Don't you worry guys, I had written to Lesley and she had forwarded my mail to that person. Soon, he will be probably with us in AI.
Subramani -----Original Message----- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of Syed Imran Sent: Friday, November 23, 2007 10:19 PM To: [email protected] Subject: Re: [AI] The path to love I know this is hard to overcome, but once done it works like a charm. He could divert all his thoughts little by little to something more dynamic and creative activity. If he has completed his schooling, graduation or poste-graduation, then he could invest his time in working for some social and noble cause. He could do that right after his existent job. Internet is like an ocean. one can use it positively or negatively. I, am of course, on the positive side. For this reason, I suggest him to grab a google search page and search for the sites that offer free meditation audios, free curious and interesting software, (he ought to share it on the list also!), free songs, e-books, accessible games, Indian classical music, western classical music (like synthenies and conchartoes), puzzles, (Hey, I like the elephant one!), short stories, plays, scientific researchs (What is going on the mars planet now?), facts about birds (How does a baby pigeon grow?), animals (Giraffe sleeps only for fifteen minutes a day!). News (business, politics, science and technology, accessibility!, sports, tips and tricks, and on, and on, and on). Remember, the only one purpose of doing all this is just to divert himself from thinking about her. Later on, after all this, he should do a careful analysis of his infatuation, love, whatever towards her, and then, concentrate about building up the new relationship (if only necessary), with others. The main trick or the idea is to prevent the hasty decission making in lonelyness. The best thing what he can do is consult the yelders about his problem and follow whatever good they say. With best regards Syed Imran ----- Original Message ----- From: "FARHAN" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: <[email protected]> Sent: Thursday, November 22, 2007 1:20 AM Subject: Re: [AI] The path to love > he should forgot her. because he knowes that he can't get that women,so he > should forgot her. > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Shadab Husain" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > To: <[email protected]> > Sent: Tuesday, November 20, 2007 7:02 AM > Subject: [AI] The path to love > > > Lifeclass: Loneliness is the only handicap > > Last Updated: 12:01am GMT 20/11/2007 > > Have your say > Read comments > > For an isolated blind man in love with a married > woman, there are many other ways to find fulfilment in > a real relationship, writes Lesley Garner > > Dear Madam, > > I am 23 years old and blind. My family background is > difficult, so I no longer live at home but I still > feel the need to be taken care of. > > Table with 2 columns and 2 rows > > > All by myself: Isolation doesn't have to be difficult > to overcome > > > All by myself: Isolation doesn't have to be difficult > to overcome > table end > > My real problem is that I have fallen in love with a > lady who is 10 years older than me - however, she is > married. I asked a counsellor how I could free > myself from her. > > He advised me to tell myself that she is nothing more > than an image in my mind. But that doesn't work when I > am alone in my room at night or when I hear > her voice. I want an emotional support. > > Yes, I am blind, but what to do with the human heart > and all its emotional and physical needs? Sometimes I > think that I will not be able to cope without > a faithful partner. I have no family support and > living alone is depressing. Can you please suggest > what I can do? Rajiv, India > > Dear Rajiv, > advertisement > MDMDGNESUNEU/Telegraph_300x250_Exclu_UK > > I can tell that you are a resilient person because, > although you tell me that you are blind and live apart > from your family, you believe your real problem > to be that you have fallen in love with an unavailable > woman. > > Many people would think that your greatest problem is > your handicap, but you have over-ridden that to focus > on the hell of being in the grip of an unattainable > passion. > > My heart goes out to you. At 23, the needs of the > heart and body are intolerably urgent. The only > advantage of age and experience when it comes to > relationships > is that over time you earn the knowledge that one does > fall out of love. > > One does survive. A broken heart does mend and set > itself up to be broken all over again. Or, better, it > mends and is offered to somebody who is worthy > of it and who is in a position to offer a whole heart > in return. > > There are things you can do about this. We are all > vulnerable to the sparks of infatuation, but it is up > to us whether we fan them into a flame or not. > This woman is not a source of happiness for you but a > painful learning experience. > > I doubt this is of any comfort, but the agonising > feeling of falling hopelessly in love with the wrong > person is something that