A very beautifully written article! It also highlights the opportunity in calamity. Each and every challenge we face can be converted into an opportunity given the right attitude and creative perspective.
Sagar +91 99 30 271732 intouchid: 2010-SAGAR007 <http://intch.me/2010-SAGAR007> "The evil of the world is made possible only by the sanction you give it." - John Galt in "Atlas Shrugged" On Fri, Aug 16, 2013 at 11:11 AM, avinash shahi <[email protected]>wrote: > Amen Imran Bhai > Infact, I too thought it deeply when I posted my first ever post on > sexuality and disability on this list. I apprehended many may bombards > their bards given the traditional character of Indian societies. > But after initial hick-ups things developed expectedly. > And as far as young promising teens are concerned, I'm sure their > bodily maturity may have propelled them to explore many sites to be > abreast with literary jems. > And articles like this, may help them in taking mature decisions. > by the way, CBSE is also mulling to introduce 'Sex Education' in schools. > On 8/16/13, SYED IMRAN <[email protected]> wrote: > > Hi, > > > > I was asking myself whether it is appropriate to talk about sexuality on > > the > > list, given the fact we have our many minor friends in this mailing list, > > then I realised that they too need to be included in these forms of > > discussion as most importantly sexual abuses are often targeted towards > the > > minors. > > So I just want to tell our minor friends that they need not be > embarrissed > > to talk about disability and sexuality. > > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On > Behalf > > Of payal > > Sent: 15 August 2013 22:47 > > To: 'Dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility of > > mobilephones > > and Tabs. ' > > Subject: Re: [AI] Enjoying Sex: Going Beyond the Body,By Payal Jethra > > > > Hi Avinash, > > > > While I would have loved to have written something so eloquently > expressed, > > I am definitely a part of this list, but not the author of this piece, as > > Vamsi has mentioned. > > > > As for the sudden influx of articles on sexuality, I can only agree it is > > relevant and definitely needs to be out of the closet, so to speak, with > > the > > disabled in focus. > > > > Everything expressed in this article is a fact, and needs to be looked at > > with an open mind. Maybe the world is finally acknowledging persons with > > disabilities as "complete" and not identifying them with whichever organ > of > > their body is either missing, or not all there, and hence we see these > > multiple pieces written on the subject. > > > > Thanks for all the shares. > > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On > Behalf > > Of avinash shahi > > Sent: Thursday, August 15, 2013 8:36 PM > > To: accessindia > > Subject: [AI] Enjoying Sex: Going Beyond the Body,By Payal Jethra > > > > If I'm not wrong, Payal is one of the subscribers on beloved Access > India. > > Thank you Payal for making us read this brilliantly written piece. > > block quote > > Like any other experience of life, why shouldn't intimacy and > > sexuality be a part of disabled people's lives as well? In fact, as a > > visually impaired person, I feel that intimacy and sexuality is as > > important a part of disabled people's lives as that of 'normal' > > people. Yes, disabled people do engage in and enjoy sexual and > > intimate relations, even though it sometimes depends upon the nature > > of disability. I would imagine any form of physical disability would > > make the entire experience of sex more adventurous and uniquely > > exhilarating. For example, the blind person would want to explore his > > partner's body inch by inch using all senses other than sight. > > > > As blind people make use of their other four senses viz: hearing, > > smell, touch, and taste to explore the world around them, so do they > > use these four senses to experience sex. Sense of touch may be used > > here instead of sight, as partners try to form a mental picture of > > what the person's body looks like. As they feel Braille dots and form > > images of alphabets in their mind, so would they use their sense of > > touch, taste and smell to enjoy the fuller aspects of sexuality, while > > a sighted person would be more focused on the visual aspects of the > > physical structure of the body. Their partner's body would seem to > > them like an unexplored territory arousing a sense of desire and > > curiosity. Just as s/he learns calculations moving around beads on the > > abacus or uses tactile diagrams to form mental pictures of maps and > > places on the globe, s/he would want to indulge in exploring a whole > > new body inch by inch. While leisure activities outside the home may > > not be as accessible for the blind, sex can be seen as one activity > > which can easily be enjoyed in the vicinity of their own home. > > > > Sexuality