Hello msg, I think what he means by that is part of what phrak mentioned might have been people's issue with you. This is the kind of thing that needs to be kept private, off things like the Arch mailing list. For example, I don't see anything wrong if you posted this in an off-topic section forum post, or did it on your blog and asked some people to respond in comments. But people's private issues, especially the personal ones, are just not proper in some places.
Heck just the fact that these places honestly are the only real "tech support" for something like Arch is an example. Another is that, and this is an example of where you need to understand what is proper where (as I explained to you privately once), people don't subscribe to these mailing lists for anything other than "General Discussion about Arch Linux" they don't need over half a dozen messages about something they never asked for thrown into their mailbox. IRC is a little more lax about staying on-topic with general users, but thats because the environment is less that of Mail and more like that of a public group meeting. On IRC a key thing to remember is that when someone asks for help, try to help them, or move your little side stories aside, I for example always try to the best of my ability to answer people's questions when they come into the IRC room, you don't need to take an active roll, but realize that if someone asks a serious question, they deserve a serious answer, even if you don't know them. My problem with you was that you never seemed to time to figure out what was appropriate and where, and just lacking overall tolerance and respect to others. The entire time you ranted about how you hate swazo, Canada, and Canadians, because you disagreed with a law the country passed about allowing people to do something that harms no-one, at least thats my recollection. That is wrong on so many levels: Generalizing against international groups, especially in a multinational community like Arch's, failing to respect other people's culture & standards, and generally politics is something you really want to avoid. The thing is, I didn't hate you, it was my issue with your attitude towards things. The difference is that if I hate someone, thats an overall detest for someone, if I have a problem with something, my attitude toward that problem is dictated by it's current situation. If you suddenly came on IRC one day and were perfectly appropriate, respectful, and not acting out, that second my problem wouldn't be an issue anymore. It was a silent disagreement about how you approached IRC, forums, and the bug-tracker. I would stand-up for my point-of-view if you challenged me about it, but otherwise it didn't matter. It's like politics, I disagreed on how you did things, I didn't hate you. So yes, if you came back with a respectful and understanding attitude I think everyone would be glad to have you back and discussing in the forums and IRC. People you know personally are traditionally much more prone to generalized hate then IRC users becaues guess what, the only way we can judge you is your words, where-as in real-life people generally can judge you as a whole. I think everyone was tolerant about the fact that you are still young. People did show you courtesy and respect, you were young and so they gave you some slack, it's important that you show the same respect and tolerance back to them. People try to make you feel welcome, and you should do the same to them. I don't think what I saw justified a ban, but remember, I wasn't there when you were banned, if I read the logs I'd change my mind (because I doubt the ops would ever ban someone without solid reason first). I doubt anyone really hates you, and this isn't anything that serious (or is it? Nvm lol). And honestly, take it from me, some people online might hate you eventually, but its defiantly not something to take too seriously. I know there are actually hundreds of people I've run across online that hate me because of how I dealt with arguments, flames, people, etc. The key is not to get too emotionally attached to some of this stuff, because thats where you can really be hurt. Sincerely, sepht P.S. note this is my mailing-list account, [EMAIL PROTECTED] normal one is sepht23 P.P.S. Sorry but I felt since the plea was public and all those people got to voice their thoughts publicly, shouldn't I? (Oh and I wanted to finally send something to the mailing list) matthew g wrote: > > No NO I have no intentions do such a wikied thing > On 8/4/05, *Geek* <[EMAIL PROTECTED] <mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]>> wrote: > > now don't commit suicide or something ok ? > > ----- Original Message ----- > *From:* Christopher Rice <mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > *To:* matthew g <mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]> ; General Discusson > about Arch Linux <mailto:[email protected]> > *Sent:* Thursday, August 04, 2005 11:00 PM > *Subject:* Re: [arch] Do you guys like me? > > This is not proper to send to the arch list. Please save your > spam another place. > > Maveric-i686- > > > matthew g wrote: > >> Hello! >> I want to know if you guys like me? Would you guys like me to >> participate in active disscusion? Please tell me the truth. >> I'm very unsure of a lot of things. I know for a fact when I >> was at school not to many people liked me. I figure it >> because I'm a "Computer Geek" and I didn't like sports. So >> I'm very lost. >> >> So what do you guys thing about me? ----- Do you care if I >> never go back to the the forums and irc? Please tell me the >> truth and please dont LIE! >> >> ------------------------------------------------------------------------ >> >> _______________________________________________ >> arch mailing list >> >> [email protected] <mailto:[email protected]> >> http://www.archlinux.org/mailman/listinfo/arch > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > _______________________________________________ > arch mailing list > [email protected] <mailto:[email protected]> > http://www.archlinux.org/mailman/listinfo/arch > > > _______________________________________________ > arch mailing list > [email protected] <mailto:[email protected]> > http://www.archlinux.org/mailman/listinfo/arch > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > _______________________________________________ > arch mailing list > [email protected] > http://www.archlinux.org/mailman/listinfo/arch > > _______________________________________________ arch mailing list [email protected] http://www.archlinux.org/mailman/listinfo/arch
