Interesting. I do agree it has often to do with our visual impairment that people put us on a distinct, maybe a higher pedestal. The issue made me nostalgic when I entreated, urged, and quarreled with my writer in tenth to call me TUM, as I called her, instead of AAP. We were same age and she called all her friends as Tum or TOO, but not me... She wanted to, attempted, rehearsed at home, but come what may, could not bring herself to call me Tum. Finally, I gave her ultimatum while dictating board exam of tenth class, on my birthday, by stopping me in between and refusing to proceed until she corrected herself. I was ready to put my board exam in jeopardy!!!!!! The impasse continued for about half an hour before she obliquely relented.
So, I too think the best way is to try to be one of them and reminding them that visual impairment does not make us utterly distinct and worthy of respect by default... -----Original Message----- From: [email protected] [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf Of Vamshi. G Sent: Monday, March 05, 2012 10:19 PM To: [email protected] Subject: Re: [AI] Being addressed as 'aap' Hi Mohith, I am tempted to ask you whether you are older to your class mates? Some people take up education a little late, and hence age gap between classmates. Ignore this question if it isn't the case with you. Second, if you like to be addressed as "thu" instead of "aap", the best thing is to tell them openly that you don't like to be addressed as "aap". I'll give you my own example. I worked as a lecturer for about 6 years before joining the bank. When I introduced myself as a lecturer, doing PhD, completed a few master degrees, etc., everyone in the bank started addressing me as "sir". I felt they were not close with me. So, I told each one of them openly that I like to be addressed by my first name. Then even my peers, who are at least 5 years younger than me, started addressing me by my name. Even now whenever there is a new employee in the branch and starts putting extensions like "je" after my name, I tell them my wish. If one starts doing this, others also start doing the same. Where ever you go, whatever you do, remember to communicate openly. Never expect others to know you without you telling them what you are. So, when a girl addresses you as "aap", tell her that she can call you "thu" if she really feels you are her friend. Tell this by addressing her as "thu". See the change! On 3/5/12, Mohit Shah Shah <[email protected]> wrote: > Hello folks, > > As usual, I have a really weird and unique question. > I have often observed that all my classmates, and even some of my > friends, address me as 'aap' instead of 'tu', which is how they > address each other. > I somehow feel that this has something to do with my visual impairment. > Perhaps, my classmates find it hard to be as open with me as they are > with others, so they try to talk to me in a respectful manner in order > to ensure that I don't get offended in any way. > And I've observed that this is more applicable in the case of my > female classmates. > So, what can I do to make them feel at ease and treat me in a normal manner? > > Best, > Mohit > > > Search for old postings at: > http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ > > To unsubscribe send a message to > [email protected] > with the subject unsubscribe. > > To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please > visit the list home page at > http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in > > -- G. Vamshi PH Res : +91 877-2243861 Mobile: +91 9949349497 E-mail ID: [email protected] Skype: gvamshi81 www.retinaindia.org >From darkness unto light Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ To unsubscribe send a message to [email protected] with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in Notice: This email and any files transmitted with it are confidential and intended solely for the use of the individual or entity to whom they are addressed. If you are not the intended recipient, any dissemination, use, review, distribution, printing or copying of the information contained in this e-mail message and/or attachments to it are strictly prohibited. If you have received this email by error, please notify us by return e-mail or telephone and immediately and permanently delete the message and any attachments. The recipient should check this email and any attachments for the presence of viruses. The Reserve Bank of India accepts no liability for any damage caused by any virus transmitted by this email. Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ To unsubscribe send a message to [email protected] with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in
