On Wed, Jan 02, 2013, JoLaine Jones-Pokorney wrote: > > I'm reminded of the time I was asked to call a gender-free dance where > where they were using "bands and bares." I spent a tremendous amount of > time practicing calling bands and bares and getting dances I felt > comfortable calling that way. IN the introductory workshop, I was passing > out bandanas for the bands and one man was asking his friend what I meant > by the "bands." She said to him - "She means the mens part." I thought > why did I just bother to learn bare and band when they're just thinking > women and men?
Because the people who feel uncomfortable with "ladies/gents" or "men/women" will be happier. That's basically what it boils down to, making this a more inclusive community. Of course, because we have a heteronormative and cisgendered society, there will be plenty of people uncomfortable when we're not using gendered terms, can't please everyone. -- Hugs and backrubs -- I break Rule 6 http://rule6.info/ I don't really mind a person having the last whine, but I do mind someone else having the last self-righteous whine.
