Hi Shirin, Thank you so much for your thoughtful and detailed response; these are precisely the kind of insights that I was looking for. I will definitely check out the resources that you have shared. The second one definitely seems worth trying. The only problem is that I am not very comfortable in a room full of strangers -- aa problem which is further exacerbated by my disability. Your tips are very helpful. I particularly agree with your points about not dating a stranger straightaway and widening one's social circle to find a partner. I am definitely working on all these areas and will keep your suggestions in mind.
Best, Rahul Sent from my iPhone > On Jan 15, 2017, at 8:04 PM, Shireen Irani <shireen....@gmail.com> wrote: > > hi Rahul, > > here are some resources and a few tips that might help/ interest you. > > i paste below, links for 2 websites/ companies who help singles find > dates, though not virtually, but in real life/ actual meetings. i'm > not a member with them, but i know of non-disabled friends who've > tried them out. the 1st company is quite thorough and systematic. once > u register with them, you will be screened, and your profile checked > out, to make sure you're a decent guy, seriously > > interested in finding a date/ potential match. just a small interview > with routine questions to establish authenticity of info given. then > they organise these events/ get-togethers once a month i think, where > they will invite you, and other members, where you can meet and > interact with them, and try and find a suitable date. > here's the link for the 1st 1. > > https://www.floh.in/ > > the second website also works on similar lines, but a bit less > serious. they don't check you out themselves. there's no interview or > info varification. u just go to the events they will invite you to. so > its more of a mixed crowd, with potentially non-serious folks just out > to enjoy a good evening. but no harm trying it too. this 1 is not just > about finding dates, but even just like-minded friends and hang-out > buddies. > this is > > http://www.covalence.in/ > > i haven't looked at the website in great detail, so not sure how > accessible it is, while registering. also, i think they both operate > primarily in Mumbai. but do find out for other cities if it serves > your needs. > now for a few suggestions. i'm no expert, but here's a couple of tips > that i'd like to put forward, off the top of my head. > > 1. somewhat obvious, but necessary to be spelt out, is the fact that > an active social life does not necessarily imply going to parties or > big fun events, it could even be something productive, such as joining > a music/ dance class, a language-learning course, facebook and > whatsapp groups that might interest you, such as groups for atheists, > book/ poetry lovers, animal rights groups, etc. > > 2. i personally am not very comfortable with the idea of dating > complete strangers, so developing friendships and getting to know > people before the next step, is i think more fruitful, also because > statistically, i would think that people find it more comfortable to > go out with a disabled person who is known, rather than a complete > stranger approaching via an app, or some such thing. > > 3. do put it to your sighted friends, that you're interested in > finding a date. word of mouth is still, 1 of the fastest ways of > spreading word. i'm not saying it will necessarily work, but people > are more likely to consciously introduce you to single, interested > women, when they know you too are looking. i've seen it happen a lot > even with sighted people. > > 4. whatever you do, do not. ever. rush things. even if you feel the > smallest glimmer of interest or hope from some1, please make sure that > you are not too forthright or pushy, after you've once articulated > your desire to date. by you, i mean the generic you, not you > personally. it does happen, often subconsciously, because 1 is > desperate to make the most of an opportunity. but take this from a > girl, it'd be thee most fatal mistake you'll ever make. > > smiles. > these are just my personal, initial views. i'm sure there'll be many > more concrete ones from others on the list as well. > > best wishes! > > Shireen. > > > >> On 1/15/17, Rahul Bajaj <rahul.bajaj10...@gmail.com> wrote: >> Hi Everyone, >> >> I hope this message finds you well. >> I know I am going to receive some flak for asking this question, but I >> figured I would ask it anyway. >> I would be extremely grateful if you guys could share the strategies >> that you have adopted (both successful and unsuccessful) for finding a >> dating partner. >> >> I know that Tinder is not accessible and the other dating apps that >> may be accessible aren't sufficiently 'mainstream' to attract anyone >> except busybodies. >> I am averse to the idea of dating someone else with a disability, so >> any apps that may exist for this purpose aren't very useful for me. >> So I would be curious to know if anyone has any ideas as regards the >> steps that I can take to find someone. >> Also, in light of the fact that blind people typically do not have as >> active a social life as their sighted counterparts, I would be curious >> to know how those of you who are committed were able to find your >> partner. >> >> I know that this is a subject that not many people would be >> comfortable talking about on a public forum, so please feel free to >> email me privately to share your experiences. >> Needless to say, if you think that dating is a western idea that has >> no place in India or I should ask questions about more substantive >> issues, please feel free not to participate in this discussion. >> With those caveats out of the way, I hope to receive some insightful >> responses. >> >> Best, >> Rahul >> >> >> Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility of >> mobile phones / Tabs on: >> http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessindia.org.in >> >> >> Search for old postings at: >> http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ >> >> To unsubscribe send a message to >> accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in >> with the subject unsubscribe. >> >> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please >> visit the list home page at >> http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in >> >> >> Disclaimer: >> 1. 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