfast of Idli Chutney. The Chutney being served by me with the bus jumping and crisscrossing on the road was accompanied with shriek of laughter as my unsteady hands would spill the chutney bang on the target the shirts or pants (crotch) of few of them. Some smarties avoided being targeted by giving their plates to the person sitting next to them JJJ. Idli’s were followed by frooti’s. Then the introduction session started by our very own RAKHI SAWANT ala commercial break. With his gentle nudging and ribbing style woven with saucy oneliners and quick-witted humour he had one and all in splits, breaking ice with the newbies, though shy initially were slowly lowering their guards and enjoying the fun. Just as the last of intro were complete we reached the resort. Since the resort was nearby. Slowly we walked ourselves into the resort where we were given a single dorm with 3 layered bunk bed. This was gonna be fun because usually we had 2 rooms and people got divided into two groups this time everyone would be together I was already loving it. Once we got comfortable in the room we all went to dining hall for breakfast of delicious omelette, idli’s, crisp mendu vada served with Chutney and sambhar and shera. Most of the guys threw caution to wind and enjoyed the breakfast.There went the DIET CONTROL .After breakfast we went back to the dorm to decide where we wanted to go? Since we had two options included in our tabs. One was kayaking and another was Rappling. The morning session was opted for kayaking. MEANWHILE NOW THE FUN WAS ABOUT TO START. Paper chits were distributed to one and all and all were told to write names of 3 people from all the guys who they found to be “MARRIAGABLE, CUTIEPIE AND FUCKABLE” category. JJJ.After collecting the chits by the game host we all went down a short walk to the banks of river Amba to do Kayaking.We had tutors who showed us how to rest our butt in boat how to POSITION OUR LEGS WITH THE NEEDFUL BEND AT KNEES SO THAT WE WERE IN A BETTER POSITION TO RIDE :P:P:P AND OFCOURSE HE ALSO TOLD US HOW TO HOLD THE ROD IN OUR HANDS AND HOW TO USE IT FOR MAXIMUM RESULT. JJJ TO STEADY ,TO MOVE FORWARD AND BACKWARD.Ofcourse we all were supplied in rotation with SAFETY COVER. Now don’t let your imagination run wild I mean The ROD was the ROWING ROD. And safety cover were LIFE JACKETS Then we were off on our own “ROW ROW ROW YOUR BOATS GENTLY DOWN THE STREAM” Initially we had a difficult time but once we got hang of it most of the guys didn’t want to come out. Too bad our tutor was so good and the student were so obedient that not a single person toppled over into water LLL. Neways the the Kayak had a hole in it through which water ebbed in and out that most of the guys shorts were wet by the time they came out.WHAT A SIGHT. ”feeling hot hot hot”. As everyone’s chance got over we trudged back to the Dorm. Guys changed into swimming trunks and went to the swimming pool which was two-tiered, the upper one had a “L” wall with water falling down like a water fall and then into the lower one. Some guys were taking “Liril” bath under the water fall and others just lazing in water and many of them playing ABBA DHUBI with a football sized ball competition between the upper n lower decks. Later some guys played “RINGA RINGA” in water and then “KHOO” some were dancing to the music tunes played by the poolside. While some were learning how to swim /float in the pool. Ofcourse all the while we were being observed with amusement by other people who had come to the resort. Soon it was time for lunch and we all came out of pool to freshenup and went to the dining hall for Lunch. Lunch was an ample variety of 2 veg and 1 non-veg main course with Rosogulla, Lassi assorted rotis. Papad salad Dal Chawal.Infact after all the physical activities and delicious
Re: g_b Re: let's meet for friendship
Most of don#39;t - so join in and keep reading or posting if u get the way :-) Meeting ppl in some organized meets/ events (gb/humsafar to name few regularly organize em) and hopefully after some false starts u will meet him All the best Manoj
g_b barbarians need to be disciplined ---offcourse
So, the polls in US show than Bachmann seems to be the leading candidate for the republican ticket against Obama currently. Other than the normal anti -gay republican angle why are we worried? I mean its a generally known fact as a policy and nothing different, right? Bachmann declares that she owns a small business in Minesotta with her husband which generates employment. Good . we need that. right? But what is not provided is that the business is a health care center and one of the things it does is heal gay men to become normal again using pyschology, bible and other techniques. gays are barbarians and need to be disciplined was something quoted by her husband in not too long past --- mind you they run the clinic together. So why are we concerned , if we are not in the US of A? Similar reasons why we rejoiced when NY passed the marriage act last month and why there were non -citizens too to witness the first civil union in Chicago. its a global world. And if you are a US citizen reading it...all the more reason to know. There are some articles and news on CNN just in case one wants to read (in addition to the other net sites ofcourse) Manoj Am neither a US citizen or politically aligned to any party
Re: g_b looking for marriage of convenience
no a poor fool wont.she cant sue and get alimony from a poor guy u see! --- On Mon, 11/7/11, nirb...@aol.com nirb...@aol.com wrote: From: nirb...@aol.com nirb...@aol.com Subject: Re: g_b looking for marriage of convenience To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Monday, 11 July, 2011, 12:03 AM Why does this marriageable fool have to be rich ??? Won't a poor fool suffice ??? Gordon In a message dated 7/10/2011 12:28:09 P.M. Mountain Daylight Time, girl_looking_for_...@yahoo.in writes: hey m looking of marriage of convinience with a rich gay guy after marriage i will give him full freedom and expect d same if anyone int plz contact me
Re: g_b problem
If this were true, most of the ppl on this list (and globally) would be sexually frustrated with ingrown dicks (or big enough to be used as a pick axe )and 'Masturbation Anonymous' would be the biggest anti addiction group across the world! There are really few ppl who are actually addicted (read compulsive masturbation without the physical need several times a day). and in nearly all those cases the cure lies in other parts of life and not the act itself. Manoj. --- On Wed, 6/7/11, asfan asfa...@yahoo.com wrote: From: asfan asfa...@yahoo.com Subject: Re: g_b problem To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Wednesday, 6 July, 2011, 6:18 AM Utter nonsense!! Better read Dr. Watsa's column in Mumbai Mirror daily if you are in Mumbai. Will improve your general knowledge (or rather, lack of it). Member size change, indeed! asfan --- On Tue, 5/7/11, Mike Morea handsomemo...@yahoo.com wrote: From: Mike Morea handsomemo...@yahoo.com Subject: Re: g_b problem To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Tuesday, 5 July, 2011, 6:37 PM Good one !! But masturbation ... as good as it can be is not without its ill effects. It is very addictive and being so easily accessible can become habit very easily. Long term masturbation (10+ years ... as I have read) can be very destructive ... inability to hold erection, lack of satisfaction, member size changes ... etc. Have fun, but do not become addicted. asfan --- On Sun, 3/7/11, Nick Dsouza nickdsouz...@yahoo.com wrote: From: Nick Dsouza nickdsouz...@yahoo.com Subject: g_b problem To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Sunday, 3 July, 2011, 10:05 PM i watch a lot of gay porn and whenever i see a cute sexy bottom my cock starts leaking and it becomes very embarassing in public pls help me Email: modera...@gaybombay.in E Groups: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/gay_bombay http://groups.google.com/group/Gaybombay http://groups.google.com/group/GayIndia Public archives at http://www.mail-archive.com/gay_bombay%40yahoogroups.com/maillist.html Rss feed: http://www.mail-archive.com/gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com/maillist.xml GB Internet Radio at http://www.gaybombay.in/gbradio Web Sites: www.gaybombay.in www.gayindia.org Orkut: http://www.orkut.co.in/Main#Profile?uid=15084918632470824129 Blogs: http://gaybombay.blogspot.com/ http://gaybombay.wordpress.com/ Twitter: http://twitter.com/gaybombay http://twitter.com/gayindia Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/gaybombay http://www.facebook.com/gayindia MARKETPLACE Stay on top of your group activity without leaving the page you're on - Get the Yahoo! Toolbar now. Switch to: Text-Only, Daily Digest • Unsubscribe • Terms of Use .
Re: g_b problem
1-don't watch gay / str8 porn in public 2- wear an underwear Simple solutions Manoj
g_b homosexuality is a disease --- PLEASE protest
After being happy about a government whose only saving grace till date was, it was atleast liberal minded and supported human rights more than others, we come across a statement by a person no less than the Health minister of India that homosexuality is a disease, should be cured and is imported from the West (if you have nt read it, pl google or check the below link http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/Ghulam-Nabi-Azad-calls-homosexuality-a-disease/articleshow/9103511.cms Mr Minister does not know his Indian history -- but we forgive him. Mr Minister is not exactly enlightened and well read medically --- but we forgive him Mr Minister chooses to state his personal beliefs as a ministry policy and the entire bunch of government ministers stay quiet calling me and you diseased --- we shuold not stay quiet. In addition to posting on PR or GB or desidost or manjam or any other gay site you may be on - PLEASE protest and post on more public media sites. Facebook is as good too in a sense. Please do not just shake you heads and even if you cant stage public protests-- pl pl pl do so on the net and make a few sensible protests on media as these reach people that matter (posts on GB , etc sadly do not make as much impact outside, yet) Even if you are not residing in the country pl protest, forward and let global groups protest against this attempt to call us diseased. This turn of events is sad as the only major political party to quietly support us seems to be back tracking now (but let me not take this on a political tangent as i am agnostic on that front) I am giving one online petition link below -- i m sure there will be many more coming up. Sign up on each and say you are normal. you are not diseased and you are not going to sit quietly while some fool calls you so. Manoj. http://www.petitiononline.com/pmoihmr/petition.html
Re: g_b New York Legalises Same Sex Marriages - and in India....
That's still adultery if you do it without the consent of your wife - being a bisexual is no excuse to cheat !
g_b Re: [gb] banish Aditya
Oh no asfan So what if he works for us! So what that just says what he wants on a moderated group! We have a right to shut up a person and banish him We can demand a right which is not practised by 90% of people- but we have a right to quell n tread on anyone we don#39;t like This is democracy after all and the wish of a few ppl r important Cholbe naa, cholbe naa, cholbe naa Let#39;s listen to these closeted nameless ppl after all who knows and cares abt aditya the activist man!!!
g_b Re: [gb] Saturday Smilie
U meant do it only in SF, rt? :p
g_b Chicago Pride march has a desi angle
So Chicago had its Pride march today like each year. I thought i should dress a bit more sober --- i was gonna take the train ride into the city afterall. But surprise--- the train looked like just out of a gay bar and no one had to be really closeted. Wearing a rainbow bra or a leather vest was as common as the daily morning suit to the workplace. 250 odd floats, thousands of people in the march and more cheering us on the sides. But Chicagoans were up for a surprise --- one of the floats was blaring music they had not heard before i am sure. It was Sheila and Munni and Dhak dhak -- Bollywood !! Trikone marched under its banner for the first time and for more than 2 hours we were dancing and playing all Desi music. The few choreographed steps got huge appreciation from the onlookers --- one as they liked the music (no one can dislike appadi pode ! ) , and two as they could see us much more knitted and together than many others. The hard work and the very concept to have this .. paid off as people cheered, and some even came and danced with us irrespective of not understanding a word. We could see ppl point at us --brown people --- who were known to be IT nerds quietly going about their work till now, were also equally gay and lesbian and as much woven into the social fabric as others. For me, having a group which speaks the same language as i do, where i can be myself more, share interests definitely helped to make me feel better than what the initial months in the country were trawlingbars and pubs and little else. From what i have interacted with the K and others, I am sure this is not where Trikone will rest and i look forward to a lot more events happening. For those of you who could/didnt make it --try it the next time and be sure you will love it :-) Thanks Trikone for doing this and making it happen. Cheers, Manoj.
Fw: g_b favor
g_b Friends or bf?
In the plethora of relationships many of us may have gone thru, have ppl had to choose between the bf n a friend? How hAs it actuallly turned out ? (no politically right opinions pl, just actual experiences if any) Manoj
Re:: g_b s small inquiry
hi sanjay, Hope you are fine. Angina pectoris is pain in left side of chest sharp, shooting type upping the risk of a heart attack. It is a warning to take corrective measures. Very much gay related as you have to manage it for good sex. Love Manoj varma On Mon, 11 Apr 2011 16:31 IST Sanjay Lulla wrote: if any doctor on board would like to answer, what are the symptoms of Angina Pectoris and what can it lead to. Do normal palpitations and numbness with seldom pain associate with it? sorry I know this is not gay related but these things do not discriminate do they? Thanks little prince-Sanjay N Lulla
Re: g_b on Gandhi, his loving relationship with a german body builder, and th...
Pratap Forget it. U wouldn#39;t understand it. U do nit think that being called gay is accusing someone. U actually think it#39;s normal!!! Infidel! U try to think U r actually even being rational n fair! With all these things ofcourse ur stupid n dumb headed brain wouldn#39;t understand that this is not the way we do it here. Didn#39;t bapu teach us to shout, insult, believe in heresy and in general be intolerant and quick to insult? !! Ofcourse the book needs to be banned, burned n I only wish we can send out guys out an get this guy assassinated Hail mike!
Re: g_b on Gandhi, his loving relationship with a german body builder, and th...
Thanks aditya for reading it and commenting it up Am definitely going to get the same now that i know my dollars are not for stupid reviewer of the letters who has tried to add meaning to where there was none --- On Fri, 1/4/11, Aditya Bondyopadhyay adit.b...@gmail.com wrote: From: Aditya Bondyopadhyay adit.b...@gmail.com Subject: Re: g_b on Gandhi, his loving relationship with a german body builder, and th... To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Friday, 1 April, 2011, 12:08 PM Well, the point is that the book just happens to be pretty well written and is not 'Shit'. AND IT DOES NOT AT ANY PLACE SPEAK OF GANDHI'S SEXUALITY. NOT EVEN IN THE PASSING. I took time out to read it so that I know the facts before I even commented. More importantly those who are calling it a 'shit' without reading it are the worst form of idiots who will belive any canard without having the capacity to make up their own minds. They say an empty vessel sounds much, and these guys just prove the point. They are dumb enough not to be able to read the book, maybe even understand it, but would make pompous claims of one cannot read every shit. They should make better efforts to at being intellectually honest. Otherwise they should just shut up. Best, Aditya Bondyopadhyay On 4/1/11, nirb...@aol.com nirb...@aol.com wrote: Nobody has the time to read every shit that is published!!! BUT we should NOT censor, nor ban a book, movie, newspaper, cartoon, just because we don't agree with it. Gordon In a message dated 3/31/2011 2:54:01 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, mmilto...@yahoo.com writes: So you are suggesting that read every shit that is published and not use your brain !!! What will read the book alone do? If you are for real, then you have to check the sources. As far as I am concerned I stand by my statement If there was any truth to this, British would have ruined Mahatma and taken advantage of the same, We might even be not independent today. Be careful Independence does not mean stupidity nor lack of guard in accepting everything that you come across. Mike. From: Aditya Bondyopadhyay adit.b...@gmail.com To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Sent: Thu, March 31, 2011 5:09:09 AM Subject: Re: g_b on Gandhi, his loving relationship with a german body builder, and the difficulty of assimilating the (homo)sexual into the image of the mahatma The point is, I just procured and read the book so that I can make up my own mind. And this is what I find: we are all screaming because some nitwit reviewer had to sell his/her copy and therefore came up with what can safely be termed COMPLETE BULLSHIT. The book is nothing that the review claims and there is no indication or even wording about Gandhi's sexuality. It is a complete fabrication of a sensationalist and partially deranged reviewer. So this is what I suggest. Before you get into a frenzy aka shiv sena, and start beating up the writer and burning libraries, please read the book. And id you still have bile left, reserve the boot for the reviewer for spreading canards, and withdraw it from the writer. Best, Aditya On 3/31/11, Mike Milton _mmilton09@yahoo.com_ (mailto:mmilto...@yahoo.com) wrote: Perhaps the author needs some to boot him !!! Bloot, point here is not appreciating Gandhiji's principle ... for long we have done that and have given up now too. Point here is, if someone writes a story about me, I think I expect people to verify the veracity of the story before believing the same. We owe the same level of respect to Mahatma. Does any one his right mind think, if there was any truth to this story, British would have destroyed Gandhi and would have taken full advantage of it. Let us think before passing mundane comments at least about a great soul. Mike. From: Bloot Fontaine _blutfonta...@yahoo.co.in_ (mailto:blutfonta...@yahoo.co.in) To: _gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com_ (mailto:gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com) Sent: Wed, March 30, 2011 1:33:14 AM Subject: Re: g_b on Gandhi, his loving relationship with a german body builder, and the difficulty of assimilating the (homo)sexual into the image of the mahatma I am speaking from what I read in Mumbai Mirror. According to the author of the book, he has discovered facts about Gandhiji's sexual life from letters written by Gandhi to Kallenbach. In such a case, instead of even discussing Gandhiji's sexuality, would it not be a lot more pertinent to admire and even revere the honesty with which he preserved those letters so that his life could openly be studied? Never mind what his sexuality was, he was truthful, honest, open and courageous about any and everything! Otherwise, today we would not have known about this and been able to criticise/praise etc. --- On Tue, 29/3/11, akshay khanna _xaefis@gmail.com_ (mailto:xae...@gmail.com) wrote: From: akshay
Re: g_b Guys wanting to get into a gay relationship
to each his own actions suit and to himself shall one pay some reap the apple red some reap quick just hay --- On Thu, 31/3/11, superhit1977 superhit1...@yahoo.in wrote: From: superhit1977 superhit1...@yahoo.in Subject: g_b Guys wanting to get into a gay relationship To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Thursday, 31 March, 2011, 4:07 PM What is your say when the following categories of guys say that they want to enter a gay relationship: **Married guys.how can they sail in two boats at the same timewherein the wife will always be the priority **Guys who claim communication is the most important aspect of a relationship, but vanish from the relationship giving no explanations..jaise gadhe ke sar pe se singhh **Matured guys who claim they have seen a lot many monsoons than us and try to throw their weight around **Confused guys for whom life is nothing beyond saying...Dekhte hain aage kya hoga **Guys who date one guy but are still found on gay dating sites justifying that they are looking out for FRIENDS only **Guys who are just hooked on to sexual preferences and nothing beyond and claim they r looking for a serious relationship. People are fighting it out for our rights.but is that worth their efforts that will pay off.unless such guys exist No offence against anybody.these are just the observations
Re: g_b on Gandhi, his loving relationship with a german body builder, and the difficulty of assimilating the (homo)sexual into the image of the mahatma
And now we will soon have a bunch of people pointing to all the evidences to show he was one of us. Didnt he walk with girls like i do with my fag hags around me! Wasnt he attached to Nehru after all! Oh My nearly all the congressi were men ! but of course women were not allowed ! No Str8 man goes around the town topless ofcourse! It seems absurd that these letters have now come up after being out in the open for a century and seem more a case of someone reading more to it than is there ... but still have t read em and know em. But i do not encourage banning a book --- even if it is spreading mis information as just this leads to finally stopping freedom of press and is a necessary evil of a virtue. Manoj --- On Thu, 31/3/11, Mike Milton mmilto...@yahoo.com wrote: From: Mike Milton mmilto...@yahoo.com Subject: Re: g_b on Gandhi, his loving relationship with a german body builder, and the difficulty of assimilating the (homo)sexual into the image of the mahatma To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Thursday, 31 March, 2011, 2:54 AM Perhaps the author needs some to boot him !!! Bloot, point here is not appreciating Gandhiji's principle ... for long we have done that and have given up now too. Point here is, if someone writes a story about me, I think I expect people to verify the veracity of the story before believing the same. We owe the same level of respect to Mahatma. Does any one his right mind think, if there was any truth to this story, British would have destroyed Gandhi and would have taken full advantage of it. Let us think before passing mundane comments at least about a great soul. Mike. From: Bloot Fontaine blutfonta...@yahoo.co.in To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Sent: Wed, March 30, 2011 1:33:14 AM Subject: Re: g_b on Gandhi, his loving relationship with a german body builder, and the difficulty of assimilating the (homo)sexual into the image of the mahatma I am speaking from what I read in Mumbai Mirror. According to the author of the book, he has discovered facts about Gandhiji's sexual life from letters written by Gandhi to Kallenbach. In such a case, instead of even discussing Gandhiji's sexuality, would it not be a lot more pertinent to admire and even revere the honesty with which he preserved those letters so that his life could openly be studied? Never mind what his sexuality was, he was truthful, honest, open and courageous about any and everything! Otherwise, today we would not have known about this and been able to criticise/praise etc. --- On Tue, 29/3/11, akshay khanna xae...@gmail.com wrote: From: akshay khanna xae...@gmail.com Subject: g_b on Gandhi, his loving relationship with a german body builder, and the difficulty of assimilating the (homo)sexual into the image of the mahatma To: lgbt-in...@yahoogroups.com, gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Tuesday, 29 March, 2011, 6:26 PM dear all, below is one of several reviews of Joseph Lelyveld's book, 'Great Soul', on which a ban is reportedly being planned in Maharashtra. (http://www.hindustantimes.com/Ban-looms-over-new-Mahatma-book-author-cries-foul/Article1-678973.aspx) . as though 'bisexual' were an insult. :) have not had a chance to read the book itself, but responses to the possibility that the father of the nation might have had a strong, erotic/sexual attachment to a man are interesting. xx akshay http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748703529004576160371482469358.html?mod=WSJ_article_related
Re: g_b Re: thank you guys
