Hi Ragesh, Very good points. I too think we need to discuss all these points. But, if you remember, I have written a very important thing: "one should try to marry someone whom you could be friends with for the rest of your life"! And one can only be friends when you both, both parties can discuss all the below points openly and work things out for themselves. Every couple will have different ways to deal with the below points. And anyway all of those points have various solutions and then what happens in cases when blindness attacks a partner when they have been long married? As I said, marriage is much more than just these few points. There are so many challenges that keep popping up in life all of the time; a well matched and successful married couple is the one that can together trust and care enough to be able to work around the challenges with a balanced mind and heart. And I wish to mention one more thing here, we are all human and always expect unknown changes happening around. But, dont go into any relationship with the view that slowly you will be able to change the other person with whatever means you may think of! Therefore, it is very important to find friendship and trust and remember both parties need to be givers and not takers. The moment you begin looking at the taking aspect, things will fall through.On the other hand, it is important to understand if you can live like an indivisual in the partnership and allow your spouce to do the same too! So there are no rules to this thing called marriage! One has to be mature enough understand yourself first. Especially with blind people... please do not look for solving your accessibility issues under the banner of marriage! And of course I have yet to identify what this thing called love is! Warmly Preeti
Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: [email protected] Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -----Original Message----- From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf Of Asudani, Rajesh Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 10:44 AM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my curiosity are normal people interested in marrying blind partners Even though we are discussing the topic, I think we are shunning discussion about the real issue and are just boasting confidence by various means. Granted the primacy of compatibility in matrimony, but the concept is too abstract and we need an operational definition of the thing. Besides, given inter marriages between sighted and blind both the genders included, and intra marriages between blind, how and when blindness becomes relevant and what are the repercussions? Or do we say that if blindness becomes relevant, there is no compabibility? Some pointers I would like to state as under: 1. is the possibility of having blind children considered/discussed/dealt with? 2. Does the blind spouse feel that the sighted partner understands blindness and issues arising therefrom on a long term basis well? 3. how Do spouses deal with lack of aesthetic visual inputs and outputs? 4. Does visual absence affect parenting styles, if yes how and to what extent? 5. What effect blindness has on social life of the couple? 6. have the comparative studies of relative matrimonial satisfaction of blind-sighted and blind-blind couples done and are the gender differences considered in disability perspective? 7. How do the combinations affect sexual life? I am not asking for research papers on these and various other issues, but at least we can openly discuss various ramifications of blindness in marriage with blind or sighted. If we are just happy living in euphoria of blindness, then it is okay... Rajesh -----Original Message----- From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf Of Asudani, Rajesh Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 10:27 AM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my curiosity are normal people interested in marrying blind partners Shadab thought not to write. But, expressing idea is one thing and showing linguistic prowess is another. I quote: "A gent never fears rejections and knows how to dismiss them. A gent never cares about the impractical theory of one life one love. A gent knows he has abundant beautiful options. A gent knows how to make her regret the decision of rejecting him. A gent has a superb self-steam and never feels helpless in front of one-sided or unrequited love. A gent never needs a female shoulder because he knows how to solve his problems. A gent mocks most theories of love portrayed in Bollywood. A gent knows how to make others wonder at his toughness. " Now do you really subscribe to this approach? Or is it merely a superficial statement to boast confidence like the god? I believe it is later, and smacks of male arrogance and demeans love... Do have second thoughts before just writing.... Your well wisher Rajesh Asudani -----Original Message----- From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf Of Shadab Husain Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 7:37 AM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my curiosity are normal people interested in marrying blind partners Thanks ma'am that you found it amazing. Friends, I think the trick is to value yourself, be thankful for your talents, follow the basics of fashion, be tough, be brave and propose the damn creature. A gent never fears rejections and knows how to dismiss them. A gent never cares about the impractical theory of one life one love. A gent knows he has abundant beautiful options. A gent knows how to make her regret the decision of rejecting him. A gent has a superb self-steam and never feels helpless in front of one-sided or unrequited love. A gent never needs a female shoulder because he knows how to solve his problems. A gent mocks most theories of love portrayed in Bollywood. A gent knows how to make others wonder at his toughness. Cool? PersonalityAndEnglish.blogspot.in Shadab On 6/26/14, Preeti Monga <[email protected]> wrote: > I read your story. Great! > > Keep shareing all views and thoughts, as all experiences only make us all > richer! I am happy you are happy! I do hope all find their partners and > are > happy with them! > Preeti > > Preeti Monga > Director > > > > Mobile: +91 9871701646 > Landline: 011 22781446 > E-mail: [email protected] > Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org > Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training > -Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting - Corporate > ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying > workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and > Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. > > We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete > customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. > > > > -----Original Message----- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf > Of Shadab Husain > Sent: Thursday, June 26, 2014 12:34 PM > To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning > the disabled.' > Subject: Re: [AI] my curiosity are normal people interested in marrying > blind partners > > Ma'am, I wrote it so the blind shed their false beliefs. You can read my > story here > > http://retinaindia.blogspot.in/2011/11/of-disclosing-disability-before.html > > > -----Original Message----- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf > Of Preeti