>For example, if I sneak up >behind someone and hit him in the head with a baseball bat, there is a >battery without assault.
I feel your anger. If this is not in reaction to my recent post on Brin-L, then you probably won't be interested in the next few sentences. If you're still interested, then pretend it was an angry reaction. I felt no anger from the girl, nor did I feel any anger at the anal penetration. She made the joke to enjoy herself and make a point about the act of anal sex. That I inadvertently, or someone inadvertently tied the act of anal penetration to what happened in Chiapas is perhaps appropriate, but not my intent. Or perhaps you knew that and are getting me to explain that if you feel anger after reading my post then there's something wrong. An effective complaint leaves no doubt in the mind of the complainer, the complainee and whoever else may have heard the complaint, being made aware of the situation by the complaint itself. Anything else is either misleading or incompetence on the part of the complainer, or a rather dishonest mistake on the part of the listener. Alas, not that many are competent complainers, and too many competent complainers and too many listeners of all degrees of ability are misleading themselves. Look to the competent as arbiters of truth. Hear what they say first if you doubt your own competence, or if you feel confident, speak your mind first.