Mad cow How many such men have you known so and how is interesting. And how many gay men have u known who are into relationships -- maybe your survey will help us all (if you survey is based on a sample drawn from gaydar or such you will surely recognise that the same is spurious, rt?) I have known a decent amount of men in my times (in all sorts of ways in case one wants to know) and do have some different opinions. Here we are talking of 2 things 1- being gay and not marrying a girl 2- being in a monogamous relation --gay or str 1- Being gay and not marrying a girl is a matter of your own conscience and right to freedom. Is the road to freedom ever easy. i guess not for most. I had the same thoughts and doubts and fears as Asif had some time back. I decided to stick to my freedom (largely helped by all te guys i met at GB then for which i do not know how to thank em all). It was not an easy way for some months at home -- but today myself and my family (and i hope my bf :p) are happy about this decision. And i know several such cases. 2- Being monogamous This is a very personal thing. Some men are monogamous, some are not. for some open relatiosn work, for some it works only if the bf is monogamous and for some its no fun to stick to just one person for sex. But in case where a person is ok with an open relation - gay or str8 - the difference lies n ability to have sex outside and still love his bf. As a frnd of mine so nicely put, he does not love his mom's food less just because he loves to eat out too! It depends if u see sex as simply or attach mor weightage to it. If u do u just need to spell it out (and pl try to give ur bf as much leeway as u expect!) I completely agree with Madcow on one thing --- do what you want as it IS your life but just remember not to take a seemingly short and shady road fearing a ardous journey and discover the road led to a quagmire only too late. Lastly Asif, will you be alone ahead --- likely not as all the gays who are your age today are extremely unlikely to all get into a relation at the same time or marry or commit suicide (i discount effects of an open house session with madcow here ofcourse :-D ) Cheers Manoj --- On Sun, 13/3/11, mad cow madc...@yahoo.com wrote: From: mad cow madc...@yahoo.com Subject: Re: g_b Re: thank you guys To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Sunday, 13 March, 2011, 1:17 PM Hi Asif, whatever u wrote everything is rite i support u for that becoz i have seen gay life its just funnn nothing more then that 95% gays r the same like to change partners afte five months when fruit get rotten and old so this doesnt happens in the hetro sexual life, even a man will have relation with a man or women after marriage or vise versa with women end of the day family needs each other but this will not happen in the gay life, iam asking 95% gays is there anyone without having sex with multiple partners ??? i challenge there wont be anyone in this 95% everyone must have had multiple sex with one or the other hiding with gay partner so Asif go ahead what u think of ur life dont think of people its ur wish if any sin is there its u who going to bear it not anyone and after alll its life Enjoy it fully dont bother about others CHEERS. --- Sponsored links: Rock Hard Erections. All New Formula Attacks the Root. Fast. http://alternatemedicinestore2010.com/ar/sig From: boy_alone00 boy_alon...@yahoo.com To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Sent: Sat, March 12, 2011 2:18:52 AM Subject: g_b Re: thank you guys --- In gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, asif sidd ur_sweet_ashu@... wrote: hello guys,  Thank you very much for all your sugesstions, per mujh mein wo himmat nahi ke main shadi na kroon, agar shadi nahi karta hoon to kal ko akela hi rahoonga, kyon ki gay life to jab tak jawani aur khoobsoorti hai maze degi, use ke baad to sirf aur sirf akelapan hai life mein, agar shadi karta hoon to koi na koi hoga mera apna, mere maa baap ke baad, rahi baat sex ki, main decide kiya hai ke i will try with a gril before i get married.  Mujhe kisi ne kaha hai ke, aurat ko ek aulad dedo wo khush rahegi, aur aulad ke hone se tum par bhi koi shaq nahi karega,maa baap bhi khush rahenge, haan par dohri zindagi jini padegi ye baat to hai.  sucide ke khayal to aate rahte hain, par duniya mein kya kuch nahi hota, shadi ke baad bhi extra marital affairs to hote hi hain, ladki ke saath nahi to ladke ke saath hi, par pata nahi chalne dena chye kisi ko.  thanks  asif   Asif Siddiqui --- On Mon, 10/18/10, hunydev dev hunydev@... wrote: From: hunydev dev hunydev@... Subject: Re: g_b I too need help- i think i am gona be in big trouble To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Monday, October 18, 2010, 11:57 AM  Dear Asif i
Re: g_b The GayBombay Sunday Meet at THANE on 06 March 2011
Hey Mike! Good you felt like sharing these. Its surprising that even today with the changes in times, people do feel that way. And not only in towns and village but metros too. The GB meets are one of the outreach programs we have to give face to the shadows and tell people that neither are they alone nor are they abnormal and they have I have seen several relations spring up at these ---not only of love but of deep frndship amongst people who have come in unsure about themselves and now have their own social network built around them. I still remember my first time when i thought, re thought, walked by several times, nearly decided to go back and finally took the step in, to the effect that overall i consider myself a far better person today than in my dark-in-the-closet days and do not miss such events in whichever land i travel to. Rgds Manoj --- On Wed, 2/3/11, Mike Milton mmilto...@yahoo.com wrote: From: Mike Milton mmilto...@yahoo.comSubject: Re: g_b The GayBombay Sunday Meet at THANE on 06 March 2011To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.comDate: Wednesday, 2 March, 2011, 2:02 AM Wow, what a change from my days in India to now. All I had was guilty feeling and meetings that were unholy and unlawful as well. I remember and even today I feel bad and cheated. I would not have left India, if not for those bondages and the insecure feelings and treatment in India. There absolutely was no independence. There were no social outlets such as the meetings proposed below where I could for once feel I was not the only one that was having need to meet men and feel wonderful in their company. Would have been nice to know that I was normal inspite of need for being with men and being sexually attracted to men. I remember that I could never live in the present. When my brother and sister went off to play, I was afraid to go out. I was afraid that I would not be able to hold my emotions and my urges being with other boys. I was constantly worried that I would expose my true feelings, shame my family by showing my sick feelings. I remained a prisoner in my own home. Every chance I got I would go off by myself to seek safe company. Be it in majestic bus stand urinals, cubbon park, lalbagh or a crowded event in Gandhibazar. I was always thought that I was weird and could not build any relationship or adept at it either. Yet, after I came to US, I managed pretty well. Still all those days I lost as a teen are ones I will never get back. I can neither get the body nor the physique that some of my friends drooled upon and teased me. Yet, there was not one relationship with in close circles that I could depend on or confess my inner feelings with. Dear friends, take this opportunity. Treat each other with respect and care. Go out and talk, have fun, relax ... so much important for longterm mental peace. Thank the organizers for the opportunity. Live a little just like you dream of. Good luck to all of you from the bottom of my heart. Sorry, don't know what came over me the flood of memories that got me into this mood. Apologize if I have brought any negative feeling. Regards, Mike PS: Take some pics and post for others to see. (Only if safe and acceptable). ** * *** From: GayBombay Events eve...@gaybombay.orgTo: airoli_mum...@yahoogroups.co.in; bombay_gayindiansmeetingpo...@yahoogroups.com; bombay-d...@yahoogroups.com; bombaygaydoct...@yahoogroups.com; bombaygay...@yahoogroups.co.uk; bombaylesbi...@yahoogroups.com; bom...@yahoogroups.com; cool_gays_bom...@yahoogroups.com; funkyguy_mumbai_gay_n_bisexual_conn...@yahoogroups.com; gay_bombay@yahoogroups.comSent: Tue, March 1, 2011 8:39:47 AMSubject: g_b The GayBombay Sunday Meet at THANE on 06 March 2011 The GayBombay Sunday Meet at THANE on 06 March 2011 Day Date:Sunday, 06 March 2011 Time: 5:30 PM - 6:00 PM.Venue: Café Coffee Day, Panchpkhadi, Thane (West).Cover:Free entry to the meet The Café Coffee Day at Panchpakhadi, Thane, remains the place we gather at before proceeding to someone's place not far off for another round of chatar patar catching up on each others lives or just bitch about nothing :-) We would be at the Cafe Coffee day for approx 30 min from 5.30pm Directions:For those coming by trains: the place is just a 5 minute ride from the Station and you can ask for `Pizza Hut, Panchpakhadi, near Hari Niwas Circle', For those coming by Highway: turn in towards Thane City at Teen Hath Naka (opposite Eternity Mall) and take a left turn just before Hari Niwas Circle. There is a series of outlets like Pizza Hut, Dominos, etc where you can find the Café. Note :1. Do get your friends along to help them gain access to a group especially if they are not netizens. 2. You do not have to be "out" to the world to attend. This is a discreet event being held as a clean, safe social get-together of a non-sexual nature. Hardly any of those attendin
Re: g_b Re: [gb] a small sign of change
absolutely this surely is a major major step considering nothing is put forth in these circles without intense and well thought processess --- On Wed, 23/2/11, Aditya Bondyopadhyay adit.b...@gmail.com wrote: From: Aditya Bondyopadhyay adit.b...@gmail.com Subject: g_b Re: [gb] a small sign of change To: gaybom...@yahoogroups.com Cc: Vikram D vg...@yahoo.co.uk, gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, lgbt-in...@yahoogroups.com, khush-l...@yahoogroups.com, gayde...@yahoogroups.com, movenp...@yahoogroups.com Date: Wednesday, 23 February, 2011, 2:17 PM Not so small actually Vikram. It means that the proverbial neck has been stuck out in the international minefield of Human Rights Politics by India the state, and now that lets the genie out of the other proverbial bottle. Now it will be that much difficult for India the state to either do a tortoise like retraction of the head or an ostrich like burial of the same. In the unlikely eventuality of any reversal in judicial process, the state can and will now be pilloried internationally if it does not take legislative action to reinstate decriminalisation. That is as good a hedge for our collective bet that I can think of at the moment. But more importantly, the state will be standing with our own heavies in the supreme court trying to ensure that such a damning eventuality does not occur in the first place. They have now written in stone that they will pitch for our cause.. The portents are rather good and I feel quiet pleased I must confess.. Best, Aditya B On 22 February 2011 22:10, Vikram D vg...@yahoo.co.uk wrote: This report from Rex Wockner's news update is interesting because of the voting pattern on this issue about whether to give ILGA (the International Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Association) consultative status at the UN. The motion failed, but in the column of countries voting to let ILGA in was India. This follows on that other vote on whether to reinstate sexuality related crimes as human rights abuses (or something on those lines, I don't have the exact wording) where again India voted on the side of queer rights (China, notably, opposed queer rights which shows, for all the tolerance that seems to exist there, where its feelings really lie - complete opposition to even the smallest discussion of rights). It is small things like this which show where the thinking deep in the government and bureaucracy really lies in India. I don't think we will automatically have an easy battle ahead or might always win, but in the end I think some real small change has happened: ~~~ UN shuns ILGA again ~~~ The Non-Governmental Organizations Committee of the United Nations' Economic and Social Council (ECOSOC) on Feb. 4 again rejected a request for consultative status from the International Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Association aka ILGA. The committee voted to take no action on the request and to reconsider it in May. Seven nations supported moving to an actual vote on granting ILGA the status to access U.N. meetings, deliver oral and written reports, contact country representatives and organize events at the U.N. They were Belgium, Bulgaria, India, Israel, Turkey, Peru and the United States. Opposed were Burundi, China, Morocco, Nicaragua, Pakistan, Russia, Senegal, Sudan and Venezuela. Kyrgyzstan abstained and Cuba and Mozambique were not present. The NGO Committee only rarely has approved consultative status for LGBT organizations, though its refusals have several times been overridden by the full ECOSOC. Groups that have finally achieved consultative status include International Wages Due Lesbians, Australia's Coalition of Activist Lesbians, ILGA-Europe (an autonomous division of ILGA), Landsforeningen for Bøsser og Lesbiske (Denmark's National Association for Gays and Lesbians), Lesben- und Schwulenverband in Deutschland (Lesbian and Gay Federation in Germany), the Swedish national LGBT group RFSL (whose former initials now are its full name), Coalition Gaie et Lesbienne du Québec (Quebec Gay and Lesbian Coalition), COC Netherlands (a national LGBT group whose former initials are now its full name), Associação Brasileira de Gays, Lésbicas e Transgêneros (Brazilian Association of Gays, Lesbians and Transgenders), and the International Gay and Lesbian Human Rights Commission. ILGA had ECOSOC status from 1993 to 1994 but was stripped of it following a scandal, orchestrated by the U.S. right wing, in which a small number of ILGA's hundreds of member organizations were accused of not taking a strong enough position on age of consent. Around 3,000 nongovernmental organizations have U.N. consultative status.Gay -- -- ADITYA BONDYOPADHYAY Development Sector Consultant Advocate (Regd. No. F-218/192 of 1997, Bar Council of W.Bengal, India) Website: http://adityabondyopadhyay.webs.com/
Re: g_b Difficult to find a Partner
absolutely! i met mine after the age of 30. i know of may others who got into a much more stable relation post that age and continue to be so after several years (with the same one). if you are looking for a quick attention or a hookup, the early 20s are no doubt the age to be in.if u r looking for more, the way you interact and mix has a great deal more weightage than the age in terms of getting a bf i would atleast believe so .. (and ofcourse having a realistic expectation, instead of hankering after brad pitt looks) --- On Mon, 7/2/11, nirb...@aol.com nirb...@aol.com wrote: From: nirb...@aol.com nirb...@aol.com Subject: Re: g_b Difficult to find a Partner To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Monday, 7 February, 2011, 10:15 PM I do object to your callous statement, that if you are above 25 then you will never find a lifetime companion, a significant other, or a husband. Be of good cheer: love comes at all ages. Gordon In a message dated 2/7/2011 3:13:38 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, p.nat...@yahoo.com writes: we live in a world of fantasy, we all think we are elizabeth bennet and we often cry for why are we not meeting mr. darcy. even after looking at mirror a 1000 times a day, for some reason we cannot accept the fact that may be we are not elizabeth bennet but rather charlotte lucas or someone even more mundane, but thats not the sad part, the sad part is that we are not even half as wise as charlotte lucas was. let us look at ourselves first as to what we are and what are we ready to offer before complaining, if you are good looking- you would be taken (its a fact), if you are wise (again you would be taken - its a fact), but unfortunately if you are none of the above you may end up being single all your life waiting for mr. darcy. if you are above 25 its time to face the reality --- On Sun, 2/6/11, Manoj zeus200...@yahoo.com wrote: From: Manoj zeus200...@yahoo.com Subject: Re: g_b Difficult to find a Partner To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Sunday, February 6, 2011, 5:17 PM Love the last line u wrote Sanjay. on the original topic --- u say u have written emails for finding the right patner. But then can one really hope to find some one to love over a forum list by soliciting a life partner? I think the ida of meeting someone over this calls for an exceptional stroke of luck..meet ppl at social events, interact, have frnds and there is a higher probability of hitting it with the right guy...coz in absence of above its difficult fo both of u to know if u are the right guys or not. Email, forum, online advt can typically serve little here. Manoj --- On Sun, 6/2/11, Sanjay Lulla sanjay_lulla2...@yahoo.com wrote: From: Sanjay Lulla sanjay_lulla2...@yahoo.com Subject: Re: g_b Difficult to find a Partner To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Sunday, 6 February, 2011, 10:49 AM no One can not generalise and it would be branding us. Love is not gay nor hetrosexual. its just love. True dedicated honest loyal love does exist. Many times we close our eyes and are blind to its existence. Our hard set standards and parameters act like blinkers. How do you think arranged hetro marraiges survive? Are we ready to adjust accomodate. We maybe rejecting someone who truly loves us cares for us just because he is not our type or maybe hes a t/b or some such bullshit. We fail due to our own idiocrancies and inaneities. Lets not find problem in others first let us beging with ourself. last but not the least if one is married then how can one do justice to both the parties? a wife kid and a BF? Own up to what ever decision you have taken and stick to it. Love is not a venture of the weak it is the privilige of the courageous. little prince-Sanjay N Lulla From: Adrian revadr...@ymail.com To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Sent: Sat, February 5, 2011 1:01:52 PM Subject: RE: g_b Difficult to find a Partner The sooner you accept this, the better it will be for you. From: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com [mailto:gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com] On Behalf Of Sameer Raj Sent: Thursday, February 03, 2011 8:00 PM To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Subject: g_b Difficult to find a Partner Hi everyone, well i am writing this not as someone who is new or fighting with the identity but as a person who has tried everything to find a correct soulmate our world.i have written many mails (subject : In search of a life partner) seeking for the person that i would be happy to spend my life with. but all replies i get hovers around sex and only sex or i am married and so and so yrs old complete secrecy assured... sometimes they are so direct that it becomes hard for me to understand that does the gay world means just having one night stands or a hook up ..is there nothing called love in this world well i believe that being gay is nothing wrong and one should be proud of it, i would
Re: g_b Difficult to find a Partner
Love the last line u wrote Sanjay. on the original topic --- u say u have written emails for finding the right patner. But then can one really hope to find some one to love over a forum list by soliciting a life partner? I think the ida of meeting someone over this calls for an exceptional stroke of luck..meet ppl at social events, interact, have frnds and there is a higher probability of hitting it with the right guy...coz in absence of above its difficult fo both of u to know if u are the right guys or not. Email, forum, online advt can typically serve little here. Manoj --- On Sun, 6/2/11, Sanjay Lulla sanjay_lulla2...@yahoo.com wrote: From: Sanjay Lulla sanjay_lulla2...@yahoo.com Subject: Re: g_b Difficult to find a Partner To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Sunday, 6 February, 2011, 10:49 AM no One can not generalise and it would be branding us. Love is not gay nor hetrosexual. its just love. True dedicated honest loyal love does exist. Many times we close our eyes and are blind to its existence. Our hard set standards and parameters act like blinkers. How do you think arranged hetro marraiges survive? Are we ready to adjust accomodate. We maybe rejecting someone who truly loves us cares for us just because he is not our type or maybe hes a t/b or some such bullshit. We fail due to our own idiocrancies and inaneities. Lets not find problem in others first let us beging with ourself. last but not the least if one is married then how can one do justice to both the parties? a wife kid and a BF? Own up to what ever decision you have taken and stick to it. Love is not a venture of the weak it is the privilige of the courageous. little prince-Sanjay N Lulla From: Adrian revadr...@ymail.com To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Sent: Sat, February 5, 2011 1:01:52 PM Subject: RE: g_b Difficult to find a Partner The sooner you accept this, the better it will be for you. From: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com [mailto:gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com] On Behalf Of Sameer Raj Sent: Thursday, February 03, 2011 8:00 PM To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Subject: g_b Difficult to find a Partner Hi everyone, well i am writing this not as someone who is new or fighting with the identity but as a person who has tried everything to find a correct soulmate our world.i have written many mails (subject : In search of a life partner) seeking for the person that i would be happy to spend my life with. but all replies i get hovers around sex and only sex or i am married and so and so yrs old complete secrecy assured... sometimes they are so direct that it becomes hard for me to understand that does the gay world means just having one night stands or a hook up ..is there nothing called love in this world well i believe that being gay is nothing wrong and one should be proud of it, i would like to say that the only things that matters is not a hook up or a night stand but love and commitment which would last forever because at the end this is wat we all have to live with. i would not like to write more as i am short of words about how sorry i feel for those who think that being gay is just about having a night stand..
Re: g_b Regarding GB meeting at Mulund on 30.01.2011
Hi Sumedh, I am happy you did feel good coming for it. Look forward to have you for the events we have ahead too :-) Rgds Manoj --- On Wed, 2/2/11, Sumedh Sarang sumedh.sar...@yahoo.com wrote: From: Sumedh Sarang sumedh.sar...@yahoo.com Subject: g_b Regarding GB meeting at Mulund on 30.01.2011 To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Wednesday, 2 February, 2011, 12:43 PM Dear friends, On Sunday 30.1.2011 I first time attended the meeting of Gb held at Mulund. The organizers gave us a warm welcome; especially there were five to six new comers who were also attending the meeting for the first time. All members were friendly and co-operative. Everyone was having a special quality, talent in each. I became very much enthusiastic after attending the Gb meet. I really thank you very much you all for your co-operation. The experience was superb and amazing With warm regards Sumedh
g_b GayBombay Sunday Meet on 30 January 2011 at Mulund
GayBombay Sunday Meet on 30 January 2011 at Mulund You walked the talk. Waved at the people who were out to recognize you for being yourself. You were part of the event which will be written about and about which you will talk years ahead to others. Or maybe you could not make it till there this once L The day after Mumbai marches with pride, we get together to talk of the day that was to catch up with our moments of Pride, or the reflections it left on us and how relevant we felt at it. So if you have or were not able to, but do join us for the GayBombay meet the next day at Mulund. Day, Date Time: Sunday 30 January, 2011, gather between 5:30 to 6:00 pm before we move to someone’s place Venue: Meeting Point: Main Gate, Chintamanrao D Deshmukh Garden, Mahatma Phule Road, Mulund East. Cover: Free entry to the meet We shall gather at the main gate of Chintamanrao D Deshmukh Garden before proceeding to someone's place not far off for another round. We would be at the garden gate for approx 30 min from 5.30pm Directions: For those coming by trains: the garden is just a 5 minute walk from the Station. Exit the station on the eastern side and walk down Lokmanya Tilak Road. Take the first left turn (Mahatma Phule Road) and in no time you shall see the Main Gate of Chintamanrao D Deshmukh Garden. For those coming by Highway: turn in to Mulund at MHADA Junction (Near Toll Plaza) onto Navghar Road, and Drive drown straight until you hit a perpendicular road and can't go straight(T Junction). Turn Right on to Lokmanya Tilak Road and continue going straight down until you see the Railway Station. Turn right on to Mahatma Phule Road. Note : 1. Do get your friends along to help them gain access to a group especially if they are not netizens. 2. You do not have to be out to the world to attend. This is a discreet event being held as a clean, safe social get-together of a non-sexual nature. Hardly any of those attending are out as such. 3. You need to be at least 18 years of age to attend. 4. There may be many who will prefer being discreet or may be still be coming to terms with themselves hence a request that all be sensitive to this and act and dress accordingly. 5. To identify the group look out for someone wearing a black cap See you all on Sunday.
