This is Rajesh, trying to throw light on practical side of the debate.

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From: "Asudani, Rajesh" <[email protected]>
Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 10:43 AM
To: "AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and 
issuesconcerningthedisabled." <[email protected]>
Subject: Re: [AI] my curiosity are normal people interestedin marrying blind partners

Even though we are discussing the topic, I think we are shunning discussion about the real issue and are just boasting confidence by various means. Granted the primacy of compatibility in matrimony, but the concept is too abstract and we need an operational definition of the thing. Besides, given inter marriages between sighted and blind both the genders included, and intra marriages between blind, how and when blindness becomes relevant and what are the repercussions? Or do we say that if blindness becomes relevant, there is no compabibility?

Some pointers I would like to state as under:
1. is the possibility of having blind children considered/discussed/dealt with? 2. Does the blind spouse feel that the sighted partner understands blindness and issues arising therefrom on a long term basis well?
3. how Do spouses  deal with lack of aesthetic visual inputs and outputs?
4. Does visual absence affect parenting styles, if yes how and to what extent?
5. What effect blindness has on social life of the couple?
6. have the comparative studies of relative matrimonial satisfaction of blind-sighted and blind-blind couples done and are the gender differences considered in disability perspective?
7. How do the combinations affect sexual life?

I am not asking for research papers on these and various other issues, but at least we can openly discuss various ramifications of blindness in marriage with blind or sighted.
If we are just happy living in euphoria of blindness, then it is okay...
Rajesh

-----Original Message-----
From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf Of Asudani, Rajesh
Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 10:27 AM
To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my curiosity are normal people interested in marrying blind partners

Shadab
thought not to write.
But, expressing idea is one thing and
showing linguistic prowess is another.
I quote:
"A gent never fears rejections and knows how to dismiss them. A gent never cares about the impractical theory of one life one love. A gent knows he has abundant beautiful options. A gent knows how to make her regret the decision of rejecting him. A gent has a superb self-steam and never feels helpless in front of one-sided or unrequited love. A gent never needs a female shoulder because he knows how to solve his problems. A gent mocks most theories of love portrayed in Bollywood. A gent knows how to make others wonder at his toughness.
"

Now do you really subscribe to this approach?
Or is it merely a superficial statement to boast confidence like the god?
I believe it is later, and smacks of male arrogance and demeans love...

Do have second thoughts before just writing....

Your well wisher
Rajesh Asudani
-----Original Message-----
From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf Of Shadab Husain
Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 7:37 AM
To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my curiosity are normal people interested in marrying blind partners

Thanks ma'am that you found it amazing.

Friends, I think the trick is to value yourself, be thankful for your
talents, follow the basics of fashion, be tough, be brave and propose
the damn creature.

A gent never fears rejections and knows how to dismiss them. A gent
never cares about the impractical theory of one life one love. A gent
knows he has abundant beautiful options. A gent knows how to make her
regret the decision of rejecting him. A gent has a superb self-steam
and never feels helpless in front of one-sided or unrequited love. A
gent never needs a female shoulder because he knows how to solve his
problems. A gent mocks most theories of love portrayed in Bollywood. A
gent knows how to make others wonder at his toughness.

Cool?

PersonalityAndEnglish.blogspot.in

Shadab


On 6/26/14, Preeti Monga <[email protected]> wrote:
I read your story. Great!

Keep shareing all views and thoughts, as all experiences only make us all
richer! I am happy you are happy! I do hope all find their  partners and
are
happy with them!
Preeti

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-----Original Message-----
From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf
Of Shadab Husain
Sent: Thursday, June 26, 2014 12:34 PM
To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning
the disabled.'
Subject: Re: [AI] my curiosity are normal people interested in marrying
blind partners

Ma'am, I wrote it so the blind shed their false beliefs. You can read my
story here

http://retinaindia.blogspot.in/2011/11/of-disclosing-disability-before.html


-----Original Message-----
From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf
Of Preeti Monga
Sent: 26 June 2014 12:13
To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning
the disabled.'
Subject: Re: [AI] my curiosity are normal people interested in marrying
blind partners

Oh Hello, blindness is no qualification to make you a second class citizen!
And who says that all sighted, just because they have eyes that can work
for
seeing, are first class?