Monga > Sent: 26 June 2014 12:13 > To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning > the disabled.' > Subject: Re: [AI] my curiosity are normal people interested in marrying > blind partners > > Oh Hello, blindness is no qualification to make you a second class citizen! > And who says that all sighted, just because they have eyes that can work > for > seeing, are first class? > > We are all human with good and bad and medium qualities. So just look for > partners and not for sighted and non sighted! Non sighted too can turn out > to be just as bad or just as good as blind! > Preeti > > Preeti Monga > Director > > > > Mobile: +91 9871701646 > Landline: 011 22781446 > E-mail: [email protected] > Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: > Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training -Motivation; > Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting - Corporate ; > Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying > workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and > Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. > > We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete > customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. > > > > -----Original Message----- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf > Of Shadab Husain > Sent: Thursday, June 26, 2014 12:07 PM > To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning > the disabled.' > Subject: Re: [AI] my curiosity are normal people interested in marrying > blind partners > > Friends, haven't read all the emails on this topic. But one cardinal > mistake > the blind make is they believe that since they're blind, they're > second-class humans and therefore don't deserve sighted partners. "As a man > thinketh in his heart, so is he." (Holy Bible.) > > Because of their foolish belief, they get nervous or show off talking to > sighted people who they want to marry and cut their chances of wooing or > impressing them. They might have their own beauty or style or knowledge or > talents or sense of humour which can set the other running after them, but > obsession with the negative eclipses everything. A battle lost in the mind > isn't won in the field. > > -----Original Message----- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf > Of Preeti Monga > Sent: 26 June 2014 10:30 > To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning > the disabled.' > Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normel people intrested in marrying > blind partners > > Interestingly it is irrelevant alright! The only thing is that sighted > people are not conditioned to marry us blind people. The idea sounds crazy > to them! And interestingly blind people want only to marry them sighted > people! This kind of marriage is a marriage of convenience! But, usually > these kind of marriages do not last... and if they do... they are only > being > pulled along because parting ways is not liked by society! As you may > know, > I married twice and both my husbands are sighted! No I don't live with them > both! I had to leave the first one for the compatibility was missing... and > I did not know it till I began to live with him after we were married. But > the second time over, everything in our marriage is not as it should be... > my husband is ten years younger, sighted, his first marriage and belongs to > a different class and cast! But, we have had seventeen years of a great > partnership and friendship! Now don't tell me that this is one of its kind > of case... for most of us are scared to be honest even to ourselves. If we > make a mistake, we lack the courage to stop making the mistake and get > away > from it! We just keep living the mistake for making the correction and > trying again is not welcome by society and family! What a waste of life? > One > only lives once and let us face the facts. Let us look for good human > beings > and not try to match requirements just as we do when we go shopping! For > being single is much better than to live in a marriage with the wrong > partner. He/she may not be good with you, but may just be the right one for > someone else... so let us give ourselves a chance once again and live > happily! > Preeti > > Preeti Monga > Director > > > > Mobile: +91 9871701646 > Landline: 011 22781446 > E-mail: [email protected] > Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: > Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training -Motivation; > Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting - Corporate ; > Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying > workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and > Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. > > We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete > customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. > > > > -----Original Message----- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf > Of Asudani, Rajesh > Sent: Thursday, June 26, 2014 10:03 AM > To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning > the disabled. > Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normel people intrested in marrying > blind partners > > Well, I agree with compatibility thing. > However, do you mean to say sight is absolutely irrelevant to the question? > I think not. > We may discuss sight or lack of it and inter marriages and compatibility > issues as they are affected by sight, if the moderator permits.. > > > -----Original Message----- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf > Of Preeti Monga > Sent: Thursday, June 26, 2014 9:27 AM > To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning > the disabled.' > Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normel people intrested in marrying > blind partners > > I think the question is not sighted want to marry blind or not, it is all > about compatibility and what who is looking for in his/her partner! > The trick is that one should marry the person with whom you would want to > have a life long friendship! Values, thoughts and giving is most important. > Preeti > > Preeti Monga > Director > > > > Mobile: +91 9871701646 > Landline: 011 22781446 > E-mail: [email protected] > Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: > Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training -Motivation; > Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting - Corporate ; > Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying > workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and > Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. > > We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete > customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. > > > -----Original Message----- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf > Of Ravindra Jadhav > Sent: Thursday, June 26, 2014 6:34 AM > To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning > the disabled. > Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normel people intrested in marrying > blind partners > > dear, write your dout clearly. do not type the words in short. Then > everybody should understood your problems. Mostly mobile user like me. > Now coming to your dout. > Sighted also like to mary with visually impaired persons. For example, I > maried with sighted lady and i am very happy. I had only one son study in > grade I. 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