Re: g_b Attention Please
If you survive aditya, u can survive the rest.believe us :-) he is the best online resource u can get for learing the art of survival here :-D But on serious notes adi -- i think many people do join the list ---and though the chance of finding a partner is low by being on the list only, it is one very important step towards actually interacting with others, and finding the courage required to step out in real life. One can hardly say that the baby who takes his tottering step is unfit to run in olympics one day as he is not doing it the right way now hai naa? Rds Manoj --- On Thu, 30/12/10, Aditya Bondyopadhyay adit.b...@gmail.com wrote: From: Aditya Bondyopadhyay adit.b...@gmail.com Subject: Re: g_b Attention Please To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Thursday, 30 December, 2010, 12:56 PM Dear Attract, Welcome to GB. It is intended to be a friendly space, but its also a public space, which means you, if you open your mouth here, should be willing to put up with the responses you get. Kapische!? In other words, if you are sensitive to bitching, bickering, colourful use of language, etc you are better off just listening and not speaking. That there was by way of the caveat of welcome I am real glad that you had, off all the places in the universe, chosen the GB listserve to look for a 'jeevansathi'...you see about 72% of the people on the listserve either dont know or dont have a name (a real name that is, and you are one of them). So 'anonymous' chases 'anonymous' in the perfect ringer of closet romance. The ideal(est) starting point possible for 'jeevansathi search'. I am sure attract will find the attracted. I am gladder that you have entered the search market with 'no expectations' from the jeevan sathi, and that you have confined yourself to only 2789 words to define 'no expectations'. I only wanted to point out that you forgot to mention he should not be bald or going bald. Vegeterianism, which I had expected you would forget, however you did remember. So felicitations. Wish you a happy new year of searching. I'm certain there would be many anonymouses who perfectly fit the restriction of 2789 words plus 'not bald'. Yours sincerely, Aditya Bondyopadhyay On 12/29/10, attract attractsaf...@gmail.com wrote: Hello guys i have just newly joined this group. i am a 22 yrs old guy from delhi, india ..studying and staying with family .. here m for making good friends as well as searching for my life partner. I don't have a long list of expectations from my partner, but he must have no ego, attitude, show off, no drinking, smoking. He should be a good human being. And where it comes the question of physical relation, I believe first in commitment, love and respect for each other, then comes the physical needs. I want a person, on whose hands I may sleep, can talk a lot with him and live my life in the beautiful way. for me the making of a relationship or meeting of two distinct souls, is a divine and beautiful natural process, whether b it homo relation or hetro relation. It happens naturally. First the two persons keep on searching for each other, through whatever the way of search it may b. then comes the time for knowing each other a little extra whether by chatting or exchanging the numbers. Then the train starts the journey and both feel a little thirst too meet and know about each other some more. Then comes the time and venue of meeting or so called lovingly dating. They both remain nervous and this nervousness draw both towards each other. And as the train starts to gain the speed, this thirst for knowing each other, starts to become respect for each other, and slowly and slowly love. And then comes the stage when the train reaches finally the destination and the love between them becomes the commitment. the search, the thirst, the love, the understanding for each other and the commitment, bring both the souls at a single stage. And then with the blessings of the divine, the two become one and start to spread the aroma of their love in this beautiful universe. Ask those who have gone through this process and they will tell u hw beautiful and romantic this whole process is. That's y I say whether be gay or straight love, its never wrong, if something is wrong, then it's the way we look at it. Love knows no boundary. Passions- To Make My Partner Eat The Food Cooked By Me. Sports- Badminton, Chess (Though I Never Win). Activities- Related With The Nature. Books- from Soul of the Science Research center ,RSSB,s and with good subjects. Music- I Love sufiana ), Indian Classical Music , Sufi Music by abida parveen and wadali bandhus (my all time favorite is dama dama mast kalandar by shahbaj kalandar and meri bukkal de wich chorni by bab bulle shah) , And Some Videshi Items By Jeniffer Lopej (waiting for tonight). TV shows- i love cartoon (my all time favorite r jungle days and tom and jerry), news, discovery
Re: g_b The GayBombay Sunday Meet on Gay Friendship Brotherhood at THANE on 29 August 2010
The meets enable ppl to meet each other and have a social life. IN fact at several of the meets we even have family members who are not gay also of some people. If you are concerned there is sex, rest assured there is none. If you are hopeful there is sex, come in and you may end up liking a non sexual event more than what you came hoping for Rgds Manoj--- On Wed, 25/8/10, alex james joyalex2...@yahoo.co.in wrote: From: alex james joyalex2...@yahoo.co.inSubject: Re: g_b The GayBombay Sunday Meet on Gay Friendship Brotherhood at THANE on 29 August 2010To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.comDate: Wednesday, 25 August, 2010, 12:29 PM Hello Grp, After goingto some ones place what exactly happens there.Any sex on the premises... like 2 some three some etc? or just chat ..pls do write Love n Regards Joy.;--- On Wed, 25/8/10, GayBombay Events eve...@gaybombay.org wrote: From: GayBombay Events eve...@gaybombay.orgSubject: g_b The GayBombay Sunday Meet on Gay Friendship Brotherhood at THANE on 29 August 2010To: airoli_mum...@yahoogroups.co.in, bombay-d...@yahoogroups.com, bombaygaydoct...@yahoogroups.com, cool_gays_bom...@yahoogroups.com, funkyguy_mum...@yahoogroups.co.in, gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, gaybom...@googlegroups.com, "Gay Bombay" gaybom...@yahoogroups.com, gaybombaygr...@yahoogroups.com, gaymalesinmumbaiwhoarereadytohave...@yahoogroups.comDate: Wednesday, 25 August, 2010, 11:21 AM The GayBombay Sunday Meet on Gay Friendship Brotherhood at THANE on 29August 2010 Is the only relationship that we know of in our community that of the romantic kind? Is everyone in the community just another sexual entity? In a community that appears to have an extremely high sexual quotient and wherein romantic relationships seem to epitomise over all other relationships. Friendships, the most beautiful relationship in the world that is not dictated by birth but by choice is often trivialised and relegated down the order of importance. Especially in the gay community, our friends become our families of choice, as important or more as our families of origin. In the month that we celebrated Friendships on Friendship Day and the spirit of Brotherhood on Raksha Bandhan, GayBombay attempts to look beyond long-term relationships and one night stands into the realm of long-term friendships among gay men. To celebrate this deep yet quiet, often-understated bond, we have conceptualised a new event - the GayBombay Frienship Brotherhood Meet. Bring along gay friends who has stood by you, been there for you, shared your joys and sorrows, laughed themselves silly with you, or shared a shoulder to cry on. Let us have the unique experience of enveloping ourselves in the circle of love - that passes through each of our hearts. Human emotions are universal - love, courage, trust, responsibility and respect. Let us meet our best friends and share how, in spite of all that competition, rivalry and jealousy within, our human connection navigates, and ultimately trumps our in sexual orientation. Day Date:Sunday, 29 August 2010 Time: 5:30 PM - 6:00 PM.Venue: Café Coffee Day, Panchpkhadi, Thane (West).Cover:Free entry to the meet The Café Coffee Day at Panchpakhadi, Thane, remains the place we gather at before proceeding to someone's place not far off for another round of chatar patar catching up on each others lives or just bitch about nothing :-) We would be at the Cafe Coffee day for approx 30 min from 5.30pm Directions:For those coming by trains: the place is just a 5 minute ride from the Station and you can ask for `Pizza Hut, Panchpakhadi, near Hari Niwas Circle', For those coming by Highway: turn in towards Thane City at Teen Hath Naka (opposite Eternity Mall) and take a left turn just before Hari Niwas Circle. There is a series of outlets like Pizza Hut, Dominos, etc where you can find the Café. Note :1. Do get your friends along to help them gain access to a group especially if they are not netizens. 2. You do not have to be "out" to the world to attend. This is a discreet event being held as a clean, safe social get-together of a non-sexual nature. Hardly any of those attending are "out" as such. 3. You need to be at least 18 years of age to attend.4. There may be many who will prefer being discreet or may be still be coming to terms with themselves hence a request that all be sensitive to this and act and dress accordingly. 5. To identify the group look out for someone wearing a black capSee you all on Sunday. - - - - - - - -This event is organised by: http://www.gaybomba y.orgRight of admission reserved.
g_b Fw: feed back report on gb trek.
fwing feedback from one of the trekkers to Mahuli :-) --- On Wed, 7/7/10, raju shah rajushah9...@yahoo.com wrote: From: raju shah rajushah9...@yahoo.com Subject: feed back report on gb trek. To: zeus200...@yahoo.com Date: Wednesday, 7 July, 2010, 4:51 PM Hello!! On 4th of this sunday GB organised a trek to fort mahuli situated near Shahapur. Being a newbie to a trek as well for such gb event, I was pretty consious coz I had gone alone (didnt had any of ma frds) with me. But I really feel glad to say from the beggining to the end I never had a single moment where i felt lonely or out of grp kinda, and for this i wud like to thnx RADHE ,JAYESH ...guys ur really gr8! :-) These guys managed the whole thing very nicely. The arrangement of food was realy wow! and i really enjoyed that (the assal gauran food of pithla after the trek ...yumm idea!) Trek guides showed us all the possible technical ways for newsies like me to trek and climb and could climb right to the top and explore the fort and the splendid view fromt the top. I also got some new frds as well had nice time with them on the trek. The whole concept was arranged and happened with a clean and decent manner. I wud always suggest guys to feel free to join all gb occasion like trek, meets picnics etc. AND YEAH last but not least whole centre of attraction MR.UMANG as usual did a gr8 job of keeping everyone entertained and to make the whole thing lively without letting anyone feel lonely or left out. hey dear we all luv u dude Regards, Vaibhav.
g_b GayBombay's Monsoon Trek to Fort Mahuli on Sunday 04 July 2010
6. Trek safety equipment wherever necessary. 7. First Aid if necessary Registration Payments: To join this trek you need to register your name and pay in advance. To Register send an email to Radhey at radhey_khatri@ yahoo.co. in or call us on the Trek Info line 9870504010 To pay catch us at: GayBombay Sunday Meet on 27 June 2008 between 5:30 and 6:00 pm at Café Coffee Day, Panchpakhadi, Thane (West) Things to do: A. Essential clothing and footwear: 1. Wear loose full sleeves shirt or t-shirt of material that can breath, but does not retain water. Wearing thin hosiery material vests or slips under your shirt / t-shirt is recommended. 2. Full cotton trouser or light weight track pants / tights that will dry quickly once wet, Preference is for trousers whose material is light and can stretch. Avoid heavy jeans. You may also wear gaiters near your ankles this will prevent your trousers from getting wet due to wet grass 3. Wear good rubber-soled shoes. Trekking shoes or sports shoes that have a good grip in monsoon. Avoid shoes with high heals or very thick soft rubber sole. 4. Rain Gear like windcheaters or raincoats (No Umbrellas please, they will be blown away if we encounter strong winds). 5. Rain Hat or Cap with Shade B. Carry a waterproof Backpack or Rucksack Before you pack your items in your bag; stuff all of them in small plastic or waterproof bags. Carry all your belongings in a backpack or rucksack with light items at the bottom and top. Heavy items loaded around your shoulders and closer to your back. If you have, compression straps in your bag use them to compress your luggage to make it well balanced. In your back-pack or rucksack the following: 1. A complete set of clothes including undergarments and socks along with a light Towel (must as you will need to change after the trek), 2. Drinking water (atleast 2 litres) 3. Anti-Dehydration agents like Glucose D or C and Electrol 4. Chocolates and dry fruits as pocket snacks 5. Mosquito / Insect repellent (essential) 6. Spare floaters, slippers, or light canvas shoes. 7. Personal Medication or special foods (if any) 8. Personal Photo Identity (Compulsory) along with your blood group and emergency phone numbers of your kin 9. A folding umbrella to protect your camera while taking pictures in rain. This will also be handy if you plan to have your meal while it is raining. 10. Sunhat Sun Cap with good shade (Remember when it is not raining it can get warm and sunny) 11. Sun glasses with retainers 12. Waterproof Sunscreen lotion. C. Nice to have goodies like camera; small binoculars, magnifying glasses and pocket field guide to make most of the trip. Carry all your electronic items in water proof bags / Plastic bags D. A complete No! 1. Consume intoxicating items before or during the trek 2. Litter the place. The ecology of the wilderness is very fragile. Be eco-friendly. During the trek use recyclable and natural products as much as possible. 3 Indulge in hanky-panky. 4. Deface or damage any monument by writing or scribbling on them. Other Notes: 1. You have to be at least 18 years of age to join this trek. 2. GB, as a support group, has created this comfort/safe space for gays. Many people at the event may be newbies (those still coming to terms with their sexuality and/or those who have mustered the courage to come to such an event for the first time). We request you to be sensitive to the comfort levels of others and to behave and dress accordingly. 3. This is not an ordinary trip. It is ideal for those who travel to learn, grow and enjoy nature, not rest and shop. 4. You and your teammates are out in the wild or remote country location on your own. All qualities of teamwork come into play. In times of any crises, trust your group leaders in decision-making. 5. We will try our best to follow the above-mentioned itinerary. However, there may be certain last-minute changes to the itinerary due to factors that remain out of our control. 6. The trip is subjected to various parameters. We advise participants to pack only curiosity and leave expectations at home. Manoj
g_b GayBombay's Monsoon Trek to Fort Mahuli on Sunday 04 July 2010
. Trek safety equipment wherever necessary. 7. First Aid if necessary Registration Payments: To join this trek you need to register your name and pay in advance. To Register send an email to Radhey at radhey_kha...@yahoo.co.in or call us on the Trek Info line 9870504010 To pay catch us at: GayBombay Sunday Meet on 27 June 2008 between 5:30 and 6:00 pm at Café Coffee Day, Panchpakhadi, Thane (West) Things to do: A. Essential clothing and footwear: 1. Wear loose full sleeves shirt or t-shirt of material that can breath, but does not retain water. Wearing thin hosiery material vests or slips under your shirt / t-shirt is recommended. 2. Full cotton trouser or light weight track pants / tights that will dry quickly once wet, Preference is for trousers whose material is light and can stretch. Avoid heavy jeans. You may also wear gaiters near your ankles this will prevent your trousers from getting wet due to wet grass 3. Wear good rubber-soled shoes. Trekking shoes or sports shoes that have a good grip in monsoon. Avoid shoes with high heals or very thick soft rubber sole. 4. Rain Gear like windcheaters or raincoats (No Umbrellas please, they will be blown away if we encounter strong winds). 5. Rain Hat or Cap with Shade B. Carry a waterproof Backpack or Rucksack Before you pack your items in your bag; stuff all of them in small plastic or waterproof bags. Carry all your belongings in a backpack or rucksack with light items at the bottom and top. Heavy items loaded around your shoulders and closer to your back. If you have, compression straps in your bag use them to compress your luggage to make it well balanced. In your back-pack or rucksack the following: 1. A complete set of clothes including undergarments and socks along with a light Towel (must as you will need to change after the trek), 2. Drinking water (atleast 2 litres) 3. Anti-Dehydration agents like Glucose D or C and Electrol 4. Chocolates and dry fruits as pocket snacks 5. Mosquito / Insect repellent (essential) 6. Spare floaters, slippers, or light canvas shoes. 7. Personal Medication or special foods (if any) 8. Personal Photo Identity (Compulsory) along with your blood group and emergency phone numbers of your kin 9. A folding umbrella to protect your camera while taking pictures in rain. This will also be handy if you plan to have your meal while it is raining. 10. Sunhat Sun Cap with good shade (Remember when it is not raining it can get warm and sunny) 11. Sun glasses with retainers 12. Waterproof Sunscreen lotion. C. Nice to have goodies like camera; small binoculars, magnifying glasses and pocket field guide to make most of the trip. Carry all your electronic items in water proof bags / Plastic bags D. A complete No! 1. Consume intoxicating items before or during the trek 2. Litter the place. The ecology of the wilderness is very fragile. Be eco-friendly. During the trek use recyclable and natural products as much as possible. 3 Indulge in hanky-panky. 4. Deface or damage any monument by writing or scribbling on them. Other Notes: 1. You have to be at least 18 years of age to join this trek. 2. GB, as a support group, has created this comfort/safe space for gays. Many people at the event may be newbies (those still coming to terms with their sexuality and/or those who have mustered the courage to come to such an event for the first time). We request you to be sensitive to the comfort levels of others and to behave and dress accordingly. 3. This is not an ordinary trip. It is ideal for those who travel to learn, grow and enjoy nature, not rest and shop. 4. You and your teammates are out in the wild or remote country location on your own. All qualities of teamwork come into play. In times of any crises, trust your group leaders in decision-making. 5. We will try our best to follow the above-mentioned itinerary. However, there may be certain last-minute changes to the itinerary due to factors that remain out of our control. 6. The trip is subjected to various parameters. We advise participants to pack only curiosity and leave expectations at home. Manoj
g_b SRK in a gay kiss
The first kiss i see of SRK onscreen is a gay one ! no jokes --- there has been coverage shown on some news channel of an edited scene in My name is khan where a guy comes and smooched the king khan --- this shot was later deleted frm the film. Now thats one more bold step cheers karan
g_b The GayBombay meet at Thane -4th April
The GayBombay meets at Thane again this weekend ! chill out, hang a leg over, crack a joke, make friends or discuss something that bothers u and us... We will be at the cafe in the time as aforesaid before we move to someone's place for the rest of the evening. Day Date: Sunday, 04 April 2010 Time: 5:30 PM - 6:00 PM. Venue: Café Coffee Day, Panchpkhadi, Thane (West). Cover: Free entry to the meet The Café Coffee Day at Panchpakhadi, Thane, remains the place we gather at before proceeding to someone's place not far off for another round of chatar patar catching up on each others lives or just bitch about nothing :-) We would be at the Cafe Coffee day for approx 30 min from 5.30pm Directions: For those coming by trains: the place is just a 5 minute ride from the Station and you can ask for `Pizza Hut, Panchpakhadi, near Hari Niwas Circle', For those coming by Highway: turn in towards Thane City at Teen Hath Naka (opposite Eternity Mall) and take a left turn just before Hari Niwas Circle. There is a series of outlets like Pizza Hut, Dominos, etc where you can find the Café. Note : 1. Do get your friends along to help them gain access to a group especially if they are not netizens. 2. You do not have to be out to the world to attend. This is a discreet event being held as a clean, safe social get-together of a non-sexual nature. Hardly any of those attending are out as such. 3. You need to be at least 18 years of age to attend. 4. There may be many who will prefer being discreet or may be still be coming to terms with themselves hence a request that all be sensitive to this and act and dress accordingly. 5. To identify the group look out for someone wearing a black cap See you all on Sunday. New Email addresses available on Yahoo! Get the Email name you#39;ve always wanted on the new @ymail and @rocketmail. Hurry before someone else does! http://mail.promotions.yahoo.com/newdomains/aa/
Re: g_b Life is boring!
