>A commonly repeated name.>I knew a Leftist Leader from Kolkata wanting >separationof W.Bengal from India Probably not the same person, M'da. :) O' yes. As DD said, his writings make a lot of sense.
“In order to make spiritual progress you must be patient like a tree and humble like a blade of grass.” > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: [email protected]> Date: Fri, 16 May 2008 > 07:22:38 +0530> Subject: Re: [Assam] Aziz Ul-Haque> > > Which one?> A > commonly repeated name.> I knew a Leftist Leader from Kolkata wanting > separationof W.Bengal from India> Maybe list a few titles he wrote--or > Articles--where?> mm> Date: Thu, 15 May 2008 18:40:43 -0700> From: [EMAIL > PROTECTED]> To: [email protected]> Subject: [Assam] Aziz Ul-Haque> > Have > you been following this gentleman's writings? He seems to make a lot of > sense beyond religion. Any opinion?> Dilip Deka> > =================================================================> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > [input] Past WeekPast MonthPast 3 > MonthsPast 6 MonthsPast YearSince 2006 [input] [input] Guwahati, Thursday, > May 15, 2008 HomeClassifieds Backissues Weather Contact Us News • City • > State • North East • Sports • Business • Obituary Opinion • Editorial • > Letters • Jocoserious • Photos Features • Panorama • Mosaic • Horizon • > Sunday> Reading> > EDITORIAL > > ---------------------------------> Making > healthy family relationships> — Aziz-ul Haque1The UN General Assembly > resolved in 1993 that May 15 of every year would be observed as the > International Day of Families. This annual observance is to reflect the > importance of families as basic units of society as well as to focus concern > regarding their situation around the world. It also provides an opportunity > to promote awareness of issues relating to families and to promote > appropriate action. This day can become a powerful mobilising factor on > behalf of families in all countries which avail themselves of this > opportunity, and demonstrate support to family issues appropriate to each > society.> > The family is the basic and most ancient unit of human society. > A person’s life is greatly influenced by the family. The family plays the > most important role in transmission of culture from one generation to > another. It is an axiomatic and universally accepted concept that the family > is the nerve centre of all social activities. The essence of the family > group is the husband-wife and parents-children relationships whose outlines > vary widely among cultures. It is the basic structure of nations and no > country can rise higher than the families they establish. The family acts as > an educative unit in which children get their earliest instruction and > fundamental lessons in socialisation. A sense of responsibility among its > members in relation to one another is an important aspect of the family. The > integrative bonds in a family are blood ties and mutual affection. The > biological, emotional and economic needs are the foundation of a family. The > Indian family has been predominantly> a joint or extended family. However, > the joint family structure is undergoing change and transforming to smaller > units, comprising parents and children, called nuclear families, each > representing a single household.> > Healthy communities are built on strong > family relationships. Good family relationships are increasingly hard to > come by these days. Furthermore, pressures of society, socio-economic > problems, life-style demands or just the burden of every day living can be > overwhelming. Moreover, the influence of materialism and individualism, > culture change, effects of modernization, marital disruption and divorce, > broken family relationships, juvenile delinquency, and other similar factors > are increasingly evident in our society. These factors lead to domestic > violence, particularly against women, manifesting in broken homes, divorce, > molestation, wife-beating, torture, dowry, dowry death and female foeticide. > Approximately one quarter of the world’s women are violently abused in their > homes. One out of every four murders occurs within the family, and one of > every two of these is between the husband and wife. Even in the US, domestic > violence is the biggest cause of injury to women. In> India, according to > the National Crimes Report Bureau, > > 1, 50,000 crimes against women are > registered annually, out of which nearly 50,000 relate to domestic violence. > Much of such domestic violence goes unnoticed or is not reported due to fear > or shame, and atrocities against women continue unabated. Our patriarchal > system of male dominance is such that women are often treated as slaves for > maintenance of the family and they are expected to docilely accept any > violence. Therefore all of society needs to be sensitized to bring about an > awareness where men’s attitude towards women undergoes change and both men > and women are considered as having equal rights and privileges.> > The > eternal plan for the family begins with a commitment between husband and > wife, undergirded by absolute loyalty and fidelity to one another. The > husband pledges himself to the best interests of his wife, providing for her > needs and protecting her even to the point of death if necessary. The wife > also promises to honour her husband, devotes herself to him, and respects > his leadership in the family. Genuine love, concern and mutual understanding > between the husband and wife are important ingredients in maintaining the > marital relationship. The most intimate and precious human relationship is > the relationship of husband and wife. The marriage relationship is so > sacred; the relationship of husband and wife is so intimate, that marriage > ought to last until death alone breaks it. However, many times family > problems are directly or indirectly related to in-laws: the mother-in law > and daughter- in-law’s relationship is of particular relevance in this > context. The concerned> members of the family should be sensitive to this > area and maintain healthy relationship among the in-laws.> > Procreation is > the biological point of marriage and children are considered in all social > and religious traditions as blessings to the family. Indeed, they are the > most precious gifts to the parents. Investigations and surveys have shown > that homes without children are more likely to be broken by divorce than > homes with children. Children bring joy and happiness to homes. However, it > is also important to limit the number of children for making a small and > happy family.> > Sadly, in a shocking revelation, a government commissioned > survey has found that more than 53% of children in India are subjected to > physical and sexual abuse that takes place at home: parents and relatives > are mostly found to be perpetrators of this abuse. The most common error > made by parents in disciplining their children is the inappropriate use of > anger. Children are to be loved and they are to be taught how to honour > their parents and other members of the family. They need to be cared for and > disciplined and the parents should set a good example at home. Special care > for their health and education need to be given. Juvenile delinquency is a > major problem in our society. To a great extent it is due to lack of > parental care. Since the family is the central unit responsible for the > primary socialisation of children, governmental and social efforts to > preserve the integrity of the family should be pursued. Society has a > responsibility to assist the family in providing> care and protection and in > ensuring the physical and mental well-being of children.> > The family unit > is the backbone of the nation and the salt of civilization. It is the locus > where members of the family enjoy rest, privacy, a sense of security; and > learn to work, play, pray and plan together. It is the home in which the > members learn to regard one another as having equal rights where loyalty, > honesty and co-operation are practised and learn by each member of the > family team. It is an ideal home that radiates happiness, welcomes guests > and dispenses hospitality. Such an ideal home consists of loving parents, > obedient children and all others in the family governed by love and respect > for each other. Only then, as we say, “Home! Home! Sweet, sweet home; > There’s no place like home!” can become a reality in the family.> (The > writer is pastor of Guwahati Baptist Church)> > > _______________________________________________> assam mailing list> > [email protected]> http://assamnet.org/mailman/listinfo/assam_assamnet.org> > _________________________________________________________________> 2000 > Placements last year. Are You next ? 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