We are all human with good and bad and medium qualities. So just look for
partners and not for sighted and non sighted! Non sighted too can turn out
to be just as bad or just as good as blind!
Preeti

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-----Original Message-----
From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf
Of Shadab Husain
Sent: Thursday, June 26, 2014 12:07 PM
To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning
the disabled.'
Subject: Re: [AI] my curiosity are normal people interested in marrying
blind partners

Friends, haven't read all the emails on this topic. But one cardinal
mistake
the blind make is they believe that since they're blind, they're
second-class humans and therefore don't deserve sighted partners. "As a man
thinketh in his heart, so is he." (Holy Bible.)

Because of their foolish belief, they get nervous or show off talking to
sighted people who they want to marry and cut their chances of wooing or
impressing them. They might have their own beauty or style or knowledge or talents or sense of humour which can set the other running after them, but obsession with the negative eclipses everything. A battle lost in the mind
isn't won in the field.

-----Original Message-----
From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf
Of Preeti Monga
Sent: 26 June 2014 10:30
To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning
the disabled.'
Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normel people intrested in marrying
blind partners

Interestingly it is irrelevant alright! The only thing is that sighted
people are not conditioned to marry us blind people. The idea sounds crazy
to them! And interestingly blind people want only to marry them sighted
people! This kind of marriage is a marriage of  convenience! But, usually
these kind of marriages do not last... and if they do... they are only
being
pulled along because parting ways is not liked  by society! As you may
know,
I married twice and both my husbands are sighted! No I don't live with them both! I had to leave the first one for the compatibility was missing... and I did not know it till I began to live with him after we were married. But the second time over, everything in our marriage is not as it should be... my husband is ten years younger, sighted, his first marriage and belongs to
a different class and cast! But, we have had seventeen years of a great
partnership and friendship! Now don't tell me that this is one of its kind of case... for most of us are scared to be honest even to ourselves. If we
make a mistake,  we lack the courage to stop making the mistake and get
away
from it! We just keep living the mistake for  making the correction and
trying again is not welcome by society and family! What a waste of life?
One
only lives once and let us face the facts. Let us look for good human
beings
and not try to match requirements just as we do when we go shopping! For
being single is much better than to live in a marriage with the wrong
partner. He/she may not be good with you, but may just be the right one for
someone else... so let us give ourselves a chance once again and live
happily!
Preeti

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-----Original Message-----
From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf
Of Asudani, Rajesh
Sent: Thursday, June 26, 2014 10:03 AM
To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning
the disabled.
Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normel people intrested in marrying
blind partners

Well, I agree with compatibility thing.
However, do you mean to say sight is absolutely irrelevant to the question?
I think not.
We may discuss sight or lack of it and inter marriages and compatibility
issues as they are affected by sight, if the moderator permits..


-----Original Message-----
From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf
Of Preeti Monga
Sent: Thursday, June 26, 2014 9:27 AM
To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning
the disabled.'
Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normel people intrested in marrying
blind partners

I think the question is not sighted want to marry blind or not, it is all
about compatibility and what who is looking for  in his/her partner!
The trick is that one should marry the person with whom you would want to
have a life long friendship! Values, thoughts and giving is most important.
Preeti

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Director



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-----Original Message-----
From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf
Of Ravindra Jadhav
Sent: Thursday, June 26, 2014 6:34 AM
To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning
the disabled.
Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normel people intrested in marrying
blind partners

dear, write your dout clearly. do not type the words in short. Then
everybody should understood your problems. Mostly mobile user like me.
Now coming to your dout.
Sighted also like to mary with visually impaired persons. For example, I
maried with sighted lady and i am very happy. I had only one son study in
grade I. In St. Xaviers school.

On 6/25/14, suhas J <[email protected]> wrote:
hi my name is suhas namboodiri i am blind so i wanted to knw that in
todays world were people want good looking partners for them because
in my case during no girls use to even talk with me and same wase with
boys i am unable to makeout y people do this to us so i wanted to knw
tha



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