Another simple question . are you all of these? No objective test will find a human this way normally. So why should this ideal person (or anyone for that matter) love you? from what little i have seen and experienced in the xxx odd years i have been on earth, the list of attributes is never met and ppl who go by them, end up depressed and single. I was hardly anything that my bf may have wanted in his attribute list maybe, but i am sure we both are happy and contented and we chose to see above a narrow list to look at a person and not a job profile. if you think you can love a person for a set of hard coded attributes only, all the best. Just be prepared for umpteen breakups and heartbreaks :( Rgds Manoj --- On Fri, 12/3/10, Aditya Bondyopadhyay adit.b...@gmail.com wrote: From: Aditya Bondyopadhyay adit.b...@gmail.com Subject: Re: g_b Life is boring! To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Friday, 12 March, 2010, 9:20 AM Sometimes I wish really hard that science advances to a degree where scientists are able to cut out the human genome into wee little pieces, each responsible for a particular character trait. And then some walks in with a list that says: he should be smart,cool,down 2 earth,romantic, strong,educated, supportive n emotional as wellof all should be boyish,independent, decent, n matured with manly attitude.. should be protective n friendly in nature.should be able 2 face life as it comes..should trust others,.should understand me n my feelings.. share my joy ,sorrows,everything 2 whom i can talk freely n express myself..n also who is comfortable in expressing himself 2 me.. would love 2 spend passionate special moments of life with him...like-- ---watching movies,, travelling places,go for drive,having candlelight dinnergoing on a date,becoming passionate and romantic..., etc. The person at the counter looks at the list, takes out the appropriate pieces of the genome, mixes them up, incubates, and lo...you have exactly what you wanted, a mail order custom made life partner... That is the only way it is going to be possible these types do not come naturally, they have to be made specially... ..isn't it? And given the humanly impossible wishlist about lovers that I repeatedly see on the lists, I am certain there would be an ever ready market for the product. And of course, when the boyish becomes oldish, when the passionate dissipates, or the friendly sometimes becomes offended or angry (human traits, not wanted in the perfect lover you had custom made..) these customised perfections are going to be disposable as well, just take him back to the shop and recycle him, get another made, an upgraded and better model. Aditya Bondyopadhyay On 11 March 2010 20:38, Life llu...@yahoo. co.in wrote: TRUE LIFE PARTNER...he should be smart,cool,down 2 earth,romantic, strong,educated, supportive n emotional as wellof all should be boyish,independent, decent, n matured with manly attitude.. should be protective n friendly in nature.should be able 2 face life as it comes..should trust others,.should understand me n my feelings.. share my joy ,sorrows,everything 2 whom i can talk freely n express myself..n also who is comfortable in expressing himself 2 me.. would love 2 spend passionate special moments of life with him...like-- ---watching movies,, travelling places,go for drive,having candlelight dinnergoing on a date,becoming passionate and romantic..., etc.NOT ASKING FOR MUCH,,,BUT A TRUE PARTNER IN ALL.A TRUE BONDING --- In gay_bom...@yahoogro ups.com, Ran Raj ranra...@... wrote: hi dear, we can be frnds penpals, as i too far can talk ask , discuss wat u like my probs ur probs etc and try to be there for helping each other and do some thing good which give happiness to ur atma-soul not just body u kno body needs food for all its organs in the same way our innerself i.e. atmasoul needs some food of forgiveness , egolessness, unselfish love to all , accepting all in their good bad condition this things feed the inner self and happiness lies in inner self u our innerself is haapy the we find this whole world really beautiful that is possi by gods grace thru these things what say dear -hello!dont u fear , b-coz god is here , be cool be cool . ... tk.cr. ran _ _ __ From: hautebod haute...@... To: gay_bom...@yahoogro ups.com Sent: Sat, March 6, 2010 7:57:41 PM Subject: g_b Life is boring! Â Looking to meet mature and intelligent gay guyz in this boring pit called Sharjah. If anyone is interested in having true friend here in Sharjah, then do contact me directly at haute...@yahoo. com -- Do not print this mail unless really necessary. Save paper, save trees..!! If you loose your way while SCUBA diving, the safest direction to head for is UP
Re: g_b post coming out problems
wow a veru nice response aditya . suddenly makes us realise why we like u inspite of all the other bites :-D --- On Sat, 27/2/10, Aditya Bondyopadhyay adit.b...@gmail.com wrote: From: Aditya Bondyopadhyay adit.b...@gmail.com Subject: Re: g_b post coming out problems To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Saturday, 27 February, 2010, 11:33 AM Dear Nish, Every one's life is different, and every one's parents are different charecters. If you had decided that your parents are people to whom you could safely come out to, then that was the right decision for you. Do not give that part of the issue another thought, irrespective of what your best friend says. In any event, ultimately an honest life where nothing is hidden and where you are being truthful to yourself and to others is the best life, irrespective of the difficulties, sacrifices, and pain this involves. For if you are truthful, then firstly you are not causing hurt to another by deception, and secondly then no one can sneak up on you with unpleasant surprises. Others may target you with prejudice when you are out, but that is their folly, not yours. You will have preserved your own dignity as a human being in your own eyes, and that will let you live life with your head held high. You may have noticed on this list recently two people being discussed, namely a person called Prashant and Profesor Siras of AMU. I am mentioning them because they can be illustrative of how your life may turn out if you do not stick to your commendable decision to not get married to a woman. Prashant, as per the story he has told about himself, is married, due to social pressures most likely similar to the way your mom is now putting presssure on you. And what is Prashant like today? He is a bitter, disillusioned, hateful, prejudiced, and confused person. More than one person has advised him to seek help from a competent psychiatrist. By his own admission, his married life is not one of blissful companionship but of bitterness and anger and pain all around. And his bitterness has affected him to an extend where he cannot even see the fact that the very community he claims to support and sacrifice his life for, namely LGBT, is severely hurt by his public ravings and rantings, to an extent where he may even jeopardise the most important fight the community is involved with, the 377 battle in the Supreme Court. I want you to think if you would want that to be your life 2 decades from now. Professor Siras was a closetted homosexual and the closest he came to being out was via writing oblique and tangential poetry, where pining for the moon was supposed to be understood as a desire by the poet for another man. When I read one of his poems in translation, I read 'moon' not 'man'. And I read nothing about him being out. But obviously, like life, truth always catches up with you. So he was subjected to a sting operation by AMU and suspended. Both his suspension and the sting are violations of his rights. They are deplorable acts and need to be condemned. But just think, could the AMU have done such a thing if Professor Siras had actually written 'man' instead of 'moon'? Could the so called scandal have been a scandal in reality if there had been nothing to hide? I think not. The naked man cannot be shamed. Disrobing to dishonour can happen only when one is robed and therefore have some things to hide. Blackmail can happen, only when someone can hold the threat of disclosing a secret over your head. So ultimately, coming out and being honest to yourself is probably one of the best decisions that you have taken. You are because of this truthfulness a much stronger individual, much less prone to hurt and injury. And finally, if your mom's pressure continues unabaited, and if at any point you think you would fall for it, there is just one condition that you should insist on as a non-negitiable with your mom. That condition is that you would not wait till after you are married to disclose the fact of your being gay to the girl that you are getting married to, but would do that right at the very begining when the marriage is being negotiated. THat you would explain to he girl everything that being gay means, and what you would continue to do even if you are married. If after that full and complete disclosure, the girl is still willing to get married to you, then you would go ahead. I wish you all the best, Aditya Bondyopadhyay On 27 February 2010 09:25, net.buddy6 net.bud...@yahoo. in wrote: Hello, This is the first time I am writing on this forum. Actually, I need help from you guys. I am 30 years old. I came out to my parents, sister and my best friend last year. Initially they were shocked. They took to me a psychiatrist. I went for 3-4 session, later I refused to go coz it was not serving any purpose. In last session, psychiatrist told my parents that I am normal and nothing wrong with me.
Re: g_b BBC News: Condoms too big for Indian men
righto Salil Also considering the fact that China + south east asia + India total to more than 60% of world population, the world average or 'international standard' (in length) should be lower and not higher . simple ganeet :-) The difference in girth is the only thing that would really really matter for this specific case (for any thing more than approx 2 inches probably). does longer = thicker? ... maybe so many times .but not always as any true blooded connoisseur of penises will tell you :-D Manoj. --- On Wed, 30/12/09, Salil salilmum...@yahoo.com wrote: From: Salil salilmum...@yahoo.com Subject: Re: g_b BBC News: Condoms too big for Indian men To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Wednesday, 30 December, 2009, 12:53 AM Deep, This is a three year old study - I wonder why you suddenly felt like posting it to the list. The study was reported widely, I would have read it in one of the mainstream Indian newspapers rather than the BBC. The idea of shorter condoms seems to have thereafter disappeared without impact. In any case, though I would like to believe the ICMR knows what its doing, I see too many flaws in the study, at least as reported. The study found that more than half of the men measured had penises that were shorter than international standards for condoms. Comment : By definition, half the population is on each side of any average. So if condoms are made for the average size, half of all men should be shorter - and the other half longer ! Since the condom is meant to accomodate larger than average size penises, it is bound to be made larger than what would be perfect for the average penis length. Thus, it follows that much more than half the population would find them large. In any case, they are to be rolled up at the base, so I don't see what point is being made. about 60% of Indian men have penises which are between three and five centimetres shorter than international standards used in condom manufacture Comment : Unless there is a comparison with how penises in at least one other country measure up, this is a meaningless statement. If I understand correctly, condoms are longer than required by design ! The issue is serious because about one in every five times a condom is used in India it either falls off or tears, an extremely high failure rate. Comment : It is difficult to understand how extra length can make a condom fall off or tear. I would guess that lack of access to water-based lubricants and lack of information on proper use of a condom would be significant contributors to condoms tearing and falling off, respectively. By definition if a condom is too long and therefore (correctly) rolled up at the base, it is tighter, not looser ! The correct measure , when investigating slippage, would be condom circumference - which the report does not seem to have measured. And the country already has the highest number of HIV infections of any nation This statistic was deemed correct when the study was completed in 2006, but the current UNAIDS numbers, post the recent correction in the Indian statistics, is ~ 2.5 million infections in India as compared to ~ 5.7 million infections in South Africa. Not that its a contest score, but thought it important to set the record straight on this dated article. Cheers Salil --- On Tue, 29/12/09, Deep gaymanproud31@ yahoo.co. in wrote: From: Deep gaymanproud31@ yahoo.co. in Subject: g_b BBC News: Condoms too big for Indian men To: gay_bom...@yahoogro ups.com Date: Tuesday, 29 December, 2009, 11:15 PM Condoms 'too big' for Indian men By Damian Grammaticus BBC News, Delhi A survey of more than 1,000 men in India has concluded that condoms made according to international sizes are too large for a majority of Indian men. The study found that more than half of the men measured had penises that were shorter than international standards for condoms. It has led to a call for condoms of mixed sizes to be made more widely available in India. The two-year study was carried out by the Indian Council of Medical Research. Over 1,200 volunteers from the length and breadth of the country had their penises measured precisely, down to the last millimetre. The scientists even checked their sample was representative of India as a whole in terms of class, religion and urban and rural dwellers. It's not size, it's what you do with it that matters Sunil Mehra The conclusion of all this scientific endeavour is that about 60% of Indian men have penises which are between three and five centimetres shorter than international standards used in condom manufacture. Doctor Chander Puri, a specialist in reproductive health at the Indian Council of Medical Research, told the BBC there was an obvious need in India for custom-made condoms, as most of those currently on sale are too large. The issue is serious because about one in every five times a condom is used
Re: for aditya-Re: g_b Most Romantic things to do with your BoyFriend
yeah different ppl have differing needs and definitions of what is 'romantic' a lot many may do those things at times especially in the initial few days but then not all .. if your bf is not that 'mushy mushy' kinda , doing these are one sure way of going single soon. On reflections, if you need read or ask or look at the checklist of the most romantic things to do with your boyfriend, maybe you need to just move on as things dont seem to be working :-? Manoj --- On Tue, 29/12/09, Aditya Bondyopadhyay adit.b...@gmail.com wrote: From: Aditya Bondyopadhyay adit.b...@gmail.com Subject: Re: for aditya-Re: g_b Most Romantic things to do with your BoyFriend To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Tuesday, 29 December, 2009, 12:57 PM Well good for you. As for me, my very unromantic (by your definition) relationship has lasted 9 years and more and does not seem likely to end very soon. - Aditya B 2009/12/29 lenin Alagesein lenin_china@ yahoo.com if you really think its all filmy then you really are not into a real relationship. bcoz atleast if you love someone very much you will want to tell i love you whenever possible.and i would like to enjoy each and every second with my boyfriend. see ya --- On Mon, 12/28/09, Aditya Bondyopadhyay adit.b...@gmail. com wrote: From: Aditya Bondyopadhyay adit.b...@gmail. com Subject: Re: g_b Most Romantic things to do with your BoyFriend To: gay_bom...@yahoogro ups.com Date: Monday, December 28, 2009, 1:16 AM Gawd waht filmy crap that list isif even 20% of it became regular occurance, I would scoot from any relationship. ...!!! - Aditya B 2009/12/25 lenin Alagesein lenin_china@ yahoo.com hey Vikram?i will do those things if i have one for sure.if you truly fall in love with one person you will want to do anything to make your lover happy and make him love you. MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYBODY. LENIN --- On Thu, 12/24/09, Vikram Kapoor ej_se...@yahoo. com wrote: From: Vikram Kapoor ej_se...@yahoo. com Subject: Re: g_b Most Romantic things to do with your BoyFriend To: gay_bom...@yahoogro ups.com Date: Thursday, December 24, 2009, 6:18 AM OMG! If anyone did half those things to me I'd throw up :P Esp the parts of holding hands and looking in each others eyes, or calling every 5 mins, or making sure they know you're thinking about them every second.. please.. I need space... Do people in real long term relationships do even half these things on a regular basis? Or am I the only 'non-romantic' on this list? From: Divine Devil divine.devil@ yahoo.com To: gay_bom...@yahoogro ups.com Sent: Thu, 24 December, 2009 3:31:31 AM Subject: g_b Most Romantic things to do with your BoyFriend Watch the sunset together. Whispers to each other. Cook for each other. Walk in the rain. Hold hands. Buy small gifts for each other. Gift Roses. Find out their favourite cologne/perfume and wear every time you're together. Go for a long walk down the beach at midnight. Write poetry for each other. Hugs are the universal medicine. Say I love you, only when you mean it and make sure they know you mean it. Give random gifts of flowers/candy/ poetry etc. Tell him that he's the only boy you ever want. Don't lie! Spend every second possible together. Look into each other's eyes. Very lightly push up his chin, look into his eyes, tell him you love him, and kiss him lightly. When in public, only flirt w/ each other. Put love notes in their pockets when they aren't looking. Buy him a ring. Sing to each other. Always hold his around his hips/sides. Take him to dinner and do the dinner for two-deal Hold his hand, stare into his eyes, kiss his hand and then put it over your heart. Dance together. I love the way a boy looks right after he's fallen asleep with his head in my lap. Do cute things like write I love you in a note so that they have to look in a mirror to read it. Make excuses to call them every 5 minutes Even if you are really busy doing something, go out of your way to call and say I love you. Call from your vacation spot to tell them you were thinking about them. Remember your dreams and tell him about them. Tell each other your most sacred secrets/fears. Be Prince Charming to his parents. Brush his hair out of his face for him. Hang out with his friends. Go to church/pray/ worship together. Take him to see a romantic movie and remember the parts he liked. Learn from each other and don't make the same mistake twice. Describe the joy you feel just to be with him. Make sacrifices for each other. Really love each other, or don't stay together. Let there never be a second during any given day that you aren't thinking about them, and make sure they know it. Love yourself before you love anyone else. Learn to say sweet things in foreign languages. Dedicate songs
g_b The GayBombay Sunday Meet at Thane
The GayBombay Sunday Meet at THANE on 29 November 2009 Day Date: Sunday, 29 November 2009 Time: 5:30 PM - 6:00 PM. Venue: Café Coffee Day, Panchpkhadi, Thane (West). Cover: Free entry to the meet The Café Coffee Day at Panchpakhadi, Thane, remains the place we gather at before proceeding to someone's place not far off for another round of chatar patar catching up on each others lives or just bitch about nothing :-) We would be at the Cafe Coffee day for approx 30 min from 5.30pm Directions: For those coming by trains: the place is just a 5 minute ride from the Station and you can ask for `Pizza Hut, Panchpakhadi, near Hari Niwas Circle', For those coming by Highway: turn in towards Thane City at Teen Hath Naka (opposite Eternity Mall) and take a left turn just before Hari Niwas Circle. There is a series of outlets like Pizza Hut, Dominos, etc where you can find the Café. Note : 1. Do get your friends along to help them gain access to a group especially if they are not netizens. 2. You do not have to be out to the world to attend. This is a discreet event being held as a clean, safe social get-together of a non-sexual nature. Hardly any of those attending are out as such. 3. You need to be at least 18 years of age to attend. 4. There may be many who will prefer being discreet or may be still be coming to terms with themselves hence a request that all be sensitive to this and act and dress accordingly. 5. To identify the group look out for someone wearing a black cap See you all on Sunday. New Email addresses available on Yahoo! Get the Email name you#39;ve always wanted on the new @ymail and @rocketmail. Hurry before someone else does! http://mail.promotions.yahoo.com/newdomains/aa/
g_b Mid day hoarding at Mahalaxmi
Hi for the previous one week + Mid day has carried a very bold (and seemingly supportive) boarding at Mahalaxmi -- this is just off the station showing 2 men about to kiss with a gay rights march as the backdrop and a line of 377 seconds and counting its all in here Just for the the sheer courage to put this smack on the top there - when they could have chosen any other topic to draw the eyeballs - (and the fact that the guys are really really cute) --- anyone who knows the mid day team do congratulate them. Cheers to more such (good ?) publicity. Regards Manoj New Email addresses available on Yahoo! Get the Email name you#39;ve always wanted on the new @ymail and @rocketmail. Hurry before someone else does! http://mail.promotions.yahoo.com/newdomains/aa/
g_b The GayBombay meet at Thane -25th Oct
The Diwali week is over and the last of the faraal is getting finished off. To have another crackling evening, we meet at Thane this Sunday..to sit and chat, talk on things that concern us (and things which things for which we are a concern :p). The Café Coffee Day at Panchpakhadi, Thane, remains the place we gather at before proceeding to someone's place close by for another round of chatar patar, catching up on each others lives or just bitch about nothing :-) We would be at the Cafe Coffee day for approx 30 min from 5.30pm Time: 5:30 PM - 6:00 PM. Venue: Café Coffee Day, Panchpkhadi, Thane (West). Cover: Free entry to the meet Directions: For those coming by trains: the place is just a 5 minute ride from the Station and you can ask for `Pizza Hut, Panchpakhadi, near Hari Niwas Circle', For those coming by Highway: turn in towards Thane City at Teen Hath Naka (opposite Eternity Mall) and take a left turn just before Hari Niwas Circle. There is a series of outlets like Pizza Hut, Dominos, etc where you can find the Café. Note : 1. Do get your friends along to help them gain access to a group especially if they are not netizens. 2. You do not have to be out to the world to attend. This is a discreet event being held as a clean, safe social get-together of a non-sexual nature. Hardly any of those attending are out as such. 3. You need to be at least 18 years of age to attend. 4. There may be many who will prefer being discreet or may be still be coming to terms with themselves hence a request that all be sensitive to this and act and dress accordingly. 5. To identify the group look out for someone wearing a black cap See you all on Sunday. :-) New Email names for you! Get the Email name you#39;ve always wanted on the new @ymail and @rocketmail. Hurry before someone else does! http://mail.promotions.yahoo.com/newdomains/aa/
g_b PARENTS' MEET
CAN SOMEBODY TELL ME AS TO WHEN EXACTLY IS THE PARENTS MEET...ITS SEPTEMBER ALREADY,AND I HAVENT SEEN A WORD ON THE LISTS OR ON THE SITE BEING SPOKEN ABOUT THE PARENTS MEET REGARDS. Signature-*divinity is in every1,perversity is when v fail 2 recognise this believe that v have the right 2 discriminate.* *RISK MORE THAN WHAT OTHERS THINK IS SAFE, CARE MORE THAN WHAT OTHERS THINK IS WISE, DREAM MORE THAN WHAT OTHERS THINK IS PRACTICAL, EXPECT MORE THAN WHAT OTHERS THINK IS POSSIBLE.* *PERSPECTIVE- what does this say - Godisnowhere- did u read,'God is no where?' or did u read,'God is now here?' We dont always see the same thing as other people-its all about perspective* *one of the most important tools in getting along with other people is knowing that the other person might not be thinkin in the same way as you.* *THE GENESIS OF PROGRESS IS DISOBEDIENCE. * *THIS IS A HOMOPHOBIA FREE EMAIL ADDRESS. * *YOU MAY BE THE MOST INTELLIGENT AND WELL-READ PERSON,BUT WHEN IT COMES TO MATTERS OF THE HEART AND/or MATTERS OF THE LOINS - WE ARE ALL IDIOTS.* See the Web#39;s breaking stories, chosen by people like you. Check out Yahoo! Buzz. http://in.buzz.yahoo.com/
g_b The GayBombay meet at Mulund last week
topic!) 10]Why don’t gay marriages last? Ø No social pressure to keep them together Ø Lack of children reduces the binding factors further Ø Ego issues between 2 men Ø That need not be true as gay men have a greater sense of empathy than heterosexual men and are be more emotional --- this contributes very favourably for 2 gay men to have a relation –either of love or frndship and needs to be built on. 11]Why are gay men said to be westernized? Ø Typical role models available to gay men are from western countries today and hence it was been adopted by many. Ø There are a lot more of desi (ishtyle) men seen as commonly who refuse to follow the ‘westernised’ role pattern 12] Is the ruling on sec377 applicable to us? Will it be challenged? Ø The ruling of the Delhi high court on 2nd July is applicable to all of us. (there was further discussion on the law, and why and how is it applicable to us and shah bano case …. Ok I forgot it :P ) Ø The fact that government has specially not asked for a stay is a huge positive Ø The fact that the govt can get swayed by religion and vote politics is a real danger Ø There are some replies by Aditya Bandopadhyay (pl do not curse me for the spells) on this front on the GB mailing list which should clarify the legal position better along with articles by several others. 13] Do gay guys who are effeminate get as many guys as those who are not? Ø Each gay has his own liking and there are many who prefer them as much as there are many who prefer hunks. Ø Its quite ok to be what you are – the guy who likes you will find you (loved this J ) 14]As a gay, what other than finding a partner, are more important things Ø Find a social setup Ø Have good friends around Ø Why should I have different important things in life than what a hetero has? I am normal. Ø Secure the latter part of life The discussion then moved on to something as important – the Friendship day PICNIC. The place was decided and majority seemed eager to join in as the place was not very far, but still within one days travel distance. Finally a big thanks to S, who played the host to the entire gang and allowed us to have such a good time together. Regards Manoj. New Email names for you! Get the Email name you#39;ve always wanted on the new @ymail and @rocketmail. Hurry before someone else does! http://mail.promotions.yahoo.com/newdomains/aa/
g_b Gay Insight for desi marketers
From TOI business pages for today --- sadly it does say that the market
specific for the pink dollar is still years away in the country :(
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Re: g_b GB Sunday Meet at Mulund on 26 July 2009
There is no upper age limit to attend and participate in the event. Regards Manoj.--- On Tue, 21/7/09, prem chandran zulfy_2...@yahoo.com wrote: From: prem chandran zulfy_2...@yahoo.comSubject: Re: g_b GB Sunday Meet at Mulund on 26 July 2009To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.comDate: Tuesday, 21 July, 2009, 10:58 PM NOTED BELOW APPNDED MESSAGE IS THERE ANY UPPER AGE LIMIT TO ATTEND THE GET TOGETHER --- On Tue, 7/21/09, GayBombay Events eve...@gaybombay.org wrote: From: GayBombay Events eve...@gaybombay.orgSubject: g_b GB Sunday Meet at Mulund on 26 July 2009To: airoli_mum...@yahoogroups.co.in, bombay-d...@yahoogroups.com, bombaygaydoct...@yahoogroups.com, bombaylesbi...@yahoogroups.com, cool_gays_bom...@yahoogroups.com, funkyguy_mum...@yahoogroups.co.in, gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, "Gay Bombay" gaybom...@yahoogroups.com, gaybombaygr...@yahoogroups.com, gaydombi...@yahoogroups.co.inDate: Tuesday, July 21, 2009, 12:02 PM The GayBombay Sunday Meet atMulund on26July 2009 Day Date: Sunday,26July 2009Time: 5:30 PM - 6:00 PM. Meeting Venue: Outside Monginis, Next to Gangar Eye Nation, Opp. Mulund Station, Mulund(West), Mumbai 400 080 Cover: Free entry to the meet We shallgather outside Monginis before proceeding to someone's place not far off for another round of chatar patar catching up on each others lives or just bitch about nothing :-) We would be at theMonginis for approx 30 min from 5.30 pm Directions:For those coming by trains: the place is just diagonally oppositethe southern (CST end) exitofMulund Station on the west.For those coming by Highway: turn in towardsMulund at MHADA Colony/Navghar Road junction (this is the junction closest to the Toll Plaza) and drive down until you come to a junction withCampus Restaurant on the left. Turn right here and go straight.Take the flyover/bridgeto cross the railway tracks toMulund West. Continue to go straight untilyou arrive at Vishwa Mahal Restaurant on the right. Monginisis justaround the corner. Note :1. Do get your friends along to help them gain access to a group especially if they are not netizens.2. You do not have to be "out" to the world to attend. This is a discreet event being held as a clean, safe social get-together of a non-sexual nature. Hardly any of those attending are "out" as such. 3. You need to be at least 18 years of age to attend. 4. There may be many who will prefer being discreet or may be still be coming to terms with themselves hence a request that all be sensitive to this and act and dress accordingly.5. To identify the group look out for someone wearing a black cap See you all on Sunday. This event is organised by: http://www.gaybomba y.orgRight of admission reserved. Get your new Email address! Grab the Email name youve always wanted before someone else does!
