Nice question. I still remember your question regarding the peeing in western toilet. As vamshi ji, oh sorry, ha-ha. vamshi, replied that if you're older to your class mate there is no need to worry. And it has nothing to do with your blindness. I also faced similar kind of so called respectful treatment during my college days, and even now a days as well; lots of very senior lawyers call me that way. A lot has been written in previous mail. However, to ad to something from my experience, just start asking them as to what is the reason for this nice treatment? Just ask casually. Tell them openly that you don't feel comfortable with this "AAP" thing. If things still do not work, express yourself that you know the reason of this amazingly nice treatment!!!
To end to this mail, I congratulate you for bringing such nice questions to the list!!! Thanks, On 3/5/12, Vamshi. G <[email protected]> wrote: > Hi Mohith, > > I am tempted to ask you whether you are older to your class mates? > Some people take up education a little late, and hence age gap between > classmates. Ignore this question if it isn't the case with you. > > Second, if you like to be addressed as "thu" instead of "aap", the > best thing is to tell them openly that you don't like to be addressed > as "aap". I'll give you my own example. > I worked as a lecturer for about 6 years before joining the bank. > When I introduced myself as a lecturer, doing PhD, completed a few > master degrees, etc., everyone in the bank started addressing me as > "sir". I felt they were not close with me. So, I told each one of > them openly that I like to be addressed by my first name. Then even > my peers, who are at least 5 years younger than me, started addressing > me by my name. Even now whenever there is a new employee in the > branch and starts putting extensions like "je" after my name, I tell > them my wish. If one starts doing this, others also start doing the > same. > > Where ever you go, whatever you do, remember to communicate openly. > Never expect others to know you without you telling them what you are. > So, when a girl addresses you as "aap", tell her that she can call > you "thu" if she really feels you are her friend. Tell this by > addressing her as "thu". See the change! > > On 3/5/12, Mohit Shah Shah <[email protected]> wrote: >> Hello folks, >> >> As usual, I have a really weird and unique question. >> I have often observed that all my classmates, and even some of my >> friends, address me as 'aap' instead of 'tu', which is how they >> address each other. >> I somehow feel that this has something to do with my visual impairment. >> Perhaps, my classmates find it hard to be as open with me as they are >> with others, so they try to talk to me in a respectful manner in order >> to ensure that I don't get offended in any way. >> And I've observed that this is more applicable in the case of my >> female classmates. >> So, what can I do to make them feel at ease and treat me in a normal >> manner? >> >> Best, >> Mohit >> >> >> Search for old postings at: >> http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ >> >> To unsubscribe send a message to >> [email protected] >> with the subject unsubscribe. >> >> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, >> please >> visit the list home page at >> http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in >> >> > > > -- > G. Vamshi > PH Res : +91 877-2243861 > Mobile: +91 9949349497 > E-mail ID: > [email protected] > Skype: gvamshi81 > > www.retinaindia.org > From darkness unto light > > > Search for old postings at: > http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ > > To unsubscribe send a message to > [email protected] > with the subject unsubscribe. > > To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please > visit the list home page at > http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in > > -- Akhilesh Kumar Dahiya, Advocate. Mobile: +91 9210616426 New Delhi Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ To unsubscribe send a message to [email protected] with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in
