I know one Ms. Payal Kapoor from Hyderabad on Access India. I don't know if you are mistakenly thinking that she is the writer of this piece. Or is there Payal Jethra also on our list?
On 8/15/13, avinash shahi <[email protected]> wrote: > If I'm not wrong, Payal is one of the subscribers on beloved Access India. > Thank you Payal for making us read this brilliantly written piece. > block quote > Like any other experience of life, why shouldn’t intimacy and > sexuality be a part of disabled people’s lives as well? In fact, as a > visually impaired person, I feel that intimacy and sexuality is as > important a part of disabled people’s lives as that of ‘normal’ > people. Yes, disabled people do engage in and enjoy sexual and > intimate relations, even though it sometimes depends upon the nature > of disability. I would imagine any form of physical disability would > make the entire experience of sex more adventurous and uniquely > exhilarating. For example, the blind person would want to explore his > partner’s body inch by inch using all senses other than sight. > > As blind people make use of their other four senses viz: hearing, > smell, touch, and taste to explore the world around them, so do they > use these four senses to experience sex. Sense of touch may be used > here instead of sight, as partners try to form a mental picture of > what the person’s body looks like. As they feel Braille dots and form > images of alphabets in their mind, so would they use their sense of > touch, taste and smell to enjoy the fuller aspects of sexuality, while > a sighted person would be more focused on the visual aspects of the > physical structure of the body. Their partner’s body would seem to > them like an unexplored territory arousing a sense of desire and > curiosity. Just as s/he learns calculations moving around beads on the > abacus or uses tactile diagrams to form mental pictures of maps and > places on the globe, s/he would want to indulge in exploring a whole > new body inch by inch. While leisure activities outside the home may > not be as accessible for the blind, sex can be seen as one activity > which can easily be enjoyed in the vicinity of their own home. > > Sexuality is more related to types of people rather than disability, > unless of course the disability hinders the act of sex itself. Among > the types of disabled, the visually challenged, hearing or speech > impaired would feel the least physical hindrance in the act of sex. > The blind would be able to use their sense of hearing, touch, smell, > and taste whereas the hearing impaired would be able to communicate > gestures through their eyes, and the speech impaired would be able to > use sign language. On the contrary, the orthopedically challenged > might be able to take in and appreciate visual aspects of their > partner’s bodies and enjoy intimacy in a way that the blind might not. > Whatever the impairment, a unique level of mental compatibility or > co-ordination is fundamentally essential in carrying out the act and > enjoying it to the fullest. The extent to which the entire experience > can be pleasurable also depends upon whether the partners possess > the same values and/or ideas about love and sex. Having more or less > the same level of interest in sexual acts will add to the level of > compatibility. > > The disabled need not deny themselves sex merely because of certain > physical limitations. Sex can certainly be a pleasant and enjoyable > experience for the visual, speech, and hearing-impaired assuming that > the t partners are on the same mental wavelength. The problem may be a > little more complex if the hands, legs, or any other part of the body > is affected. In such cases, depending upon the extent of disability > and coordination / communication between partners, the extent to which > the entire sexual experience can be enjoyed could be maximized. > Intimacy, as in sexual activities, could strengthen a relationship, > becoming a bonding experience which can help conquer the insecurities > that are often the effect of social factors, such as discrimination > and isolation in the workplace or public arenas. An intimate > relationship can allow one to experience the feelings of relaxation, > satisfaction, bliss, and love. > > Depending upon the type of disability, the couple might want to choose > the sort of act that brings them utmost pleasure. They might focus > more on foreplay/after-play rather than the act itself or suit their > situation by choosing the latter and skipping the former. They might > wish to indulge in oral or anal sex or merely caress and kiss, if > that suits their bodies best. Ultimately, the best experience is what > works best for both willing partners. There are unlimited means to get > creative and physical disability need not a limit the one’s > imagination. > > Sex may be a physical act but it stems in the brain. The nerve endings > in the brain send messages to various parts of the body that, in turn, > get stimulated. If a person is by nature vibrant, lively, enthusiastic > and creative, he, despite physical disability, will be able to create > and enjoy an intimate environment. In most cases, the physically > challenged person will be able create in her/his mind the entire > sexual ambiance uniquely tailored to accommodate their physical > limitations. > > Sharing intimacy helps regain lost confidence among the disabled, > takes away distress. The health benefits of sex that are known to > benefit the lives of ‘normal’ people may also enhance and enrich the > life of a disabled couple. The physically challenged should take > advantage of sexual act as a form of, not a substitute, for work out. > This activity could provide health benefits and leisure at the same > time. The psychological and emotional bonding that can transpire > between two physically challenged partners, as a result of sharing an > intimate relation, cannot be emphasized enough. The entire experience > of sharing their bodies could enhance their personal relationship and > help resolve other issues that might creep up due to disability. > block quote end > http://cafedissensus.com/2013/08/15/enjoying-sex-going-beyond-the-body/ > -- > Avinash Shahi > M.Phil Research Scholar > Centre for The Study of Law and Governance > Jawaharlal Nehru University > New Delhi India > > Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility of > mobile phones / Tabs on: > http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessindia.org.in > > > Search for old postings at: > http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ > > To unsubscribe send a message to > [email protected] > with the subject unsubscribe. > > To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please > visit the list home page at > http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in > > > Disclaimer: > 1. 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