g_b Impact of The Judgement on rest of the country
One of the question has been on my mind and some others i have talked to since and before the judgement has been, that given the judicial system in the country, how does the judgement impact the janta living outside the NCR. Todays' edition of TOI has an article which i an copying below (i so so so wish to go n kiss the editor m journos --- the paper is fully about the judgement and very positive it was just a tad short of having a Pink paper today :-d ) Any views from the legal fraternity on this please? Manoj. === Will Delhi HC order apply across India? Manoj Mitta | TNN New Delhi: Since a high court has a limited territorial jurisdiction, is homosexuality decriminalized only in Delhi or the whole country? Although legal pundits are divided on this, the law laid down by a 2004 SC judgment implies that homosexuals across the country may rest assured that they too are entitled to the benefits of the historic Delhi high court decision on Section 377 IPC. In Kusum Ingots vs Union of India, a threejudge bench of the Supreme Court had ruled: “An order passed on writ petition questioning the constitutionality of a Parliamentary Act, whether interim or final, will have effect throughout the territory of India subject of course to the applicability of the Act.” Thursday’s Delhi high court verdict is also on the constitutionality of an Act of Parliament, which has jurisdiction throughout the country, and the Central government was anyway party to the case. Since the Indian Penal Code 1860 is applicable throughout the country, except Jammu and Kashmir, the final order of the Delhi high court questioning the constitutionality of Section 377 will have effect far beyond the capital, in terms of the 2004 SC judgment. New Email names for you! Get the Email name you#39;ve always wanted on the new @ymail and @rocketmail. Hurry before someone else does! http://mail.promotions.yahoo.com/newdomains/aa/
Re: g_b shame on us!
hi Zameer, I read about your experience and i really feel bitter about our society and our own weakness. I am a person who got married due to family pressure. Well, it was not just family pressure, my mom knew about my being gay and she knew my boyfriend and she made him convince me to get married. Till today i have not been able to forgive her for that. The indian society has certain norms which guarantee to leave you feeling bitter all your life, whether it is through family pressure or through blackmailing cops. Maybe the police is always under stress due to their working conditions, but still look at their attitude. They do not think twice before prosecuting gays who are usually law abiding citizens in every way. Maybe all the people who attended the party will never attend one again. Maybe some will BECOME straight by this experience. But indian gays should atleast form good stable friendships among ourselves and build a strong network. Such incidents should bring us together instead of separate and divide us. Your friend has at least shown some courage by sending you the SMS. Please don't ignore it and stop relations with him altogether. It is the first step towards building your own Strong network. Love, Manoj --- On Tue, 23/6/09, lgbtindiagroup lgbtindiagr...@yahoo.com wrote: From: lgbtindiagroup lgbtindiagr...@yahoo.com Subject: g_b shame on us! To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Tuesday, 23 June, 2009, 9:42 PM courtesy gb list Shame on us! Or The story of the reverse gear... Posted by: kamble zameer zam...@yahoo. de zamkam Tue Jun 23, 2009 5:37 am (PDT) SHAME ON US Two days back there was a gay party, held in a village in Lonavala by a person, who generally arranges the gay parties in Pune. I was going to the Lonavala party for the first time and had taken along three close friends with me. Two of them are out and also act in my play OFFBEAT. One of them, a muslim guy is in the process of outing himself due to marriage pressure at home. Then there was my date, a chat friend from a remote village in Rajasthan, who shifted to Pune, just last month, again due to marraige pressure at home. I was glad that he was atleast clear about not getting married and I had kind of also motivated him by describing to him the queer movement in India in general. He was thrilled to know about the gay parties in Mumbai and Pune. So I had promised him to take to the said Lonavala Party. My Muslim friend had got one more friend along, he was coming to this party for the first time too. He is a south indian and is not out to his family too. Out of the way we also picked one more friend from Nigdi, who acted in my short film, but had requested me to not screen his real name in the film titles. On the way we had our fun of having drinks, wada-pav and singing gay songs like Hum tum dono jab mil jayen'gay' , etc. When we finally reached the spot at 12.30, we realized, we were falling short of some money. Since we had got so many friends with us, the organizer didnt mind it, he still let us in. Inside there was loud music in perfect mild light and lots of good (hee hee!) guys dancing. I joined in with my date and started enjoying the music too. Since I and two of my friends were drunk, we had some good share of funny moments too. At around 1.30 three policemen stormed in the bunglow and asked us to stop the music. They came inside and checked the whole bungalow, looked for alcohol bottles and stared at our queer presence. We all were obviously scared to death. The policemen went in the corridor of the bungalow and started interrogating the organizer and the DJs who apparently were localites. I forgot my fear as soon as the organizer came to me asking for help. So I went out to the cops, gave them all details about myself, told them I am a German Teacher in the University of Pune, I voluntarily also work for HIV-Awareness etc. I didnt want to say Gay because I didnt want them to have ideas if they already hadnt realized it yet. But no, they knew it. The cops immediately asked me, why were we partying with reverse people here. It didnt take much time for me to understand that reverse was their word for gay. The cop asked me to stop convincing him and ordered me to get all the people out and to give thier names and addresses. I went inside and for the first time I saw faces, because now there was light. Most of them were scared, silent and staring at me with hope and fear. Two of my actor friends asked me what happened. I told them that the cops want us to come out of the bungalow and give our details. Immediately people started panicking. But I and my friends were convinced that this is the time to come out and say the truth. I had shown the film Milk to them recently and we were obviously on a high and thought it to be appropriate to go in custody and start the movement in Pune. But the majority of people had other plans. They rejected
Re: g_b Re: NEVER READY FOR IT
The govt should this The courts should do that ppl shud not wear masks what is there today is wrong what is going to happen is as bad if not more. rt? but then as an individual how are you carrying the stone on which the foundation is sought to be built? Wanna have a secure house.? lift the stone to build it n not cast on others. Manoj --- On Thu, 18/6/09, Prashant p...@yahoo.com wrote: From: Prashant p...@yahoo.com Subject: g_b Re: NEVER READY FOR IT To: gayde...@googlegroups.com Cc: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, GayAhmedabad gayahmeda...@googlegroups.com, GayBangalore gaybangal...@googlegroups.com, GayBombay gaybom...@googlrgroups.com, GayBombay Blogger gaybombay.sasha1...@blogger.com, GayBombayGroup gaybombaygr...@yahoogroups.com, Gaycalcutta gaycalcu...@googlegroups.com, gaycalcuttagr...@yahoogroups.com, GayChennai gaychen...@googlegroups.com, GayDelhi gayde...@googlegroups.com, GayIndia gayin...@googlegroups.com, time84x...@post. wordpress. com time84x...@post.wordpress.com Date: Thursday, 18 June, 2009, 5:57 PM I think 377 may be removed any time now, may be next month when the courts open after summer vacations or a little later. The hearing in the Delhi High Court was over in October, 2008 and only verdict has to come. The proceedings and the attitude of the judges during the last 4-5 days of hearing made it clear that 377 will be removed. They only have to see that there is no law and order problem the day verdict comes. They will have to make some police arrangement before verdict is announced. The court might inform the government in advance to make suitable arrangements. However, I do not think that removal of 377 is going to help Indian gay community in any way. Indian homosexuals will not be able to surface out and start living with their partners openly after 377 is removed. Homosexuality will keep operating as a hidden and underground sub-culture in India as usual. In fact, 377 has already been removed in practice. The government of India is not enforcing it now. They allow flavoured condoms meant for oral sex to be manufactured and marketed openly, they install condom vending machines in military barracks for soldiers who have anal sex with each other since they remain away from their wives for prolonged periods, all gay sites remain openly accessible in India, gay parties openly allowed in metros, gay men remaining openly involved in sexual activities in city parks in Mumbai when cops turning a blind eye to them and so on. IPC 377 now exists on paper only. Whether we remove it from paper or not is immaterial. The Sri Lankan Government has even said to its gay community that we are not enforcing law banning anal sex, so they can have anal sex if they want. What we want is the acceptability of homosexuality in India which will come through education. The government must publicize the findings of medical science about homosexuality in India through newspapers, radio, TV etc. and other means of mass communication. The government must heavily advertise that homosexuality is not a mental disorder and it is a normal human behaviour. The Government should also launch special drives so that married gay men come out in the open and take divorce from their wives. Making same-sex Marriage Law is the first step in creating the acceptability of homosexuals in the society. Nothing less than this will work. Nepal's Supreme Court has already ordered Nepal Government to make Same-sex Marriage Law within 6 months. Since 6 months are already over, somebody might now file a contempt petition in the court to remind the Government to make the law. Nepal is presently going on under political turmoil; otherwise the law might already have been made by now. Removal of 377 only helps in establishing the existence of male homosexuals in the society. The Government of India has already accepted our existence but a common man has yet to do so. Previously, the Government of India was also not recognising the existence of homosexuality in the society. However, after AIDS came into picture, the government had to do it. Now, if not all then at least those government documents and reports which are prepared in connection of HIV and AIDS prevention work always use two words together - prostitutes and homosexuals (they have coined the word 'MSM' for homosexuals but they never use the words ‘MSW’ or ‘WSM’ for themselves). It shows that the government of India has accepted the existence of homosexuals on earth. However, a common man is yet to do so categorically. So far a common man on the street thinks that there are some men who take young boys to deserted spots and they rape them. A common man also knows that there are some men in the society who want that another man performs anal sex on them. A common man thinks that these two types of men are known as homosexuals and they suffer from a mental disease. A common man also
Re: g_b facial hair and finicky gays
...and then you will have another email on why relations do not last or i am alone kind --- On Mon, 8/6/09, Aditya Bondyopadhyay adit.b...@gmail.com wrote: From: Aditya Bondyopadhyay adit.b...@gmail.com Subject: g_b facial hair and finicky gays To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Monday, 8 June, 2009, 5:03 PM All those with facial hair...SCOOT. I am increasingly amazed by the specificities of demands that are made on this list. I also am concerned that this may actually be the recipe for long term unhappiness for the ones seeking, for thay have formulated their desires to such stark minuteness that they may either not find any human fitting the framework (after all being flawed is human...to err is humanetc. ..), or whoever they find will never live up to the stereotypical standards that they have set for themselves.. .both ultimately designed for unhappiness. Aditya B 2009/6/8 Narendra Singh nsrathore26@ yahoo.in Hii my age is 26 5.5 h 56 weight versatile from ahemdabad . I want clean New Email addresses available on Yahoo! Get the Email name you#39;ve always wanted on the new @ymail and @rocketmail. Hurry before someone else does! http://mail.promotions.yahoo.com/newdomains/aa/
g_b The GB meet at Mulund last sunday
The universe started with chaos ……and there was no reason for the meet not to start with confusions J! The meet started with multiple waiting points, lots of directing and redirecting those who were coming newly, with a majority turning up at the new place, as we waited to pick up any who would have come to the earlier place …..and were rewarded (FA… the CCD guy served us (he alone makes it worth the coffee at CCD :-D ) and we collected someone too :p) Reaching the venue, it was already a packed house with some 25+ppl already in, with lots of new faces in the crowd. After the routine formal round of introduction was done with, we got around to talk. As usual we had not brought a pre determined topic so as to talk on something on someone’s mind. The newbies started off the talk by sharing what had made them take the step towards coming in for a meet, …. some who had started coming after being on the mailing list for several years, some having heard of it on the train or through other friends. The reasons ranged from seeking out for a relation or friends or just a group where one can be himself. T talked about the picnic as we happily recounted the first time he had come as a doubting quiet introvertl and a now much more confident and confident person. GB has had a strict no sex on premises policy since inception. Should this be so? After all, if we do not stand against sex, if we can distribute condoms and lubes at parties earlier, why should sex be so strictly controlled at events was one question that came up. Nearly all felt that, though having sex is not unwelcome (who would seriously expect otherwise !), its best that we do not bring it in, as it would dilute the very reason of having a meet or get together which we have come for. “B” elaborated on this pretty well on why he would like to keep the events free from any hanky panky …….. of course there were hoots and interests when someone said there are other organisations to organize a “more intimate” event and a gb meet is something that caters to a very different thing for all and should be left so ( and then selfishly no one shared those vital information or other organisations K) The talk then turned to on the times when we have had support from such groups, with the host and others sharing some of their experiences and as we talked in general of the various groups that work on the LGBT front in Mumbai. One of the feedbacks that did come in was that during the meets we could organize small events other than just chatting up …. Maybe games or maybe some more serious discussion on issues facing each of us. This was something that all were unanimous about, and yeah….the effects should be at the next meet. Also that fact that the newbies should be offered more space to talk and get comfortable was brought out. It was observed by few that though many people do come with an intention to make friends (or maybe meet that special one), the hesitation in talking to strangers, or when both wait for the other to initiate conversation and continue it post the meet, is one of the key reasons of many to come and go back as alone. Personally, I think its perfectly normal to go and say a Hi to some one you would like to speak to…… rather these are the spaces that you know you can comfortably talk and not end up climbing a wrong tree and make friends …. If we keep going back without knowing anyone outside the meet, ….well it does defeat somewhat the purpose of the meet …..rt? (ofcourse keeping in mind that you do not start KkKiran :p ) Phew, it was getting a bit too serious by now (we R gay baby!) and we each of us recounted some embarrassing or funny incident when we had hit on a str8 (unsuccessfully). This part was fun as some recounted the incidents or hits and misses made. In between snacked on the spread of dhoklas and samosas and what not ….burp! With these and other small talks, it was getting near 9 by now and so we wound up ….taking another 20 minutes talking and chatting after the meet was declared over. Some of the guys headed for a dinner together while some headed back home or elsewhere :p Thanks a lot to the host, who really went to great pains to make us comfortable and burp well. Cheers Manoj. [ps- more meatier details in other reports :-D ] Get your preferred Email name! Now you can @ymail.com and @rocketmail.com. http://mail.promotions.yahoo.com/newdomains/aa/
Re: g_b please let me know
age/ profile is irrelevant. Looking at your email i gather that you are looking for people with whom you can relate and share your thoughts/ laughs/ fear /fantasies as you have moved to this city. I would suggest that you do go and try to be a part of the meets that gaybombay or Humsafar organises. These involve just ppl (even perfect strangers) meeting up and chit chatting on either some issues or just like old friends. Over the years i have seen several people find good friends (if not more) at such places. To know more about the events organised by gaybombay pl visit the site www.gaybombay.org. Humsafar, which is an NGO, also arranges for counselling, get togethers and film screenings on regular basis at its centre in vakola --- you may check the site/ this list for its events too. Just walk into one of these meets/ events and i hope you start off a life which allows you to be gay and as social as any of hetero community. Cheerrs Manoj --- On Tue, 5/5/09, Alpha Leonis higfri...@yahoo.com wrote: From: Alpha Leonis higfri...@yahoo.com Subject: Re: g_b please let me know To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Tuesday, 5 May, 2009, 10:36 PM What r u frustated about ? whats ur age and job profile? Regards, - Alpha Leonis --- On Tue, 5/5/09, Leonardo Rearden leonardorearden@ yahoo.in wrote: From: Leonardo Rearden leonardorearden@ yahoo.in Subject: g_b please let me know To: gay_bom...@yahoogro ups.com Date: Tuesday, May 5, 2009, 4:13 AM Hi Everyone, I'm new to this Yahoo group. I was feeling really frustrated of my life and decided to find some place for solace. ... and yeups!.. . reached here. I'm lookin for someonne who thinks like me. :-? Is there a place people where I could share my story and thoughts ? Please lemme know guys Hope to hear from someone or the other out of the almost 16,000 odd members In breif I'm in Mumbai, who's born in Goa, lived in Goa for 21-22 years am a mallu and came to Mumbai for a job... working here since the past 3 years... Signin off for now... Ciao. Leo (pseudonym) Share files, take polls, and make new friends - all under one roof. Click here. New Email addresses available on Yahoo! Get the Email name you#39;ve always wanted on the new @ymail and @rocketmail. Hurry before someone else does! http://mail.promotions.yahoo.com/newdomains/aa/
Re: g_b r u gay?