millions of us endure. If > we let it, it simply makes us more human. > > I can quite understand that this is harder for you > than it might be for other people of your age because, > in your condition and in your social circumstances, > you have so little to distract yourself from your > obsession. > > You have fallen in love from a position of loneliness > and unhappiness and this makes you much more > vulnerable when forming relationships. Of course, it > is harder to turn your thoughts away from the object > of your desire when you spend so much time alone. It > is this social isolation, and not your unrequited > love, that I think is your real problem. > > The good news is that there are things you can do to > relieve the isolation. This, in turn, will help you > make new friends, release yourself from your hopeless > love and find a better one. > > Your letter has made me think of and find out about > all sorts of problems that I hadn't considered before. > It made me think about the opportunities for > love and match-making that are open to the visually > impaired. > > It made think about the opportunities for independent > living and working that might be available to you. It > made me think about what life in India could > be like for someone in your condition who is not > getting support from their family. In short, it sent > me on to Google. > > I see no reason why your cry from the heart for love > and companionship, the most fundamental human longing, > should not be answered. I have no statistics > for India, but in America nearly 50 per cent of > visually impaired people are married. > > I found visually impaired people posting themselves on > dating websites. The joy of the internet is that > people who find themselves isolated in real life > can reach out and find others to communicate with via > social networking sites. That is the first step to > relieving your isolation. > > Even if some of the people you communicate with are in > other countries, they can still provide relief from > the loneliness. You may be alone but you have > access to a computer with software that converts > what's displayed on-screen to speech. > > That is a huge advantage. Despite the explosion in > social networking available through your computer, > there is no substitute for the touch of a human hand > and the sound of a human voice. I am sorry that there > are difficulties between you and your family, because > a family is the ground on which we learn to > stand. > > If I could help you do one thing to improve your > chances of happiness, it would be to encourage you to > live with others and not alone. Is there no branch > of your family you could live with? No group of > friends? No hostel for young, blind people? > > A study done in Holland looked at the difficulties > young, visually impaired people faced in forming > social and sexual relationships and found that life > improved dramatically once they moved into hostels, > where they could be among people their own age and > have some degree of independence. > > I know that organisations exist in India which help > people like you find work and training and offer > support, because I came across www.tiresias.org, the > website for the Royal National Institute for the > Blind's scientific research unit. > > If you click on "Agencies" it will list every country > in the world that has organisations working with the > blind. Click on "India" and it lists welfare > organisations for the blind all over the country which > offer training, rehabilitation, support services, > counselling and accommodation. > > Maybe you know all this, but it is really important > for anyone isolated by any kind of disadvantage to > know that there are organisations out there which > can offer information and support towards living a > fuller life. > >>From the little you wrote, I know that as well as > being visually impaired you are also enterprising, > passionate, energetic, ambitious and intelligent. And > frustrated. All those qualities can be directed > towards the creation of a happy life. > > There is so much that blind people can do if they have > the right guides. They can create great music or > compete in the Paralympics. They can certainly get > married. > > We all yearn for the great love of our life, but I > think that great loves arise from a sea of friendship. > It is friendship that gives us the affection, > support and self-respect with which to find true love. > > And it is friendship which provides us with the > opportunity to meet new people. None of this is easy, > but it isn't impossible either. The secret is to start > with small steps and to acknowledge and appreciate > what good there already is. I wish you luck. > > And if readers of The Daily Telegraph have positive > suggestions and examples to help you overcome your > handicap and lead a full life, I will pass them on > to you. > > WHAT DO YOU THINK? > > Do you have any experience or encouragement to offer > someone in Rajiv's position? Or do you have a > completely different problem for me to look at? 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