----- Original Message ----- From: "Keith Henson" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: "Killer Bs Discussion" <[email protected]> Sent: Sunday, May 01, 2005 9:26 PM Subject: Re: Co-dependency
> At 03:35 PM 01/05/05 -0500, Dan Minette wrote: > > snip > > >I thought about this a while, and can't see the link. For example, how is > >a battered women who thinks the battering is her own fault, and that it > >would stop if she were just a decent wife self-righteous? This type of > >behavior is often associated with very low self esteem, which is not > >associated with self-righteousness. It's closer to buying into the > >abuser's world. > > Battered wife syndrome is closely related to Stockholm syndrome, more > descriptively capture-bonding. Capture-bonding lies behind a frat hazing > and military basic training among other things. It accounts for events > like Patty Hearst and Elizabeth Smart. > > http://human-nature.com/nibbs/02/cults.pdf > > During an awful lot of human history you died if you didn't have the > ability to bond to the people who had captured you and were abusing > you. That why it is so hard for women to leave abusive situations, there > capture bonding psychological mechanism has been activated. With all due respect, Keith, how familiar are you with the literature on abusers returning to their spouse? I understand why you want to explain everything in terms of evolutionary psychology, but I tend to be biased more towards experimental studies than broad theoretical statements. Dan M. _______________________________________________ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
