Kevin Tarr wrote:
(There was a women who practically described herself as a goddess. Not earth goddess but model type beauty goddess. And she only wanted a man who would match her in looks and intelligence. Now this may be my own insecurities talking, but if you are 24 and look that good, you shouldn't need the internet to find a date.)Actually, the better looking you are, the more difficult it is to find an appropriate partner. She wants someone to match her *intelligence* (and of course interests, philosophy, etc) and that is tough to find if all people see is your outer beauty, triggering their own insecurities.
Then again, even if you're looking online (= blindly at first), you don't want to settle for someone who is less attractive than you are. And why should you? Everyone will try to maximize the attractiveness of their partner, it's our core reproductive nature.
So the potential dating pool for such people is very small indeed. If anything, pity her. She may never even have had a date in her life! People she meets think she is either already taken or out of their league, and those who are cocky enough to dare approach are usually the wrong kind of partner. Catch 22.
The few women that I have contacted first, I never got a reply from. Which is fine, but I made sure to reply to any messages I got, even to nicely say 'I'm flattered by the attention, but I'm not interested for this reason....'May be due to what you write them. Do you come on too strong? Tell too much about yourself? (I once got this huge bio of a man who claimed it was for sifting purposes. Not one word about my profile or why he had chosen me to write to. And really, you don't want to know every detail and insecurity about a person before you've even met them). Or maybe you say too little, nothing to spark their interest among the many messages they receive? Women can become jaded after a while, at first you reply to everyone and after 100 wildly inappropriate messages (a lot of men 'spam' the women, hoping to hit one who'll reply) you find you simply do not have the time not energy to even paste in a generic reply and press send.
The best way to get someone to like you/ notice you is to compliment them/ comment on their profile. Be interested in *them*, and assume they'll be interested in you anyway, as you're obviously a catch. A little confidence works wonders in the dating game. :)
Lastly for the popular site, it's funny the things that get messed up. For some reason I was matched with a women in Pakistan and another in California.Not a good site then. It should have a functioning search engine. Popular doesn't mean good!
For the non-popular site, it was specifically limited to a certain type of person. And none of them live near me, the closest being 200 miles away. Which I know isn't huge, but a little depressing. I think this dating service needs to get it's message out there. It was only by dumb luck that I found them.
Keep looking , there's bound to be many more.
Summary: so far the farthest I got was five e-mails. But I have not contacted many myself. It has been football season.
There you go. Your dreamgirl is watching the football as well! ;) Ticia ',:) ---------- [EMAIL PROTECTED] _______________________________________________ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