Hi I can understand the question you ask this was one of the first emails i had put on this same list some yrs back and can relate to you. In the journey from where I started, I can give you some points which i noticed on the way and which can lead you to answer your questions better i feel. When the word gay is used, what do we mean by it? What is a 'gay life' that we refer or relate to? What is a 'gay life'? The initial meaning of the word gay was to do with a person who has or likes to have with men. But as the initial hunger was satiated, i also realised that a gay is not only to do with the physical act or thoughts abt this act, but also the fact that mentally also we bind and attach with males and this is something which is more important as the physical act can be with anyone by nearly all. Can one lead a gay life? Is a life of a gay to do with partying, meeting new people, cruising or such and is this a gay life? Or is it a life where I choose that, though the society may not agree and see the honesty in my intentions and actions, I too will not commit that which i see to be fraudulent. Can i stay peacefully in love with some one and live a life? I think I can. Can I have group of friends like any other? a circle which calls me their own and which i relate to? Idealistic? Maybe so. There will be several times of human failure, but i believe i have met and been blessed with knowing several who could lead me to a positive answers on these fronts. Hope u find the same luck. Cheers Manoj --- On Tue, 21/4/09, Smartkid guy.l...@yahoo.com wrote: From: Smartkid guy.l...@yahoo.com Subject: g_b r u gay? To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, gaybom...@yahoogroups.com Date: Tuesday, 21 April, 2009, 9:09 PM Hello Buddies, Hi i m 22 from semi urban city. Same question is been asked by my mind/brain? Every one who is GAY is only for few seconds of day...atleast in india we cannot be fulltime i mean entire life in GAY role. eithere GAYS are for wild fun or sentimental attachment.. .which they cant live together all the time. U might be thinking i m kid and writing such useless or foolish question? I know everyone is here 2 enjoy every movement of life but lets not scared of our own identity...many of them are bi-s or they use guys for satisfaction. I may go wrong ...i said wat i feeli m proud that we hve such big nice grp 2 share all stuff as well medium 2 choose luckyone..hats 2 mgmt of dis grp as well others who are part of this scty. i m here for good / longlasting / caring / honest friendship and endless love which is not meant for sex/fun/one nite stand. Thanks 4 going through mail and spending such time wid me. Comments / feedbacks most welcome...u may also guide me too Redgs C New Email names for you! Get the Email name you#39;ve always wanted on the new @ymail and @rocketmail. Hurry before someone else does! http://mail.promotions.yahoo.com/newdomains/aa/
g_b The GayBombay Brunch with Speed Dating
GB brings Hawaii to Mumbai !!! A huge HARD-ON! That’s what you get - the moment you step in. Hot and well-toned guys in itsy-bitsy shorts and irresistible sarongs. You bet! This Hawaiian welcome is more than a garland and coconut-chhatri drink affair. Fun : Hawaiian music, drum beating contest, limbo rock games, Hawaiian dance competition, best-dressed prizes etc. Food : Veg Non-veg bar BQ, lots of mocktails smoothies. Dress code: Colorful floral shirt, sexy shorts and comfortable flip-flops. Or else a colorful sarong with a string top would be just fine. Cool sunglasses, floral bandanas… will expand your fan club. Value 4 money: Cell numbers, the-real-face-behind-fake-ids loads of attention. Surprise : Learn a move or two of Hula dance from the expert. Warning : You are in for some serious laid back flirting. Lock your boyfriend(s) home. The GayBombay Brunch with Speed Dating Day, Date Time: Sunday 22 March 2009 between 12:30 pm and 6:30 pm. Venue: Imperial Tadka (formerly Zouk), Hotel Imperial Palace, Telli Galli, Andheri (East); Mumbai Directions: Hotel Imperial Palace is a 5 minute walk from Andheri station on the East side. Walk up the Andheri Kurla Road (towards the Highway) and turn right into Telli Galli. It's the 3rd building on your right. But if you're driving and taking the Andheri flyover, from West to East, make a left turn at the signal at the end of the flyover. Or if you're driving on the highway make a left turn at the Andheri flyover road and a right turn at the signal before the flyover. This is Telli Galli. Almost towards the end of this road, close to Andheri Kurla Road (perpendicular to Telli Galli), is Hotel Imperial Palace, on your left. Cover: Rs 350/- per person What is SPEED DATING? The way it works: You show up, sit down, and over the course of one hour, have 15 mini-dates of four minutes each. Four minutes is just long enough to get beyond Hello and get to know each other's interests and expectations. It's also short enough so that if you don't click with the guy sitting opposite you you're soon going to be meeting someone else in a few minutes. After your 15 mini-dates, you will be given a piece of paper with a list of all the men you met earlier. If you want to have a repeat (longer) date with any of the men you met, you put a tick against his name/number. If a guy you ticked also ticked you your contact details will then be exchanged. That is, only if both guys are interested in meeting again will numbers or emails be swapped. It sounds pretty complicated but it's actually quite simple. GB simply acts as the facilitator. Notes: 1. You have to be above the age of 18 to attend the event. 2. GB, as a support group, has created this comfort/safe space for gays. Many people at the event may be newbies (those still coming to terms with theirsexuality and/or those who have mustered the courage to come to such an eventfor the first time). We request you to be sensitive to the comfort levels ofothers and to behave and dress accordingly. 3. No dark rooms; if found indulging in any hanky panky you will be asked to leave the event. Get your preferred Email name! Now you can @ymail.com and @rocketmail.com. http://mail.promotions.yahoo.com/newdomains/aa/
Re: g_b I PROTEST TO MODERATORS
Hey.,i dont think its a problem if someone posts a 1.6 megabyte file.. To download it or not is your choice. No ones forcing u to download it.. And with just the click of an icon onscreen u can delete the mail with its attachment if u wish.. There is no problem with the moderation.,its a free country,a free queer list.,and everyone has equal right to express themselves.. Some are capable of expressing themselves lightly whereas some need a tad more size limit to express themselves.. There is no problem with the moderation.,if any.,i suppose there is a problem with your net connection.. U sound as if u use dial up instead of broadband.. Stop criticising the moderation and go change your net connection dear. Regards. Signature- *RISK MORE THAN WHAT OTHERS THINK IS SAFE, CARE MORE THAN WHAT OTHERS THINK IS WISE, DREAM MORE THAN WHAT OTHERS THINK IS PRACTICAL, EXPECT MORE THAN WHAT OTHERS THINK IS POSSIBLE.* *PERSPECTIVE- what does this say - Godisnowhere did u read,'God is no where?' or did u read,'God is now here?' We dont always see the same thing as other people-its all about perspective-one of the most important tools in getting along with other people is knowing that the other person might not be thinkin in the same way as you.* *THE GENESIS OF PROGRESS IS DISOBEDIENCE. * *THIS IS A HOMOPHOBIA FREE EMAIL ADDRESS. * *YOU MAY BE THE MOST INTELLIGENT AND WELL-READ PERSON,BUT WHEN IT COMES TO MATTERS OF THE HEART AND/or MATTERS OF THE LOINS - WE ARE ALL IDIOTS. * --- On Thu, 26/2/09, Aditya Bondyopadhyay adit.b...@gmail.com wrote: From: Aditya Bondyopadhyay adit.b...@gmail.com Subject: g_b I PROTEST TO MODERATORS To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Thursday, 26 February, 2009, 12:52 PM There should be a moderation policy on the size of the attachment that can be posted. This is ridiculous where 1.6MB is sent as attachment clogging up our mailbox size and prolonging download time when we may not even be interested in the song or whatever. Especially when a mere link can easily be sent for the song after uploading it on Rapidshare or Sendspace, if the sender is so eager that their silly song be heard on the list. I protest and say that such huge files when they are impertinant is to be weeded out. Only huge files that are related to LGBT issues should be allowed. I demand that moderators reply soon on this issue with a clear policy. Best regards Aditya Bondyopadhyay = you got a point. no more big files and all relevant files will be uploaded to the file section if it exceeds 1 mb. Regards Moderator Add more friends to your messenger and enjoy! Go to http://messenger.yahoo.com/invite/
g_b Utah lawmaker: Gays are greatest threat to America
Signature- *RISK MORE THAN WHAT OTHERS THINK IS SAFE, CARE MORE THAN WHAT OTHERS THINK IS WISE, DREAM MORE THAN WHAT OTHERS THINK IS PRACTICAL, EXPECT MORE THAN WHAT OTHERS THINK IS POSSIBLE.* *PERSPECTIVE- what does this say - Godisnowhere did u read,'God is no where?' or did u read,'God is now here?' We dont always see the same thing as other people-its all about perspective-one of the most important tools in getting along with other people is knowing that the other person might not be thinkin in the same way as you.* *THE GENESIS OF PROGRESS IS DISOBEDIENCE. * *THIS IS A HOMOPHOBIA FREE EMAIL ADDRESS. * *YOU MAY BE THE MOST INTELLIGENT AND WELL-READ PERSON,BUT WHEN IT COMES TO MATTERS OF THE HEART AND/or MATTERS OF THE LOINS - WE ARE ALL IDIOTS. * Note: forwarded message attached. Check out the all-new Messenger 9.0! Go to http://in.messenger.yahoo.com/---BeginMessage--- Utah lawmaker says LGBT people are America's greatest threat. Watch the video and take action! Dear Patrick, They're probably the greatest threat to America going down I know of. So what's America's greatest threat? The weakest economy in 80 years? Widespread layoffs, bank collapses, meltdown in the auto industry and a housing crisis? Not according to Utah State Sen. Chris Buttars. In a recent interview obtained by HRC, he says America's greatest threat is the LGBT community. He goes on to call lesbian and gay relationships abominations and claims LGBT people lack morals. Watch now Just appalling. We need to make sure that these kinds of remarks by a public official do not go unanswered. Call on Utah's Senate President to publicly condemn Sen. Buttars' remarks immediately. Words matter. They can't just be laughed or shrugged off. In the interview, Sen. Buttars calls LGBT people the meanest buggers I've ever seen – this kind of rhetoric creates an atmosphere of hatred that incites violence against LGBT Americans. Here are a few more lowlights from Buttars' vile rant: * LGBT people are destroying the Constitution. * Their number one goal is to proselytize to youth and use schools as a recruiting station. * Thanks to them we are, moving toward a society that has no morals. * They will destroy the foundation of American society... In my mind, it is the beginning of the end. What's more, Sen. Buttars also takes clear pride in saying he's killed every piece of pro-equality legislation in Utah for eight years. These remarks were not made behind closed doors, but openly and unapologetically in a January 30th on-camera interview with filmmaker Reed Cowen, taped in Buttars' official Senate office. Sadly, hateful speech is nothing new to Buttars. During debate over a school-funding bill last year, he said This baby is black... It's a dark, ugly thing, sparking the NAACP to call for his resignation. Will Utah's leaders hold Sen. Buttars accountable? Will they tolerate shameless bigotry in their chamber? Write to Utah's Senate President today and tell him to denounce Buttars' remarks. Then tell your friends about Sen. Buttars' outrageous comments and ask them to write in too. There's no lie too hateful, no tactic too low, for right-wing bigots to use in their campaign against LGBT rights and freedoms. The only one who can stop them is you. Thank you for taking action. Warmly, Joe Solmonese President This link is specific to you, so please take action on this campaign before you forward to your friends. Having trouble clicking on the links above? Simply copy and paste this URL into your browser's address bar: http://www.hrcactioncenter.org/campaign/buttars © 2009 The Human Rights Campaign. All rights reserved. Human Rights Campaign | www.hrc.org 1640 Rhode Island Ave., N.W., Washington, D.C. 20036-3278 Phone: 202/628-4160 TTY: 202/216-1572 Fax: 202/347-5323 Do not reply to this email. This inbox is not monitored on a regular basis. Replies to this email will not be read or responded to. If you would like to unsubscribe from a specific Human Rights Campaign list, or update your account settings, you can visit your Subscription Management Page. Click here to remove yourself from all Human Rights Campaign lists. ---End Message---
g_b The Gay Bombay Meet at Mulund - 28th Dec
Ring in the Yule-tide, let the hearts ring, have a bit of wine and making plans for the new year bash begin. Join us for the last GayBombay meet for the year, as we welcome Janus .looking back on the year that was and the hopes that the next spins up, as plans gone awry are laughed at and new beginnings of new (if only for the new year's date :p) are laid (no pun here! ) as we celebrate the christmas spirit. We get together at Mulund this Sunday to chit chat and talk ... from things outright whacky to things close to hearts. The GayBombay Christmas Meet on Sunday 28 December 2008 at MULUND ~ ~ ~ ~ ~~~ Meet up Time: 5:30 PM - 6:00 PM. Venue: Campus Restaurant, Navghar Road, Mulund (East). ~ ~ ~ ~ ~~~ We shall gather at Campus before proceeding to someone's place not far off. We would be at Campus for approx 30 min from 5.30pm GayBombay celebrates Christmas with a post Christmas meet at Mulund this Sunday with a freak out session of fun and games or just nonserious gupshup. ~ ~ ~ ~ ~~~ Directions: For those coming by trains:Get down in Mulund East and catch an auto to Campus restaurant - Navghar road - the place is just a couple of minutes ride from the Station For those coming by Highway: turn in towards Mulund at Junction near to the Toll Plaza ~ ~ ~ ~ Note : -Do get your friends along to help them gain access to a group especially if they are not netizens. -You do not have to be out to the world to attend. This is a discreet event being held as a clean, safe social get-together of a non-sexual nature. Hardly any of those attending are out as such. -You need to be at least 18 years of age to attend. -There may be many who will prefer being discreet or may be still be coming to terms with themselves hence a request that all be sensitive to this and act and dress accordingly. -To identify the group look out for someone wearing a black cap === See ya all this Sunday :-) New Email addresses available on Yahoo! Get the Email name you#39;ve always wanted on the new @ymail and @rocketmail. Hurry before someone else does! http://mail.promotions.yahoo.com/newdomains/aa/
g_b The GB thane meet last week
A bit bit delayed yeah but here it is J For me it was after pretty long that the meet was taking place at my house and was sure exciting….i guess mom was more excited and kept pestering me to clean the place (gawd y did I have to get into this) As usual we met at CCD and left our impressions what with ordering creams and pink milk shakes with some insistence that the glass be the long curved one only (did the waiter actually blush or we imagined that now :p) After moving to home and the initial round of intro among some 16-17 guys there R was clear – no serious topics ! And it was like the ol college katta for some time (with momma thankfully retiring to the next room :p) N then the topic unexpectedly veered to something a bit more serious. Is the social strata, education, profession an important criteria in choosing your bf? This led to several views. Will he have similar etiquettes? Will he be clean? How do you introduce someone who is, say a masseur, to your friends and family? Can our and his friends mix up? Will our friends approve of him? Can he speak English (I HAD to, had to put this in, S :p)… n a host of others. A large part felt they would not mind if they really like him, but would try to uplift him on professional and social front. It was heartening to know that several had an opinion that education, money, job status may not be related at all to the person as such and a person may not even be ‘highly educated’ but still have an ability to converse and be at the same mental level. (we diplomatically did not mention that he needs to be hott ….. the rest can be ignored :-D ) It felt good to see the change …. Coz I do remember a similar forum some time back where some people had voiced that being gays are normally rich and ofcourse highly educated and professionally well placed lot We refrained from starting the “open relation” debate …… but yes it was surprising that the social strata and type of relation can be thought to be related! With Manav also being present for the meet, he also talked briefly about his experiences worldwide on talk shows, perceptions and so on. The piece that had us all surprised was when he was talking about the Gujarat govt’s programmes on msm. What we thought to be the anti gay hindutva brigade actually turned out to be a government which had actively helped his NGO on msm outreach programmes, offered to sponsor tickets for pride parades (OMG!) and in general been one helluva support. And considering that the CM on Gujarat is one of an important person in todays national issues, we sure seem to have some hope after and other than Ramadoss J It was gr8 to have him there and participate for sure. In midst of all this we had a pretty cutish str8 in midst who had come with his (equally if not more cute) friend just to know us (and maybe his friend) better. It was good to have his views and the fact that he was as comfy being part of group in here. I guess its good if we do keep involving our friends on the other side of the line coz finally its all about being same and not really different from the rest of the community isnt it? We finally broke off at around 830-9 after another round of giggles with some heading home and some proceeding for dinner. Manoj. New Email addresses available on Yahoo! Get the Email name you#39;ve always wanted on the new @ymail and @rocketmail. Hurry before someone else does! http://mail.promotions.yahoo.com/newdomains/aa/
Re: g_b Planing for gay thamed flim fest in Dubai....
