Nick Arnett schreef: > > -----Original Message----- > > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]On > > Behalf Of Dan Minette > > [snip] > > > So, why am I cruel and elitist to suggest that others can make the same > > decision I did? I left my roots in the upper Midwest because it was the > > best way I knew to take care of my family. I was thrilled to be able to > > move from Houston to Madison CT. I still don't like living in Texas after > > all these years. So, when I say others can make the same tradeoff I did, > > how in the world can you consider it elitist? > > You clearly understand how painful it is, yet still call for others to do > it.
For many it is a matter of a simple cost benefit analysis. Moving costs money and effort. And sometimes when a family is involvedmoving simply isn't even a solution. I had my job in Brussels, while Jeroen stayed in Eindhoven. We both had full time jobs and only saw each other during week-ends filled with endless chores. It worked while it lasted but put a tremendous strain on our relation. Moving was not an option. Now the baby is here I couldn't even do something like that anymore. Alas for me, my skills aren't very much in demand around where we live. Commuting is impossible due to the traffic jam situation on the Dutch roads. So I'm left with these choices: 1) Leave my family during the week and have a well paid job elsewhere. 2) Ask Jeroen to quit his steady job and move to a place were I *might* get a job. 3) Ask Jeroen to quit his steady job and move to a place were I'm offered a temporary job. 3) Take a different type of job altogether but at a lower or no qualification and far less pay. (If anyone would have me that is... last I tried I was "overqualified", "to eager', etc.) 4) Stay home and be a good wife and mother. None of those look very attractive to me at the moment. But I would go for 3) if anybody would let me and the job offered is fun enough. Sonja [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sonja
