Re: socializing - any tips?
I am happy to say that at the ripe old age of 19 I have reached the place of cynicism that most older people reach. And I'll say this, I'm really sick of this support group rhetoric that attempts to hide all the truths about how having a disability effects someone socially. That is if you don't completely kiss ass. I'm all for making the best of circumstances, blah blah blah, don't project your insecurities onto others, I don't expect anyone to feel bad for me, but all of that euphemistic language really sets people up for disappointment when they do end up in social situations and wonder why people act weird around them. Which could lead them to do stupid shit for acceptance. Hey look at that!!!!
I'm not gonna say everyone is just an ignorant uneducated asshole that will never treat you like the others (at least to a rational degree), people act this way out of ignorance, whether purposefully or they just don't know how to make things less awkward for themselves. But the kind of person I am, I'm not the kind of person that's gonna go out of my way to rub people's backs so to speak, and make them less uncomfortable with me. I'm a goddamn human being, clearly I'm able to maintain myself and walk around campus, I can't be that odd, rite? But it usually takes a few encounters until that awkward shit is over with and you can start talking like regular people do. Some people never seem to relax, though. Which is whatever, life is fucking short and I'm not in high school anymore, would've could've should've, etc, fuck all that. What happens will happen. But I have way more online friends than offline friends, much to my mother's dismay. Add a hearing loss to that and that's yet another reason I really don't bother suckering up to anyone. And as far as "the broads" go, I ran into multiple chicks last semester that would chat me up (one even got me food when I had the fucking flu), and then when I give them my number, they'll either tell me about their s/o later, or in one instance one literally said "we can be friends" as she took down my number, and promptly never said anything to me again. Who the hell says "we can be friends" that isn't in kindergarten? So obviously I don't worry about relationships in the same way that other hopeless romantic types with an acoustic guitar do. They tend to look at the feelings more than what facilitates the feelings, and then wonder why they keep getting disappointed over and over. If I'm compatible with a girl on a personality and sexual level, let's just go from there, no pressure, no dumb shit, no showing out for people on social media for their approval. Older women are great.
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