Yes could u tell me also as to how can i get a copy of these movies.? Signature- *RISK MORE THAN WHAT OTHERS THINK IS SAFE, CARE MORE THAN WHAT OTHERS THINK IS WISE, DREAM MORE THAN WHAT OTHERS THINK IS PRACTICAL, EXPECT MORE THAN WHAT OTHERS THINK IS POSSIBLE.* *PERSPECTIVE- what does this say - Godisnowhere did u read,'God is no where?' or did u read,'God is now here?' We dont always see the same thing as other people-its all about perspective-one of the most important tools in getting along with other people is knowing that the other person might not be thinkin in the same way as you.* *THE GENESIS OF PROGRESS IS DISOBEDIENCE. * *THIS IS A HOMOPHOBIA FREE EMAIL ADDRESS. * *YOU MAY BE THE MOST INTELLIGENT AND WELL-READ PERSON,BUT WHEN IT COMES TO MATTERS OF THE HEART AND/or MATTERS OF THE LOINS - WE ARE ALL IDIOTS. * --- On Thu, 6/11/08, haytham moudrek [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: From: haytham moudrek [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: Re: g_b Planing for gay thamed flim fest in Dubai To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Thursday, 6 November, 2008, 12:56 AM hi how can i get a copy of these movies? regards --- On Fri, 9/12/08, nicky b [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: From: nicky b [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: g_b Planing for gay thamed flim fest in Dubai To: G_B gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, gb gb [EMAIL PROTECTED], sanjay [EMAIL PROTECTED], sanjay [EMAIL PROTECTED], [EMAIL PROTECTED], [EMAIL PROTECTED] Date: Friday, September 12, 2008, 1:28 PM Dear all... I am thinking for a small flim fest in Dubai, UAE... I have some movies which we cld see and njoy some time knowing eachother... Pls pass this massage to ppl who are there in UAE... These are the movies which i have wid me... Edge of Seventeen Just One Time Love! Valour! Compassion! NGC – Taboo (Docmentry) Straight Jacket The Birdcage The Wedding Banquet To Wong Foo-Thanks for Everything! J.N. Touch of Pink Unconditional Love Dead Boyz Don't Scream East Side Story Eating Out Eating Out 2 - Sloppy Seconds Friends And Family Outing Riley The Houseboy THE OBJECT OF MY AFFECTION Nick Add more friends to your messenger and enjoy! Go to http://messenger.yahoo.com/invite/
Re: g_b GayBombay Sunday Meet at Thane on 02 November 2008
We carry on in hopes of that :p But for those who are here C'MON :-) --- On Wed, 29/10/08, [EMAIL PROTECTED] [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: Re: g_b GayBombay Sunday Meet at Thane on 02 November 2008 To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Wednesday, 29 October, 2008, 8:39 PM We will have to miss the coffee clatch this time. We are still in Santa Fe, New Mexicobut one of these days we'll make the trip to join our Indian friends ! XXX, Gordon Micunis and Jay Kobrin Plan your next getaway with AOL Travel. Check out Today's Hot 5 Travel Deals! Get your preferred Email name! Now you can @ymail.com and @rocketmail.com. http://mail.promotions.yahoo.com/newdomains/aa/
g_b The GayBombay meet on 2nd
Aatishon ki kuch awaaz liye kuch meethas anjeeri thodi gupshup karen kal raat ki yaa khwaab boone ugte suraj ke GayBombay kicks off Vikram Samvat 2065 (nothing to do with our Doc! :p) with the post Diwali meet at Thane this Sunday. We talk of the party last nite, and the parties last week. the crackers rocketing high and the tons of sweets.or just mundane life with its quota of daily smiles :-) So be there and come be a part of it. ~ ~ ~ ~ ~~~ Time: 5:30 PM - 6:00 PM. Venue: Café Coffee Day, Panchpkhadi, Thane (West). ~ ~ ~ ~ ~~~ The Café Coffee Day at Panchpakhadi, Thane, remains the place we gather at before proceeding to someone's place not far off ~ ~ ~ ~ ~~~. Directions: For those coming by trains: the place is just a 5 minute ride from the Station and you can ask for `Pizza Hut/Open House, Panchpakhadi, near Hari Niwas Circle', For those coming by Highway: turn in towards Thane City at Teen Hath Naka (opposite Eternity Mall) and take a left turn just before Hari Niwas Circle. There is a series of outlets of Pizza Hut, Dominos, etc where you can find the Café. ~ ~ ~ ~ Note : -Do get your friends along to help them gain access to a group especially if they are not netizens. -You do not have to be out to the world to attend. This is a discreet event being held as a clean, safe social get-together of a non-sexual nature. Hardly any of those attending are out as such. -You need to be at least 18 years of age to attend. -There may be many who will prefer being discreet or may be still be coming to terms with themselves hence a request that all be sensitive to this and act and dress accordingly. -To identify the group look out for someone wearing a black cap === See you all on Sunday. Get your new Email address! Grab the Email name you#39;ve always wanted before someone else does! http://mail.promotions.yahoo.com/newdomains/aa/
g_b Article in ht cafe on gay bars(nicely written)
There is a nice article in today's cafe supplement of the hindustan times in mumbai.. Its about the fun one can get going to gay bars.. The journalist has written what all happens there,what all one needs to be able to go to a gay bar.-whether he/she is gay/straight.. And about his personal experience of how boring a straight bar can be.. Its on page 23 under the CHEMISTRY heading. Signature- *RISK MORE THAN WHAT OTHERS THINK IS SAFE, CARE MORE THAN WHAT OTHERS THINK IS WISE, DREAM MORE THAN WHAT OTHERS THINK IS PRACTICAL, EXPECT MORE THAN WHAT OTHERS THINK IS POSSIBLE.* *PERSPECTIVE- what does this say - Godisnowhere did u read,'God is no where?' or did u read,'God is now here?' We dont always see the same thing as other people-its all about perspective-one of the most important tools in getting along with other people is knowing that the other person might not be thinkin in the same way as you.* *THE GENESIS OF PROGRESS IS DISOBEDIENCE. * *THIS IS A HOMOPHOBIA FREE EMAIL ADDRESS. * *YOU MAY BE THE MOST INTELLIGENT AND WELL-READ PERSON,BUT WHEN IT COMES TO MATTERS OF THE HEART AND/or MATTERS OF THE LOINS - WE ARE ALL IDIOTS. * Add more friends to your messenger and enjoy! Go to http://messenger.yahoo.com/invite/
g_b Gay article in pune midday
Saw this article on the midday website under pune headin.. Read the link below.. :-) http://www.mid-day.com/news/2008/oct/201008-dan-wolman-israeli-directors-tied-hands-gay-boy-children-asian-film-festival-pune.htm Send free SMS to your Friends on Mobile from your Yahoo! Messenger. Download Now! http://messenger.yahoo.com/download.php
g_b Vote for gay marriage in mumbai on www.Mid-day.com
Go to www.Mid-day.com and under the column of Mumbai vote for legalising gay marriages.. Asap.. Lets make ourselves heard.. Todays mondays midday has a two page article on gays.. Its the only paper which dares to talk about homosexuality.. I think v should support midday by going on their site and voting in our own favor.. Regards. Connect with friends all over the world. Get Yahoo! India Messenger at http://in.messenger.yahoo.com/?wm=n/
Re: g_b i wanna stay alive one more night
Dude, first u shud be happy that u r stay in the city of dreams .mumbai u do not like parties ... but u seem to like to meet people. so why not interact on daylight social events. GayBombay routinely conducts a lot of such events where people meetm interact and who knows even end up as life partners, of not frnds for life. there are other events like bombay high conducted by Humsafar too amoung others. Do go out ..u do not have to be out or an activistrather a huge majority of people who come to these are not even out to their families (where u have already taken the BIG step) I trust it wud help u .do try it. Cheers Manoj --- On Sat, 16/8/08, aryan_sri [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: From: aryan_sri [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: g_b i wanna stay alive one more night To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Saturday, 16 August, 2008, 4:36 PM everynight like an angel or free spirit with lots of hope n desries i just keep pushing my luck to find a person who can commit to me i am sumit 23 pure gay stay in mumbai look ordinary not that bad never i wish to go to gay partys yuck i dont like them let me to tell u people about my journey of gay life i m basically a very reserved person who leaves in a shell but u give me a pc or pen my thought process as no limits i carve for a boy friend my first crush was sanjay jain sweet boy when i was 18 he somehow realised i was falling in love wid him so he distanced himself that was a year of great pain n suffering yet of so much extravagant n out of world experince n my family came to know i am gay i lost a lifetime friend phew then after three years i graduated n there was this guy named anand n i had sex wid him on the montains n surrounded by suspicious villager but no hardcore some how i thought he enjoyed it more than me the relationship i had wid anand contiued in one mor encounter at ma house he started n finished the act but again it was no hardcore that was the only guy i ever had sex with last time when he came to ma house my mom was there so i could only manage a kiss n he kikced me for that on my bottom as he was straight n were freinds for 3 years again i lost a friend of lifetime i dont know y as i could never speak wid him again after that i got a job and in jan 2008 i got confidence to be a open gay after having a job for say 5 months i meet atleast 8 guys from g 4m n orkut good human beings all offerd for sex but i am such a sweetheart i go for true love only such a waste naa still i try ma best to message people n post threads getting response from srilanka to usa chaanigrah to ratnagiri aurangabad to karnataka i m not a rich guy or else i could have travelled this places now only option i have is to post on this forums there was this guy who was ready n very authentic from i suppose delhi n had home in up guy called nihar he was a huge guy i could have got him anytime i was just scared of him he was the only guy i thought was geniune till i met pawan now this guy pawan is a good friend but he will marry a girl because he is afraid of society when i started to write this thread i told to ma self i will be positive but i m not crying like a baby i cant go out stand at vt or dadar or churhgate wearing a t shirt saying I AM PROUD TO BE GAY I CANT DO IT ohh mama but i motivate ma self each passing night that one fine moring atleast 1 guy age no bar looks no bar caste no bar tell u i m a very spiritual guy will message me i still have hope thats the only purpose of ma existence i dont want to be ambitious or head of company i just starve for a guy who can commit to me and accept my unconditional love a walk near seashore a talk in coffe shop a laugh in the rain i think it is not tooo much to ask for i m not giving up yet as i want live ma life atleast wid one guy for say few moments which i can cherish till ma last breath amin i want to live for one more night i am afraid of death now because before i die i want to be in ma guys arms i will live for u this is how my profile read on orkut during my last few days on orkut about me: in the pursuit of happiness i carved so much till i realised it is inside me time is a great leveller so much as changed in this life for good and better future one learns so much each passing day life is meaningful with art of living please contact me on yahoo [EMAIL PROTECTED] com love u all dears and sweethearts it was a beautiful experience in this world of true human beings I TALKED WITH GOOD PEOPLE WHO WERE GREAT AT HEART BUT TIME AS COME TO TAKE SOLID DECISION IN MY LIFE GOD BLESS EACH AND EVERY ONE WHO TOOK THEIR PRECIOUS TIME RESPONDING ME I M AN AVERAGE GUY WHO THRIVED FOR PURE LOVE AND TRUE VALENTINE AND FRIEND MY FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS AND PURE LOVE WILL NEVER LET ME FORGET THIS WONDERFUL EXPERIENCE IN MY JOURNEY OF LIFE AS ARYAN I KEPT EVERY THING AT STAKE TO FIND MY TRUE PARTNER AND TRUE LOVE MY FAMILY
g_b Fw: [Khush] news coverage on lesbians in India--call for action!
sonali has a pretty point below .. i wud support this n hence fwing it on these lists also so garner as much support as possible Manoj --- On Thu, 3/7/08, desidyke [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: From: desidyke [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: [Khush] news coverage on lesbians in India--call for action! To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Date: Thursday, 3 July, 2008, 10:08 PM apologies to non-hindi speakers. I could translate this youtube conversation in english but so much gets lost. but i will...i promise...soon. meanwhile all ya hindi speakers/ understanders can click on this... http://www.youtube. com/watch? v=6etmB0ckVXo I think it's high time we forced media reporters to face the mirror, coz they need to see how ridiculous they sound. There is absolutely no sensitivity towards families who have lost a loved one. Instead of respecting families and giving them the time and space to grieve and work out their personal struggles, news reporters feel that they can just barge in and start a social commentary on their lives. No one seems to be interested in child custody battles when it takes place in the lives of heterosexual couples. And even if they were to cover some celebrity's life and make sensational news out of a child custody dispute, they would probably seek out the opinion of a child psychiatrist, or a family court lawyer or judge, or someone who is an expert on relationships and children's mental health. But since this is about a lesbian couple (who are being reported within the framework of heterosexual paradigms btw..who knows how much of this is true), this reporter thought it was okay to ask just about any lesbian about participating in a talk show and share what she thinks as far as who should have custody of this child. Hey! as long as she's a lesbian and can speak...who the hell cares about the family, the issue or the child! I think this one extends beyond a lesbian issue...it is about basic respect for human beings...in letting people do what they need to do with their lives, instead of creating talk shows and public opinion polls about people's lives. It is sick! This attempt to do this show is in such bad taste! On the one hand there's this IBN7 reporter (whose conversation is on youtube) and then on the other hand there is the Times of India (a national daily in India) that took a really positive stance in today's newspaper. There's a huge article that claims that Delhi is no longer homophobic (right! coz 1000 of us walked through the streets without any backlash). Even though it makes such broad generalizations and assumptions, there is a little box at the bottom of the article which is titled TIMES VIEW and it reads (and I'll only quote the part that is relevant): the fact that members of the gay community as well as people who support individual freedom turned up in large numbers for the parade is not only an indication of Delhi's evolving cosmopolitan and inclusive nature, it is also a reminder of the irrelevance of the existing legal position on the issue. Discriminatory laws that continue to impact an individual's private life (which in any case is no concern of the state), that too without public sentiment to back them, have no place in a democracy. Neither do social prejudices. I think this is pretty brave stance on the part of TOI and totally awesome in light of the 377 hearing going on in the High Court right now. My guess is that there is going to be a lot of backlash against this article by those who vehemently disagree with the broad generalizations as well as those who are homophobic. I'm including some responses online by readers from June 30th's coverage by TOI to give you a sense of what might be the response in tomorrow's paper. (See below) So, here's what I'm proposing... that we all write to TOI and tell them that it's amazing that they are taking this position and we can provide counter arguments to these comments below. what say y'all? Letters to the editor of TOI should be written to the following email address: mytimesmyvoice@ timesgroup. com with Editor Delhi in the subject line. Our work has only just begun...let' s get our voices heard through mass emails. Let's tell everyone on every queer listserve to write. Let's be pre-emptive and have TOI write an article tomorrow quoting US in place of the responses below: Responses by readers to TOI's coverage on June 30th (caution--will make your blood boil): These are the signs of total disaster to Nature, India and laws of nature. Gay (men sleeping with men) is against what nature have made opposite sex for. This is total crazyness and nothing else. Attraction to same sex is un-natural even among the animals...and I think humans are soon going to extinct from this planet; these are the signs of initial slience before tempest. This is probably an unnatural way to balance population!! Ask a gay person that if he or she had a child, would he or she like
Re: g_b IMPORTANT: PM's speech + Minister's remarks on S.377
WAT! A minister of state and the PM saying this and no less?? wow man ..m i proud i chose to stay back in the country after all! :-) Also where does this leave the case coming up for hearing tomorrow as the head of the Govt and a minister are openly being party to the act being changed in our favour Rgds Manoj --- On Tue, 1/7/08, lgbtindiagroup [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: From: lgbtindiagroup [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: g_b IMPORTANT: PM's speech + Minister's remarks on S.377 To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Date: Tuesday, 1 July, 2008, 3:23 PM courtesy lgbtindia IMPORTANT: PM's speech + Minister's remarks on S.377 Just after the success of National Pride, a potentially big new development. The Prime Minister has made a speech where he calls for support for minority communities affected by HIV/AIDS, including homosexuals, and says that legal barriers that prevent services reaching them should go. And at the same function Minister of State Oscar Fernandes finally said it openly: Section 377 needs to go. This is something we really need to move forward on. For context, please note this mail I'd posted on QMC earlier about the UNAIDS Commission on the Impact of HIV in Asia chaired by Dr.C. Rangarajan. As expected the report is very positive on issues like the need for legal change. I had posted the background and relevant sections earlier on this list. If you want to read the full report here's the link: A basic story on the report: http://www.unaids. org/en/Knowledge Centre/Resources /FeatureStories/ arch ive/2008/20080326_ asia_commission. asp Full report: http://data. unaids.org/ pub/Report/ 2008/20080326_ report_commissio n_aids _en.pdf Fact sheets (2): http://data. unaids.org/ pub/FactSheet/ 2008/20080326_ fs_asiacommissio n_p art1_en.pdf http://data. unaids.org/ pub/FactSheet/ 2008/20080326_ fs_asiacommissio n_p art2_en.pdf Thanks to Dr.Rangarajan' s position as one of the prime minister's main advisors he was able to arrange a function where the report was presented to the PM. This happened yesterday and I'd come to Delhi for that (Pride was a bonus!). Anand Grover was there and Ashok was supposed to be there too, but couldn't come. It was all very high power, high security, protocol, etc, but worth it because what was said was excellent. Dr.Rangarajan gave an excellent speech outlining the commission's recommendations, repeatedly mentioning the need to remove legal issues that complicate HIV/AIDS outreach with Men who have Sex with Men. Then the PM spoke, and as is characteristic with him, he was low key and restrained. But the speech was longer than I expected and it seemed quite heartfelt, especially towards the end. He did not specifically promise to remove 377, but he spoke of the need to remove stigmas and legal barriers facing all groups and, yes, he said the word 'homosexual' , rather endearingly stumbling a bit so it came across as homossekssuals , but he said it! Here is the link to the speech, the relevant portions and since its so important I will paste the full speech anyway below: http://www.pmindia. nic.in/lspeech. asp?id=691 The HIV/AIDS epidemic has brought into focus many of our social prejudices. The overwhelming number of cases are due to transmission through the sexual route. Strategies for tackling it require more inclusive and less judgmental social approaches to questions of public health and personal hygiene. This must begin by addressing the issue of the social stigma that attaches to those who carry the AIDS virus. I do believe that growing consciousness about HIV/AIDS is forcing us to address these issues. The government should play a leading role in this. We should work to remove legislative barriers that hinder access of high-risk groups to services. There is a proposal for a law which would penalize anyone discriminating against an AIDS infected person from access to employment, property or services. This should be given serious consideration. The fact that many of the vulnerable social groups, be they sex workers or homosexuals or drug users, face great social prejudice has made the task of identifying AIDS victims and treating them very difficult. If we have to win this fight against HIV/AIDS we have to create a more tolerant social environment. One need not condone socially unacceptable or medically inadvisable sexual practices in seeking a more tolerant approach to the problem. It is in the interests of the entire society that everyone afflicted by AIDS wins the battle against it. They deserve and have the right to live lives of dignity. If Dr.Singh was circumspect, the speaker who followed him, Oscar Fernandes, the minister of state (independent charge) for Labour and Employment, was not. He got up and said it (from my notes): It is time for politicians to come together to repeal Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code. Many other countries have repealed the law and it is now time India moves forward on this. For most
g_b Lack of providing sex deemed cause for suicide by wife
Ok its a weekend and having nuffin more to do one more email for the day. Has some relevance to the ongoing topic on the gb list. There was an article in the TOI a couple of days back. The wife had committed suicide as the husband was impotent (thats the word used and i know it shud have been )and cud not consummate the marriage nor would he have physical relations with her. The court did rule that failure to declare this before marriage, with the full knowledge of himself, was cruelty. Also the court held that the husband's behaviour of was the cause of suicide and sentenced him to imprisonment (dunno the number of days). Will a suicide or other such drastic step by a wife after knowing the said fact after marraige lead to similar verdict? dunno. But thought shud share this piece of info - any comments by those more knowledgeable? Manoj Send instant messages to your online friends http://uk.messenger.yahoo.com
Re: g_b Any good Counsellors in delhi for gay counselling ?
I agree with you completely.:-) --- Manoj [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Dear I, one thing which nearly always works (an i hate to say this) is mothers luv we wretched children a bit too much and inspite of the child turning out to a fucked up criminal, she does not act aka Nargis in Mother India. Chances of her severing ties are low .very low. especially if our guy in question is the only son and it is not a huge family kinda affair at his end. I believe there will hardly be any cases anyone can say that their mothers threw them out of their houses and severed ties when they came out to thembrothers and fathers maybe (more becoz of the male ego here) but mothers .. naw...hez safe (sounds so bad and oppresive ... yes...but a fact). What normally does happen is that the mom, believing it to be in the best interest of her son from her point of view, will keep on coercing him to change and try to get married (ek baar kaushish to kar ke dekh le stuff), try a lot of emotional blackmail (and they r the masters in this anydayask daddy) Not often has this led to the gay guy in question succumbing and spending his life thinking yeh kya kiyaa maine. Hence counselling if any is needed by ur friend. Naz (lajpat nagar) runs a phone helpline as well as a counselling centre. he may drop in. Better if he interacts with groups active in Delhi where he can get to know people who have been through these kinds of issues and know the pitfalls. There is a good group (gays and lezs both) which meets each sunday at Nehru park (NOT for cruising inspite of the fame the place has) for just a walk/jog. The mom, in her luv and her belief for what is right and best for her son, will really gain little for any counselor per se. The only help a mom can get and i say it from experience. is if she gets to know that there are other families which have similar kids and have accepted them and the fact that her child is thinking and working on SETTLING with a guy whi will be there with him thru thick and thin both these are beyond what u and a counselor can provide for now so better work on the earlier part. Rgds Manoj icarius_slade [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Hello friends, Recently, one of my gay friends (who is in his early thirties) came out to his mother and, as is the situation in most cases, the mother has not taken to it kindlymy pal thinks that worse-cum-worse,she may even sever her ties with him, a thought which shatters him as he is very close to her. He does not have a father. He doesn't have any pillars of support in his immediate family or friend circle who can stand by his side.Even though my friend is putting up a brave front, I know that he requires assistance. Sitting in Bby, i can't do anything, but for just being by his side on the phone as much as i can. In view of the foregoing, can anyone please give me the names contact details of some good counsellors in Delhi (preferably south delhi), who'd be able to counsel the mother-son duo? More then the son, the mother requires it, from whatever i could gather, to get to terms with this revelation Thanks in advance to everyone. Regards, I Send instant messages to your online friends http://uk.messenger.yahoo.com Best Jokes, Best Friends, Best Food and more. Go to http://in.promos.yahoo.com/groups/bestofyahoo/
Re: g_b Any good Counsellors in delhi for gay counselling ?
Dear I, one thing which nearly always works (an i hate to say this) is mothers luv we wretched children a bit too much and inspite of the child turning out to a fucked up criminal, she does not act aka Nargis in Mother India. Chances of her severing ties are low .very low. especially if our guy in question is the only son and it is not a huge family kinda affair at his end. I believe there will hardly be any cases anyone can say that their mothers threw them out of their houses and severed ties when they came out to thembrothers and fathers maybe (more becoz of the male ego here) but mothers .. naw...hez safe (sounds so bad and oppresive ... yes...but a fact). What normally does happen is that the mom, believing it to be in the best interest of her son from her point of view, will keep on coercing him to change and try to get married (ek baar kaushish to kar ke dekh le stuff), try a lot of emotional blackmail (and they r the masters in this anydayask daddy) Not often has this led to the gay guy in question succumbing and spending his life thinking yeh kya kiyaa maine. Hence counselling if any is needed by ur friend. Naz (lajpat nagar) runs a phone helpline as well as a counselling centre. he may drop in. Better if he interacts with groups active in Delhi where he can get to know people who have been through these kinds of issues and know the pitfalls. There is a good group (gays and lezs both) which meets each sunday at Nehru park (NOT for cruising inspite of the fame the place has) for just a walk/jog. The mom, in her luv and her belief for what is right and best for her son, will really gain little for any counselor per se. The only help a mom can get and i say it from experience. is if she gets to know that there are other families which have similar kids and have accepted them and the fact that her child is thinking and working on SETTLING with a guy whi will be there with him thru thick and thin both these are beyond what u and a counselor can provide for now so better work on the earlier part. Rgds Manoj icarius_slade [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Hello friends, Recently, one of my gay friends (who is in his early thirties) came out to his mother and, as is the situation in most cases, the mother has not taken to it kindlymy pal thinks that worse-cum-worse,she may even sever her ties with him, a thought which shatters him as he is very close to her. He does not have a father. He doesn't have any pillars of support in his immediate family or friend circle who can stand by his side.Even though my friend is putting up a brave front, I know that he requires assistance. Sitting in Bby, i can't do anything, but for just being by his side on the phone as much as i can. In view of the foregoing, can anyone please give me the names contact details of some good counsellors in Delhi (preferably south delhi), who'd be able to counsel the mother-son duo? More then the son, the mother requires it, from whatever i could gather, to get to terms with this revelation Thanks in advance to everyone. Regards, I Send instant messages to your online friends http://uk.messenger.yahoo.com
Re: Re: g_b DOCTORS ANY?