is more related to types of people rather than disability, > > unless of course the disability hinders the act of sex itself. Among > > the types of disabled, the visually challenged, hearing or speech > > impaired would feel the least physical hindrance in the act of sex. > > The blind would be able to use their sense of hearing, touch, smell, > > and taste whereas the hearing impaired would be able to communicate > > gestures through their eyes, and the speech impaired would be able to > > use sign language. On the contrary, the orthopedically challenged > > might be able to take in and appreciate visual aspects of their > > partner's bodies and enjoy intimacy in a way that the blind might not. > > Whatever the impairment, a unique level of mental compatibility or > > co-ordination is fundamentally essential in carrying out the act and > > enjoying it to the fullest. The extent to which the entire experience > > can be pleasurable also depends upon whether the partners possess > > the same values and/or ideas about love and sex. Having more or less > > the same level of interest in sexual acts will add to the level of > > compatibility. > > > > The disabled need not deny themselves sex merely because of certain > > physical limitations. Sex can certainly be a pleasant and enjoyable > > experience for the visual, speech, and hearing-impaired assuming that > > the t partners are on the same mental wavelength. The problem may be a > > little more complex if the hands, legs, or any other part of the body > > is affected. In such cases, depending upon the extent of disability > > and coordination / communication between partners, the extent to which > > the entire sexual experience can be enjoyed could be maximized. > > Intimacy, as in sexual activities, could strengthen a relationship, > > becoming a bonding experience which can help conquer the insecurities > > that are often the effect of social factors, such as discrimination > > and isolation in the workplace or public arenas. An intimate > > relationship can allow one to experience the feelings of relaxation, > > satisfaction, bliss, and love. > > > > Depending upon the type of disability, the couple might want to choose > > the sort of act that brings them utmost pleasure. They might focus > > more on foreplay/after-play rather than the act itself or suit their > > situation by choosing the latter and skipping the former. They might > > wish to indulge in oral or anal sex or merely caress and kiss, if > > that suits their bodies best. Ultimately, the best experience is what > > works best for both willing partners. There are unlimited means to get > > creative and physical disability need not a limit the one's > > imagination. > > > > Sex may be a physical act but it stems in the brain. The nerve endings > > in the brain send messages to various parts of the body that, in turn, > > get stimulated. If a person is by nature vibrant, lively, enthusiastic > > and creative, he, despite physical disability, will be able to create > > and enjoy an intimate environment. In most cases, the physically > > challenged person will be able create in her/his mind the entire > > sexual ambiance uniquely tailored to accommodate their physical > > limitations. > > > > Sharing intimacy helps regain lost confidence among the disabled, > > takes away distress. The health benefits of sex that are known to > > benefit the lives of 'normal' people may also enhance and enrich the > > life of a disabled couple. The physically challenged should take > > advantage of sexual act as a form of, not a substitute, for work out. > > This activity could provide health benefits and leisure at the same > > time. The psychological and emotional bonding that can transpire > > between two physically challenged partners, as a result of sharing an > > intimate relation, cannot be emphasized enough. The entire experience > > of sharing their bodies could enhance their personal relationship and > > help resolve other issues that might creep up due to disability. > > block quote end > > http://cafedissensus.com/2013/08/15/enjoying-sex-going-beyond-the-body/ > > -- > > Avinash Shahi > > M.Phil Research Scholar > > Centre for The Study of Law and Governance > > Jawaharlal Nehru University > > New Delhi India > > > > Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility > of > > mobile phones / Tabs on: > > > http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessind > > ia.org.in > > > > > > Search for old postings at: > > http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ > > > > To unsubscribe send a message to > > [email protected] > > with the subject unsubscribe. > > > > To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, > > please > > visit the list home page at > > > http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in > > > > > > Disclaimer: > > 1. 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