"John D. Giorgis" wrote:
>
> At 06:21 PM 11/8/2002 -0600 Julia Thompson wrote:
> >> >Given that sex is a vital part of a wedding night, I think most couples
> >> >will want >99.9% (rather than a mere 75%) chance of being able to have sex
> >> >on their wedding night... :-)
> >>
> >> Is it really all that significant when the couple have been sharing board
> >> and bed for the past year?
> >
> >But what about the cases in which they haven't? And would those be more
> >likely, statistically speaking, to want to use NFP rather than other
> >means of contraception anyway?
>
> You mean like, oh I don't know........ if the bride and groom are both
> practicing Catholics??? ;-)
Yeah, that'd be *one* scenario under which that would likely happen!
;) (Though not the only one.)
> And I will say that no, at least as far as I have been taught, sex on the
> wedding night is not necessarily important. For one thing, both the groom
> and especially the bride may be completely stressed out by the events of
> the day, and it may also be already getting pretty late. I've been told
> that it is not uncommon for the couple to wait until the morning of the
> next day to consummate their marriage, after spending the night chastely in
> each other's arms for the first time. And of course, if the couple is
> Catholic and practicing NFP with intent to avoid conception, they may
> choose to wait as much as a week before consummating their marriage - in
> the meantime they may be exploring a few of those steps of intimacy before
> intercourse that they had mutually decided to refrain from before marriage.
Plus which, you might want to do something characteristically silly,
like having Pizza Hut delivered to the honeymoon suite. (But that
doesn't preclude sex sometime later.)
> Oh, and there certainly are a great many Catholic couples, especially in
> this day and age of marrying in your late 20's or later, that are prefectly
> happy to role the dice of contraception on their wedding night.
Marrying after 30, I could see that. I don't think it's a good idea for
anyone younger than, say, 28 to roll those dice until they've had at
least a year or two to enjoy just being married to the other person.
(Says the woman whose firstborn was 5 weeks old on her 10th wedding
anniversary....)
Julia
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