No the doc knows naught. by masturbating are u not committing a sin? are you not being selfish? is it right to deny a fellow gay the pleasure that you could have provided if you did not do this selfish act? is it right to say this is my body and do as i please forgetting all social obligations and service that it can do provide? Tch tch tch! n seriously i dont understand this stuff on prostate cancer dude. that way all the celibates in the world wud have prostrate cancer, the majority of priests and the vatican surely wud die out of this disease (i am not voicing the other thing that comes to my mind why they do not suffer frm it :p ) Chill man! (btw, who is gonna sit with me n explain :p) Manoj alron cruz [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: mr manoj, by the way!!! just forget something! some doctor is recommended to do it regularly, coz the reason was, that can cause a prostrate cancer, if not regularly released or used. And aside, its your body, yur totally responsible in it! JUST ENJOY!!! william pinto [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: I think someone needs to sit with Manoj and explain to him about masturbation. Its is Ok if he keeps those ideas to himslef, but if he starts spelling them out on pulic fora, it will be disastrous to younger gays who come here for correct advice. On Fri, 18 Jan 2008 Manoj wrote : Do not masturbate masturbation is bad it is unhealthy it is not good and a big paap HAVE SEX INSTEAD :-) . Bombay [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Hey Raj I actually have the opposite situation. I masturbate/have sex when I get a headache - and feel so elevatedits like a high. But it could be bodily weakness, not a sexual issue. You may be generally weak due to eating inadequately - that an act like this causes you to feel drained or manifest into a headache. Could also be a migraine which gets triggered due to the exertion leading upto your masturbation act. Go meet your physician.get real advise. But pretty much sure its aint serious or atleast not a sex problem. So happy masturbating darling love Aneil raj raju [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: If there are any doctors around, I need to know...after every ejaculation(during sex or masturbation), it triggers an acute headache...is this normal?if not, why does this happen and whats the remedy? thanks raj - Sent from Yahoo! - a smarter inbox. - Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Send instant messages to your online friends http://uk.messenger.yahoo.com William - Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Send instant messages to your online friends http://uk.messenger.yahoo.com
g_b The GayBombay Sunday Meet on 27 JANUARY 2008 at THANE
The Café Coffee Day at Panchpakhadi, Thane, remains the place we gather at before proceeding to someone's place not far off for another round of chatar patar catching up on each others lives, just bitch about nothing or maybe just draft up a Constitution of the gays, by the gays and for the gays :-) We would be at the Cafe Coffee day for approx 30 min from 5.30pm before we push off to some place. ~ ~ ~ ~ ~~~ Time: 5:30 PM - 6:00 PM Venue: Café Coffee Day, Panchpkhadi, Thane (W). ~ ~ ~ ~ ~~~ Directions: For those coming by trains: the place is just a 5 minute ride from the Station and you can ask for `Pizza Hut, Panchpakhadi, near Hari Niwas Circle', For those coming by Highway: turn in towards Thane City at Teen Hath Naka (opposite Eternity Mall) and take a left turn just before Hari Niwas Circle. There is a series of outlets for Pizza Hut, Dominos, etc where you can find the Café. ~ ~ ~ ~ Note : -Do get your friends along to help them gain access to a group especially if they are not netizens. -You do not have to be out to the world to attend. This is a discreet event being held as a clean, safe social get-together of a non-sexual nature. Hardly any of those attending are out as such. -You need to be at least 18 years of age to attend. -There may be many who will prefer being discreet or may be still be coming to terms with themselves hence a request that all be sensitive to this and act and dress accordingly. -To identify the group look out for someone wearing a black cap === See you all on Sunday. Send instant messages to your online friends http://uk.messenger.yahoo.com
Re: g_b DOCTORS ANY?
Do not masturbate masturbation is bad it is unhealthy it is not good and a big paap HAVE SEX INSTEAD :-) . Bombay [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Hey Raj I actually have the opposite situation. I masturbate/have sex when I get a headache - and feel so elevatedits like a high. But it could be bodily weakness, not a sexual issue. You may be generally weak due to eating inadequately - that an act like this causes you to feel drained or manifest into a headache. Could also be a migraine which gets triggered due to the exertion leading upto your masturbation act. Go meet your physician.get real advise. But pretty much sure its aint serious or atleast not a sex problem. So happy masturbating darling love Aneil raj raju [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: If there are any doctors around, I need to know...after every ejaculation(during sex or masturbation), it triggers an acute headache...is this normal?if not, why does this happen and whats the remedy? thanks raj - Sent from Yahoo! - a smarter inbox. - Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Send instant messages to your online friends http://uk.messenger.yahoo.com
Re: g_b Researcher: Gay Men Behave Like Women
And next therewill be study showing differential perfrmances in tops bots and claiming versatiles r better off or can do anything.. gAWD! naughty confessions [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Researcher: Gay Men Behave Like Women by 365Gay.com Newscenter Staff Posted: January 3, 2008 - 5:00 pm ET (London) Gay men navigate in a similar way to women, according to a new study from researchers at Queen Mary, University of London. In a new study published this week in the journal Hippocampus, Dr Qazi Rahman, from Queen Marys School of Biological and Chemical Sciences used virtual reality scenarios to investigate if spatial learning and memory in humans can be linked to sexual orientation. Differences in spatial learning and memory - our ability to record and recall information about our environment - are common between men and women. It has been shown that men consistently outperform women on tasks requiring navigation and discovering hidden objects; whereas women are more successful at tests which require them to remember where those objects lie in a particular space. This is the first study to investigate if those differences are also true for gay, lesbian and straight individuals. Dr Rahman used virtual reality stimulations of two common tests of spatial learning and memory, designed by researchers at Yale University. In the Morris Water Maze test (MWM), participants found themselves in a virtual pool and had to escape as quickly as possible using spatial clues in the virtual room to find a hidden platform. In the Radial Arm Maze test (RAM), participants had to traverse eight arms from a circular junction to find hidden rewards. Four of the arms contained a reward, four did not. Dr Rahman and his research assistant, Johanna Koerting, found that during the MWM test gay men and straight women took longer to find the hidden platform than did straight men. However, both gay and straight men spent more of their dwelling time in the area where the hidden platform actually was, compared to straight and lesbian women. Dr Rahman explains: Not only did straight men get started on the MWM test more quickly than gay men and the two female groups, they also maintained that advantage throughout the test. This might mean that sexual orientation affects the speed at which you acquire spatial information, but not necessarily your eventual memory for that spatial information. In previous studies we have also found that gay men tend to use similar navigation strategies to women, like using land-marks, and we now want to explore whether navigation strategies on these virtual navigation tasks are also the same for gay men and women. In particular, we are interested in whether heterosexual men are using a unique strategy from their first attempt at traversing a new environment, which accounts for why they are so quick off the mark. The researchers also found that gay and straight men were similar in their performance on the Radial Arm Maze. This suggests that sexual variation in spatial cognition is not straightforward gay people appear to show a mosaic of performance, parts of which are male-like and other parts of which are female-like, adds Rahman. Dr Rahman also commented that it would be interesting to see if these sexual differences change with age. We know that spatial ability declines more rapidly in men with age than in women, and this might be related to changing hormone profiles. This may have some relevance to sex differences in ageing-related diseases of cognitive functioning, such as dementia. If we can understand more about how people of different sexes and sexualities differ in spatial performance, we might be able to tailor cognitive remediation therapies more effectively to specific groups within an ageing population. ©365Gay.com 2008 - Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Send instant messages to your online friends http://uk.messenger.yahoo.com
Re: g_b Should I come out of it?
1 - There is a saying in HIndi --doodh kaa jalaa mathhe ko bhi foonk kar peeta hai. Is ur bf (?) showing symptons of that? If so u r the only one who can put that at rest. 2- In any case I would suggest that u speak the same thing u have wrtten here to him face to face (NOT ON FONE OR EMAIL PL) -whenever u meet him. Breakups or lack of success in cases where ppl genuinely like each other r more due to misunderstandings between the 2. Maybe his nature is such that he is comfy to himself or thinks u like to be comfy with urself (so stupid of him naa-- par aisaa bhi hotaa hai!). If he says that he cannot meet u or allot only X amount of time for u well then its ur call. But ateast talk it out instead of eating ur heart out n may u write the next email with a big smile :-) Manoj Prabhat Sharma [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: These days I am in a very confused state. I wouldnt say that I am in a relationship with him, but we have been seeing each other for 6 months now, and we do like each other and we do see each other as our future partners. He is 8 years older than me. He is nice and I dont have any doubt in it, but I am not happy, when we started this seeing each other I remember very well, that when I had first sent him my pictures and we had chatted for just half an hour how desperate he was to meet me in person, though because I have been extremely closeted I was scared, he then comforted me that he is nice and he wouldnt do anything, and I could clearly sense that he was desperate to meet me, so I said ok, he drove 3 hours to come to meet me in my city. We met we ate and I liked him though I never said it, while he was driving me back home he said he liked me and he would want to meet again, I was very happy but I remained normal and I agreed, so it started we used to talk may be 2 or 3 times a week on phone, we never chatted. He used to be extremely occupied with his work, he was so occupied that every weekend he had one thing or the other, sometimes some relatives thing, sometimes his office thing, sometimes someone is sick in the family and so on, I had asked him several times during our phone conversations if he really likes me and I told him that you are very good you can get anyone so if you dont like me just tell me, if you dont find me physically attractive tell me, he had 2 bad past relationships. But he would always say If I wouldnt have found you attractive I would have not asked you to meet me again after our first meeting and I wouldnt have ever said I like you, you are very attractive and nice as well. Its my first time that I am seeing someone I am 25, I wanted to meet him and he always had some work or something, one weekend he couldnt meet me because he had to goto office even on saturdays but then his cousin's wedding came on saturday and he said no to office people and went to cousin's wedding, that time I felt extremely bad that shouldnt I be more important? I never asked and never expressed that I didnt like it at all, well this is just one example, and whenever I would ask are you serious towards me he would always say yes, and when we would talk after sometime he would come to sex and would talk about it but he never forced me to for anything. Then he went to a different country for his job, he came back and we met again. The bottom line is he is nice and I know it and I know I cannot find anyone like him who is genuine and caring, whenever we talk he talks with so much love and care. But he has no time absolutely no time for me, and I am not happy, I feel miserable. I feel insulted that he has time for relatives but not for me. We didnt had sex so far and he did express once that he wants to sleep with me, the second time we met after six long months he expressed that he wants to sleep with me, there is nothing wrong in it, but I said no its too early. I am not happy, I want to move out of it, everyday I am thinking about it and I am becoming miserable, he is nice but he is not serious at all. I know I cannot get anyone like him, but again I feel that I am not at all happy in this relationship and thats because he has absolutely no time for me, when we talk on phone somehow he mesmerizes me I dont know how. When we met second time in person he told me he sees me as his future partner, then why he doesnt have time for me... why? Its making me sick ...and I am forced to write it here especially when I dont talk about my private life in public at all. So should I move out of it... or should I wait for some more time to see if things change, they are not going to change is what I think, and I twice gave him indication that I need sometime from your life.. and I cannot every now and then repeat it, he should understand it... he would talk to me about his first relationship when he was 25 and how excited he was that time and how he would meet his first bf every now
g_b Cookin meet 18 nov
Hi guys.. This is Dr.Shroff here.. Well i didnt say Manoj ( my first name ) in the first place because there is another Manoj on the list here,well im the other Manoj now.. :-) i dont generally post on here but. But.. I have been on this list for the last 2 and a half years.. Yeah thats right.. So im here because i wanna share an experience of mine with u guys.. (not just a regular experience,but one that has changed me for good) A lot of you must b like me.. I suppose.. On the list , but too apprehensive to attend any gb event.. I mean.. You must be on gb virtually.. But not in the actual gb events.. This november 17 saturday night i opened my yahoo inbox to more unread emails than i know to count.:-).. And God alone knows why i clicked on the gb mail about the cookin meet on nov 18 and dunno y but i replied back to Vikram that i was interested.. And next day i find myself on my way to bandra... I was apprehensive all along the way thinkin weird things in my mind.. In bandra i met vikram at just around the corner and v proceeded to the guys place hosting the cookin meet.. Initially i was new,didnt know anybody, was apprehensive,but then one by one all of em spoke to me, made me feel so much @ home.. Within no time i was like laughin and jokin and talkin to them as though id known each one of em for much longer.. V all had such a gr8 time flippin magazines' pages.. Talkin and laughin over just anything.. And yes yes v all did help in the cookin.. Some of the guys were in tears.. Because they were the ones cuttin the onions.And we were all happy and gay.:). And somehow v all gay guys ended up puttin up a grand show.. The cooks arrived , the raw vegetables arrived, the eaters arrived.. All that was then left to do was to.. Cook.. And yes i did learn how to light a gas burner.:-). He he.. V made gujarati mandvi na na wait what was it.. Yeah it was Khandvi or khandvo:-). Was damn tasty.. The taste was there in that part of it that was burnt.:-). He eh heh eh.. And then v made a GAY RAITA:-). Why gay.? Because it was PINK RAITA.:-). Kudos to the cook.. ( im not takin any names here ) and then v made rice.. And paneer capsicum:-) which was damn tasty.. So damn tasty so damn tasty that v were all slurrpin our finger tips and i believe there is no one who attended the cookin meet who would disagree with me on this.:) kudos to the paneer capsicum cook.:-). Then v made dhoklas:-) not one plate but plate after plate of dhoklas were being rolled outta the kitchen.. And each with a different flavor.:-). Plus two different chutneys:-). Ah thats called a GAY FOOD FIESTA:-):. Plust v had a few more dishes that i cannot exactly recollect.. Somebody tell me what were the other dishes.. Kudos to the guy who made khandvo and dhoklas.:-) It was very kind of the host to serve us MINUTE MAID ORANGE JUICE CHOCOLATES.:-) OK YEAH YEAH IT WAS THE COOKIN MEET.. But what i loved most were the CHOCOLATES.:-). Ah and did i mention that these chocolates ( m and m hazelnut nutties ) were the ones that introduced to my current boyfriend.:-). O yeah.:-):-):-). Vikram and others were constantly at my heels tellin me to post a report on my experience at the cookin meet since it was the first ever event i attended in gb.. And im so sorry guys i took so long to post it.. Its 8 december today and the meet was on the 18 of november.. But anyways.. This saturday mornin here i am with my report.:-):-):-).. Its been such a great experience such a great experience :) that i have no words to express myself.. I have also been for one more gb event after that.. The meet on LIVING WITH HIV at zouk.:-) that was gr8 too.:-). Destiny has a role to play in everything.. And im thankful to it for that.. And today i laugh at my own funny apprehensions less that a month back.. About attendin any gb event.. The real eye opener is to attend a gb event in person.:-) its the MOST COMFORTABLE AND SAFEST place for us to flock with other guys of a same feather .:-) as i sit here this mornin relaxin back in a cafe coffee day bar watchin the world pass by and listnin to SPEEDIN CARS by this band IMOGEN HEPP , WAITIN FOR MY BOYFRIEND.:-) I realise that life is full of beauty and purity and innocence.. If its there within us.. Because i beleive that.. what v see outside is simply a reflection of whats there within us.:-). O yeah.:-):-):-). Lots of hugs for everyone.:-):-):-)... -Manoj. WHEN GOD TAKES U TO THE END OF THE CLIFF,ONLY ONE OF TWO THINGS CAN HAPPEN,EITHER HE WILL CATCH U WHEN U FALL OR HE WILL TEACH U HOW TO FLY,HAVE FAITH IN GOD,GOD IS OUR PARENT.:-) Messenger blocked? Want to chat? Go to http://in.messenger.yahoo.com/webmessengerpromo.php
g_b The GB meet on Sunday 25th At Vidyavihar/Ghatkopar
The GayBombay meets agains this Sunday in Suburbs on 25 NOVEMBER 2007 at Vidyavihar/Ghatkopar. ~ ~ ~ ~ ~~~ Time: 5:30 PM - 6:00 PM. Venue: Dominos, Vidyavihar Station (East). ~ ~ ~ ~ ~~~ We shall gather at Dominos outside Vidyavihar Station (East) before proceeding to some place not far off for a not-so-serious time...a bit of chat, sume of chatar patar and lots n lots of THAT many of do best when we get together...bitch bitch bitch more for the next couple of hours. :-) We would be at Dominos for approx 30 min from 5.30 pm - B THERE! ~ ~ ~ ~ ~~~ Directions: If you are coming by train, At Vidyavihar Station, on the East side a walk for a couple of minutes towards Somaiya College shall bring you to a junction. At this junction Dominos is right next to Natraj Bar and Restaurant. If you are coming by Eastern Express Highway, at Amar Mahal Junction, turn into the road that leads to Ghatkopar. You will drive past Shoppers Stop. Take a left turn at Sindhu Wadi Junction (You can see a Reliance Communication outlet at Sindhu Wadi Junction) and drive straight down until you see Dominos on the left hand side. ~ ~ ~ ~ Note : -Do get your friends along to help them gain access to a group especially if they are not netizens. -You do not have to be out to the world to attend. This is a discreet event being held as a clean, safe social get-together of a non-sexual nature. Hardly any of those attending are out as such. -You need to be at least 18 years of age to attend. -There may be many who will prefer being discreet or may be still be coming to terms with themselves hence a request that all be sensitive to this and act and dress accordingly. -To identify the group look out for someone wearing a t shirt with 'gb' printed on the front or Sporting a Black cap. === See you all on Sunday. Send instant messages to your online friends http://uk.messenger.yahoo.com
g_b Mera husband Gay hai - India TV feature
Yesterday there was a brief shown on India TV titled as above. As always it was sensationalised. About a girl who was told on the night of her wedding by her husband that he was gay. It showed the footing of their wedding and of the husband and his bf (with usual India TV type comments). Interviews followed of both the sides with allegations and counter allegations. It seemed sad that the guy and any discreet nature of his affair and sexuality has been blown off in full national media - what it will do to him and his personal life is anyone's guess. And it did seem wrong at first that the media has crossed some boundaries and thrown a persons private life open to public glare and a trauma that will surely haunt him --- and more so his entire family (who knew before his marriage that he was gay and had a bf). But the closing remarks by Rajat Sharma were a surprise. For a channel known to take a hard stance and generally be homophobic, actually mentioned that what a person does in his personal life and what sexual preferences he has are a matter of private life which are each persons concern only - BUT people gays should not marry girls and thus spoil lives of those who have come with hopes and expectations of a new and happy life with a life partner and thus break faiths and hearts. Was the treatment and the showcasing of the pictures of the 2 gays right along with their names, etc right or a violation of private space is an individual opinion (though i will not lose sleep over the fate that befalls them - as you sow so shall you reap). I only hope that those who are out at home or even if not out -- their parents did watch and think twice before forcing their kids into a wedlock for society sake. Manoj Send instant messages to your online friends http://uk.messenger.yahoo.com
Re: Re: g_b Gay and Married - whats your take on it?
Sluts OR whores --decide. Both r different and a result of totally different reasons in nearly all cases. I am sure you are looking for the minority 5% --- If you decide to look and hunt in the other 95% and have a gr8 toned body and are good in bed pl do get in touch sweetheart --- we the 95% ( I for a sure sense) await you legs wide open. Desperately urs Manoj. The Guy [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: One final word Every time such issue crops up gays love to ask married gays whether you can allow such freedom to your wife? It is not correct to connect two unconnected issues. Nobody questions the basic frame of the society where husband and wife are expected to remain loyal to each other. But gays are different. Almost all (may be 95%) gays have multi sex partners. Don't they? Accepted that they are not married. Do you allow your unmarried sister to have multi sex partners? This question is bound to hurt everyone. Then why ask? Lookng from moralistic angle, society does not grant you licence to have multi sex partners just because you are not married. Please hang this stupid question / argument. AZHAGI Perfectly written, I completely agree, but I would only be surprised if only 5% would agree because 95% of the gays are kind of sluts/whores (or you can call highly open minded and highly non-judgemental in their language) and these are very very integrated gays and if you say even one thing suggesting them that look you should not change bed partners like bed-sheets then they say you are judgemental and they are as well passing the judgment, and all of them are ready to attack, as they say Birds of a Feather Flock Together! - Be a better Globetrotter. Get better travel answers from someone who knows. Yahoo! Answers - Check it out. Send instant messages to your online friends http://uk.messenger.yahoo.com
g_b The GB 9th anniversary meet at Thane on 9th Sept Sunday
GayBombay's 9th Anniversary Month and Guys in Central Suburbs shouldn't miss the celebration! GayBombay Sunday Meet at Thane on 9/9 The Café Coffee Day at Panchpakhadi, Thane, remains the place we gather at before proceeding to some place not far off for not so serious session this time. We could just chatter or just bitch about nothing and ofcourse celebrate:-) We would be at the Cafe Coffee day for approx 30 min from 5.30pm (That is 30 min earlier than the earlier 6 pm we used to gather at) WE ALSO PLAN TO BREAK UP EARLY AND MOVE FOR DINNER BY 8 (each paying his own or for his date, :-) ) - So do join us for the evening. Venue: Café Coffee Day, Panchpkhadi, Thane (W). Time: 5.30 pm. Date: 9 September 2007. Look out for a guy wearing a BLACK cap. For those coming by trains: the place is just a 5 minute ride from the Station and you can ask for `Pizza Hut, Panchpakhadi, near Hari Niwas Circle', For those coming by Highway: turn in towards Thane City at Teen Hath Naka (opposite Eternity Mall) and take a left turn just before Hari Niwas Circle. There is a series of outlets for Pizza Hut, Dominos, etc where you can find the Café. -Do get your friends along to make the event a success and to help them gain access to a group especially if they are not netizens. -You do not have to be out to the world to attend. This is a discreet event being held as a clean, safe social get-together of a non-sexual nature. Hardly any of those attending are out as such. -You need to be at least 18 years of age to attend. -There may be many who will prefer being discreet or may be still be coming to terms with themselves hence a request that all be sensitive to this and act and dress accordingly. === See you all on Sunday. Send instant messages to your online friends http://uk.messenger.yahoo.com
