I am sharing my experience just to tell as to how friendships evolve some time. I did not mention the name of the other person involved in this anecdote. I left a blank in place of her name in order to keep privacy. Around thirty years back, I found my dating partner through a wrong number phone call. I had got a new telephone connection installed. In those days, it was very difficult to get a landline connection. A long waiting list had to be countered. But after my meetings with some of influential people, I eventually got it. I had very few friends to call on. So, I tried some wrong numbers and it was quiet by chance that I was connected to a girl, who wanted to talk with an unknown person. Thus, our telephonic friendship evolved through daily calls. Finally, we decided to have a face-to-face meeting. Till that time I never referred to my visual impairment to her. When we were deciding the meeting place, I insisted on my residence but she was apprehensive of it. So we decided to meet in 'Madhuban' a Chinese restaurant near I P college. The question arose over identity. How shall we identify each other. I told her the colour of the shirt I'd wear and also mentioned that I'd be bringing a stick. She did not question as to why I needed a stick. She also told some identity signs and we fixed the time. Ten minutes before the scheduled time, I reached there. As I could do nothing to find out the girl, I took a seat and as the waitor greeted me, I asked him to wait for some time be fore I place an order. After half an hour the girl came and took the seat in front of me. But she did not utter a word. I knew that someone was sitting there but I too did not say anything. Finally, the girl broke the silence. "May I know your name?" she asked. I recognized her voice and delightfully told "So you are twenty minutes late. You are Miss - I suppose." I told her name for a reference. She was amazed but we had some snacks together. As we said good bye, she honestly told me that this friendship cannot continue. We can be good friends but not perfect lovers. So let us stop it here. But somehow, after thirty long years, we are still good friends. Whenever, we feel like, we meet at some mutually decided place and share our thoughts and experiences. She has got married and me to. But she is still a emotional friend to me.
Vedprakash Sharma http://www.musicalexpressions.myehome.in/ -----Original Message----- From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf Of Rahul Bajaj Sent: Sunday, January 15, 2017 6:46 PM To: [email protected] Subject: [AI] Finding a Dating Partner Hi Everyone, I hope this message finds you well. I know I am going to receive some flak for asking this question, but I figured I would ask it anyway. I would be extremely grateful if you guys could share the strategies that you have adopted (both successful and unsuccessful) for finding a dating partner. I know that Tinder is not accessible and the other dating apps that may be accessible aren't sufficiently 'mainstream' to attract anyone except busybodies. I am averse to the idea of dating someone else with a disability, so any apps that may exist for this purpose aren't very useful for me. So I would be curious to know if anyone has any ideas as regards the steps that I can take to find someone. Also, in light of the fact that blind people typically do not have as active a social life as their sighted counterparts, I would be curious to know how those of you who are committed were able to find your partner. I know that this is a subject that not many people would be comfortable talking about on a public forum, so please feel free to email me privately to share your experiences. Needless to say, if you think that dating is a western idea that has no place in India or I should ask questions about more substantive issues, please feel free not to participate in this discussion. With those caveats out of the way, I hope to receive some insightful responses. Best, Rahul Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility of mobile phones / Tabs on: http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessind ia.org.in Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ To unsubscribe send a message to [email protected] with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in Disclaimer: 1. Contents of the mails, factual, or otherwise, reflect the thinking of the person sending the mail and AI in no way relates itself to its veracity; 2. AI cannot be held liable for any commission/omission based on the mails sent through this mailing list.. --- This email has been checked for viruses by Avast antivirus software. https://www.avast.com/antivirus Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility of mobile phones / Tabs on: http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessindia.org.in Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ To unsubscribe send a message to [email protected] with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in Disclaimer: 1. Contents of the mails, factual, or otherwise, reflect the thinking of the person sending the mail and AI in no way relates itself to its veracity; 2. AI cannot be held liable for any commission/omission based on the mails sent through this mailing list..
